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Is it normal for a man to prefer to hangout with his friends instead of having sex?

If a man had plans to hang out with his friends, and then he got an offer to see a woman who he was seeing and have sex with her, is it normal to turn down the woman saying he is hanging out with his friends, even after offering to wait to see him just for a little after he’s done hanging out with his friends? Most men I that I personally know would not turn that down, but I’m not quite sure.

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  • I think it really depends on what's going on. There are certainly times when a guy might not leave his friends. It just depends on the situation.

    Stuff like, how often he sees these friends, how long you guys have been seeing each other and how often you get to. WHERE he was when he was hanging out with his friends. What he was doing etc etc.

    There's just too many different situations to be able to make a 'blanket statement' that guy would always (or even usually) leave to come see you. So no I wouldn't say it's a rule.

    Here's what it comes down to. You feel hurt/snubbed/offended. I can appreciate why you'd feel that way. I don't think you're crazy. But at the same time, try and keep in in perspective (which I don't know myself, since I have no idea how long you've been seeing him).

    If a guy did this to you once. It means nothing.

    It doesn't mean that he doesn't value you. It doesn't mean that he doesn't see you as a priority. It doesn't mean he doesn't love the sex with you. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you as much as you hoped. It really doesn't mean anything more than that this particular day, in this particular situation: he decided to hang out with his friends instead of you.

    Now, I do see why that might make you feel how you're feeling. But... that's your ego (which is fine, we all have one. not saying "big ego" just "ego"). But it's a matter of your pride being wounded. Feeling undervalued or not appreciated. Those you're feeling instinctually. Without thinking it through (as is usually the case with those feelings).

    But if you're able to take a step back, and try and look at this as objectively as possible (try and take your hurt ego out of the equation).

    What this objectively seems... is like it's an annoyance and an inconvenience (it fucks up your plans for the night).

    This does not mean what it FEELS like it means.

    You are taking this action to imply things about how he feels about you (which is understandable. That's just what people do. but it's detrimental to you in this case)

    In this case none of these implied things (that you feel undervalued, or not important etc) are ACTUALLY implied. Because it's one time.

    You're reacting as though this is a pattern. If this is something that keeps happening to you, then... yea... you got a problem. Because in that case it means exactly what you worry this single instance might mean. In other words, you're FEELING the same way you would if this guy kept doing this to you (undervalued etc). But that's not what's actually happening.

    It was one time, and so doesn't carry any meaning. Aside from one time he wanted to stay with his friends. That's acceptable occasionally. But it's not saying anything about you overall. He's not gonna stay with his friends if the same thing happens next week. (at least he better not)

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  • Okay 1 no one likes a friend who always bails and maybe he just doesn't want to be that guy even if he wants sex more.

    Also it really depends on how often I have sex. I'm in a relationship and probably average having sex at least 3-4 days a week. I see my friends like once every 2 months. So now I may prefer to miss a sex session ams catch up with the boys.

    When I was single and if I was in a dry spot and I had an opportunity then I'm taking it. But as I got older sex became easier to get, amd I saw my friends less. So priority change a bit

Most Helpful Girl

  • Don't bail on plans with friends for a spontaneous date. Potential partners will come and go but your friends are long term.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Not a man who has a brain

  • Isn’t that part of the whole “Bro code?”

    • I thought so too

    • Hahahaha... hell no it's not.

    • @spartan55 Then I’m confused. I always thought it was bros before hoes.

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  • It is understandable that he might have been set on visiting with his friends and just wasn't of the state of mind to "shift gears" and go on a romantic rendezvous at the moment.

  • I've reached the point in life where honestly I would trade sex for time with friends or time magnet fishing.

    Why? Because sex has become something done out of reluctance or a sense of duty. There's no life, no love, just a check list.

    Honestly it sucks and I wish I could change it

  • What can I say, sometimes some things are just better than sex and hanging out with the homies is one of them

  • No not at all.

  • It depends if he had what's called a post-nut clarity. What it means is that when a man has the hard choice between choosing between his friends and his girlfriend, he jerks off first and then decides. And 11/10 times he chooses his friends.

  • Well, here is an example of "Macho Man". Anytime I go to a get together, I set in the kitchen with the women... and the guys watch football, basketball, soccer, vollyball, golf, strong man competition, blah, blah blah.

    Ya know why...'we're men and we're not 'pussy whipped'

    Kinda of a typical male attitude in the 20's, 30's, and 40's.

  • Yes. Men need personal time to have a full life. A wet vagina does not change that.

  • So if offer of sex is involved previous plans should be altered? Normally I would assume keeping your word and sticking to the plans originally made are the correct choices.

  • I wouldn't cancel plans for a woman, but if she said when you are done come by and fuck me, not only would I be happy to, but she'd be a notch higher for dating seriously material.

  • Just depends on the specifics of the situation. In general, I would say that most men probably wouldn't turn down the woman, if the choice was between sex and a normal hangout.

    A lot of women over estimate how good sex feels for men though. Sex is nice for us; it feels good, but it's not a soul altering experience.

  • You have found a man with standards that is not mentally weak. You can absolutely not "pussy wip" a man like that. He knows what he is worth and won't bend over just to get some dip. BUT the more in love he is, and the more of a balanced woman he dates, the more he wants to hang out. And by balanced i mean that the woman he dates dont add issues and problems to his life but instead Inriches his life, adds to his life.

  • Some men make lousy lovers.

    • Lmao he planned that already! U both seem to be lousy planners.

  • Bea I have to say Mam that I have to say that I am a virgin and new to ever thing and I am very shy and very nervous and I have not even try masterbation in or anything like that i mean I would like to learn everything and talk about it and get help with it r hell I am very shy and very nervous to open up and to even talk about it

  • Not for me….. but I have seen some guys make that same decision. It just depends on the person.

  • Yeah i don’t understand it. I would choose sex every time to the point where I would be a crappy friend.

  • Only if the sex is really bad and/or comes with too many conditions.

  • bros before hoes... That just doesn't make any sense to me...

  • Nope

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