Is it normal for my boyfriend to watch porn every day?

[Xxstacy]

I’d ask him, but every time I even bring it up he gets mad. He tells me to drop it and leave it alone. He’s my first boyfriend of 3 years and I just found out like 5 months ago by trying to delete my search history from his computer so he wouldn’t find out what I was getting him for his birthday and I found all his porn I mean I was surprised and I just want to hear other people’s opinions on it just because I don’t really have anyone else to talk to. I am jealous about it just because he watches everyday and hardly ever gives me attention or affection and I do get mad and I don’t know if that’s normal or not. I just want to hear everyone out.

[Random_1]

You said "he hardly ever gives me attention or affection." Are you always waiting around for him to initiate things? A relationship is between two people, two people are responsible for the success of it. If you get all sexy on him, seduce him, initiate something, if he is like most men, he would much more prefer the real thing than porn. Men have all kinds of fantasies about that. But it can be boring if he always has to come to you, and especially if you sometimes, or often (!) turn him down.

Maybe he has always used porn, both before he met you, and continued to the whole time through your relationship. If so, it's not a threat to you and your relationship, it was there first! In some ways, porn can save a relationship because men like variety, and in s monogamous relationship they can't get it, or as much of it, but through porn they can, and it helps keep them from trying to find it in the real world.

So, my advice to you is, up your sexual activity. Come on to him more than you have been doing, change things up, try putting on sexy clothes or lingerie sometime, experiment with a sex toy, make sex with you more exciting and interesting. He may still use porn, but he won't need to or want to as often.

One other thought. If your sex life has dropped off, maybe you try and he is not interested, it could be due to him using porn too much. Or it could be due to emotional issues in the relationship, and the anger or resentment or hurt that he feels could make him not want to be intimate with you, so he goes and gets his needs met through porn. If this is the case, you two can get it fixed through couples counselling. A little bit can work wonders!

[boltgun]

a more conservative view would be that one should stops watching porn when in a relationship, coz if they use porn as stimulant it's fantasying on a certain lvl and that in turn is adultery in the mind so yea there we go. Like u wouldn't want ur boyfriend to think about other girls right, especially sexually. But I guess nowadays a lot of males are accustomed to porn so it can be hard to turn away from it, especially since they watch it so often they become insenstized it's like breathing to them.

[rachelrockstheblock]

Different people have different prefrences. When my husband and I first started dating, he was used to jacking off constantly. Like 8 times a day constantly. As such he had some issues transitioning back into sex. He had issues cumming and with his libido.

I would say if you think he's worth it, sit him down and calmly talk about it. Embrace it with him. Have him put on porn and give him a handy. Train him out of porn and into you.

[Nature1]

That's some kind and loving advice / help!

[rachelrockstheblock]

I do what I do

[menina]

Watching porn is normal, but not every day. It's clear that he is addicted to it and he's neglecting the relationship. He prefers porn over you.
Maybe you should tell him how you really feel. Or should break up with him.

[menina]

*you should

[Beautifulamazingguy]

I watch it everyday and it's very normal. Anal/vaginal sex is good

[aisha_sugarlips]

Try watching it with him.. Its fun

[izzyq]

Pretty normal. Means his sexual apitite is healthy.

[Red_Arrow]

It may be normal for HIM to watch it every day, but it is not normal for most guys to do that.

[QueenofCups]

You getting mad is totally normal.

[Hooplaa]

Every day? It's not as bad as some others I know but it might be a sign of porn addiction.

If it's concerning you then it's something you need to bring up with him to see if you guys can reach some sort of compromise

[alienturd]

Sure I watch porn and I have a girlfriend. It recompensates when I'm not with her to have intercorse.

[r4ngeF]

I've been in over 4 relationships that every one of them was more than 1.5 years..
And with all I had porn.. And my partners always watched porn as well.
Some things are not possible for a woman to create in sex. It is only possible for our hand to create that feeling.
Thats the sad truth: we know ourselves better than others would ever know us (logic, right?).
You will never control your boyfriend.
Furthermore, if you bring it up too much, expect a break up.
Porn is something you dont touch. The ones who are accustomed to it, will never sacrifice it, not for any price in the world.
Only those who watch porn will get this opinion..
And Im absolutely not sarcastic or mocking.
Its the holy grail of truths.

[Tristana92]

Nothing weird. Rookie mistake to not erase search history though. Or go incognito o_O

[cth96190]

Yes, it is normal.
Take note of what he watches. That is the type of sex that he wants.

[winterfox10]

That's super normal. Porn is just one of those things that guys just sort of do... Sometimes I'll just watch porn out of boredom. I won't even masturbate (I don't find porn very arousing). I'll just be eating some Frosted Flakes, watching some chick take a cock.

[kingofthellamas]

Totally fine

[Rtoup]

Yeah all guys do it. That's why no nut November was such a big deal guys do it all the time. If you don't want him watching other girls you could always send him nudes

[readywriter]

I think too much porn does reduce the amount of intimacy between partners. I'm sure of it.

[Blueboyy]

Whats the point of watching porn if your in a relationship with yo girl lol 😐

[Anon-ymous1]

It's pretty normal. Did he used to give you more attention? Is there something that changed? Have you gained weight at all? Do you live together?

[Flower-petal]

I don't think it's a big deal. It's not replacing you it's just a way to get off.

[Beautifulamazingguy]

same! when I have vaginal sex with my girlfriend I can't cum but once I watch it while I am in her vagina, I cum at that moment!

[rockrewls]

Cough!!

[Flower-petal]

@rockrewls sup 😁😘

[TheUglyMonk]

He suffers from porn addiction.

[Modu1234]

Es its normal all do

[loverboydec2001]

He shouldn't be watching porn if he is satisfied by you. You need to suck his dick day and night. And don't give him a chance to watch porn

[WhiteKnight2]

I always thought guys stopped watching porn when they got a girl friend. I'd be concerned with how he treats you. I don't think it's unusual that he hides the fact that he watches porn, what bothers me is his reaction. The fact he tell you to drop is seems disrespectful and suspicious.