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Is it normal that I dislike oral sex?

I'm a straight woman and I love giving oral , but I dislike very much to receive it, I just feel uncomfortable and self conscious, I've only had one partner in my life
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  • I would say it's unusual but far from unheard of. But I also suspect that your relative lack of experience is also a factor, as well as I think that if you were with a guy who was very enthusiastic about giving you oral and showed you how much he enjoyed it, that you'd get past your self-consciousness and would probably learn to love it. Perhaps not, but I've done many things with girls - including oral - where she wasn't originally comfortable with the idea, but after building trust with her and being enthusiastic, she was able to let go of her anxiety about it and just enjoy it, and nearly every time, she came to REALLY enjoy those things.

    Your partner's attitude is such a huge factor, as is the level of trust between the two of you - you really can't overstate how important those things are.

    Still, if you STILL don't like it after all that, that's OKAY. No one says you can't be a complete person if you don't like receiving oral (or whatever) - it's not like you HAVE to learn to like it. But imagine if you'd never had ice cream because you had some hang-up about it as a kid for some reason, and you went most of your life without ever tasting it before you finally did, and realized it was delicious, and that you'd missed so many opportunities of having ice cream. It would be a shame to have that kind of regret years from now.

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  • It is pretty normal especially if you have self esteem issues. Anytime someone is so worried about how they look or smell or any number of things it can cause them not to enjoy something. The best advice I can give is to talk with your partner and tell them how you feel. I was with a lady that would do anything to get me off but never desired a orgasm herself. I talked to her about it and she told me her mother and grandmother had told her it was not good for a women to enjoy sex. She told me she wanted to orgasm but she just had a mental block because of what her mom and told her. We took it slow and I encouraged her and would compliment her non-stop. Well fast forward, I finally got her comfortable enough while we were having sex that she was able to orgasm, now she wants multiple orgasms every time we have sex. The bottom line is yes it is normal but do yourself a favor and ask yourself why, if you truly do not like oