Sure learned a lot after reading the posts! Thank you for asking the question.
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Thanks so much for leaving some feedback
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Yes, from experience from friends and others, I know this has been the case and think the way to be, and behaviour Is always sexual in hopes of being liked and loved.
As you say are really into fetishes and kinks
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FACTS
adamski24
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That's correct my friend❤
888theGreatMaster
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I doubt it
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Okay
888theGreat
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so you are saying she gets raped by family member, so she would want a guy she is dating to rape her? Like she is used to it.
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No that's not what I'm saying lol
andy530Guru
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Some survivors of childhood sexual abuse experience sexual side effects or syptomology that may or may not manifest in the form of kinks or fetishes. HOWEVER, this does not mean that all people with kinks or fetishes are survivors of abuse! Nor does it mean all survivors of abuse have ANY sexual symptoms or complications resulting from the abuse.
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Nailed it⭐ Thanks
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Thanks 😇
CharlieDMXExplorer
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I think so. It's very common and it's one way to avoid the trauma
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I didn't even think of it that way... As a means of avoidance... That's interesting
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It's very possible, however there are a few that do get help and don't end up with unusual fetishes
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FACTS! Thanks for the reply
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Also the ones who continue to be in abusive relationship s
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@askmewhy66 so true
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Not at all! Those abused either like sex or really love it no inbetweens
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This is helpful. Thanks for the speedy response
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Thanks it seems like a majority of the gals I've been with were total freaks. And abused in past.
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I meant either don't like sex
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Gotcha lol
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Becoming asexual from it does happen. But other things could come out of it like choking (breath play), flogged, bondage, degraded, degrading, blood play, brain rewires pain as pleasure... etc.
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Good points
MehzmehExplorer
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Oh yeah.
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Yeah I think so too unfortunately
Mehzmeh
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After it happened to my by my youngest daughters mother. I was no longer interested in sex. But, a lot of my female friends that it has happened to. Have had some crazy fetishes.
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That's crazyyyyyy
LazyManXper 6
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Yes.
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Ok..
slicwhenwetXper 4
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From what I've read the awnser is yes. It has something to do with the felt sensations at the time. So sometimes they try to recreate that feeling
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Interesting! Thanks for the speedy reply
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Ur welcome
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Yes it is normal maybe the victim don't know in Start or maybe they even don't recognise the thing they were afraid of now theh are enjoying it.
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Exactly! Nail on the head lol
PulseofsulfurXper 7
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It's like having a rape fetish. Why would a woman want to be raped by a stranger?
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Good point
RomeocuckXper 6
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yes it's a way to cope with the bad experience and turn it into something good
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OMG nail on the head. Like it's basically a way to take that power back... By making the incident normal
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I knew a lady who had a forced sex fetish she never had any history of sexual attacks as far as I know.
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Thanks for the insight! Super helpful
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It goes one way or the other. Either extreme kinks or an aversion to sex.
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Good point
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Exactly!
Anonymous
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Yes that why their are gays, and strippers and pornstsrs they all share that trait
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No dear. That's incorrect.
Opinion Owner
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I've yet to be proven wrong so
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Okay
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That's hard to answer, because the fact is, people who were never abused might also develop those kinks. And some who were abused would never develop those kinks.
So who is to say that someone wouldn't develop the same fetishes or kinks even if never abused?
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My thoughts exactly but I can't help but feel that it has an impact for some... Negative of course
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I think that, for some, the fetish they develop may be reminiscent of the abuse they suffered, and they react negatively to that. Which is sad and understandable, but still doesn't prove one developed because the other happened. My advice is, don't feel bad about your kinks. They're what gets you off, here and now, and they are things you want. Don't compare them to your past. If daddy was physically abusive to mommy when you were growing up, and now as an adult you like calling men "daddy," like it when they take charge, and like to be spanked, that doesn't mean you crave the abuse your mother experienced, nor does it mean you have fetishized what she went through. It just means that there is something you like, that you want to be a consensual part of.
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Love the way you broke this down. Thanks for taking the time to do that for me.
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of course, my pleasure
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💓💓💓
Anonymous
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I started masturbation on an early age because an older woman rubbed hers against mine. Ofc, as a child, I didn't know what was going on. The problem is, I liked it and got addicted to that feeling that I started rubbing myself. I struggled putting a stop on it and felt bad about myself especially since my elders are conservative.
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I don't know if it has got to do with what happened but I like being dominated.
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WOW! Thanks so much for sharing your story... Some of the things you mentioned I also struggle with... The constant masturbation and the fantasies of being completely dominated... It's crazy how that stuff messes with your head
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9 34Sure learned a lot after reading the posts!
Thank you for asking the question.
Thanks so much for leaving some feedback
Yes, from experience from friends and others, I know this has been the case and think the way to be, and behaviour Is always sexual in hopes of being liked and loved.
As you say are really into fetishes and kinks
FACTS
That's correct my friend❤
I doubt it
Okay
so you are saying she gets raped by family member, so she would want a guy she is dating to rape her? Like she is used to it.
No that's not what I'm saying lol
Some survivors of childhood sexual abuse experience sexual side effects or syptomology that may or may not manifest in the form of kinks or fetishes. HOWEVER, this does not mean that all people with kinks or fetishes are survivors of abuse! Nor does it mean all survivors of abuse have ANY sexual symptoms or complications resulting from the abuse.
Nailed it⭐ Thanks
Thanks 😇
I think so. It's very common and it's one way to avoid the trauma
I didn't even think of it that way... As a means of avoidance... That's interesting
It's very possible, however there are a few that do get help and don't end up with unusual fetishes
FACTS! Thanks for the reply
Also the ones who continue to be in abusive relationship s
@askmewhy66 so true
Not at all! Those abused either like sex or really love it no inbetweens
This is helpful. Thanks for the speedy response
Thanks it seems like a majority of the gals I've been with were total freaks. And abused in past.
I meant either don't like sex
Gotcha lol
Becoming asexual from it does happen. But other things could come out of it like choking (breath play), flogged, bondage, degraded, degrading, blood play, brain rewires pain as pleasure... etc.
Good points
Oh yeah.
Yeah I think so too unfortunately
After it happened to my by my youngest daughters mother. I was no longer interested in sex. But, a lot of my female friends that it has happened to. Have had some crazy fetishes.
That's crazyyyyyy
Yes.
Ok..
From what I've read the awnser is yes. It has something to do with the felt sensations at the time. So sometimes they try to recreate that feeling
Interesting! Thanks for the speedy reply
Ur welcome
Yes it is normal maybe the victim don't know in Start or maybe they even don't recognise the thing they were afraid of now theh are enjoying it.
Exactly! Nail on the head lol
It's like having a rape fetish. Why would a woman want to be raped by a stranger?
Good point
yes it's a way to cope with the bad experience and turn it into something good
OMG nail on the head. Like it's basically a way to take that power back... By making the incident normal
I knew a lady who had a forced sex fetish she never had any history of sexual attacks as far as I know.
Thanks for the insight! Super helpful
It goes one way or the other. Either extreme kinks or an aversion to sex.
Good point
Exactly!
Yes that why their are gays, and strippers and pornstsrs they all share that trait
No dear. That's incorrect.
I've yet to be proven wrong so
Okay
That's hard to answer, because the fact is, people who were never abused might also develop those kinks. And some who were abused would never develop those kinks.
So who is to say that someone wouldn't develop the same fetishes or kinks even if never abused?
My thoughts exactly but I can't help but feel that it has an impact for some... Negative of course
I think that, for some, the fetish they develop may be reminiscent of the abuse they suffered, and they react negatively to that. Which is sad and understandable, but still doesn't prove one developed because the other happened. My advice is, don't feel bad about your kinks. They're what gets you off, here and now, and they are things you want. Don't compare them to your past. If daddy was physically abusive to mommy when you were growing up, and now as an adult you like calling men "daddy," like it when they take charge, and like to be spanked, that doesn't mean you crave the abuse your mother experienced, nor does it mean you have fetishized what she went through. It just means that there is something you like, that you want to be a consensual part of.
Love the way you broke this down. Thanks for taking the time to do that for me.
of course, my pleasure
💓💓💓
I started masturbation on an early age because an older woman rubbed hers against mine. Ofc, as a child, I didn't know what was going on. The problem is, I liked it and got addicted to that feeling that I started rubbing myself. I struggled putting a stop on it and felt bad about myself especially since my elders are conservative.
I don't know if it has got to do with what happened but I like being dominated.
WOW! Thanks so much for sharing your story... Some of the things you mentioned I also struggle with... The constant masturbation and the fantasies of being completely dominated... It's crazy how that stuff messes with your head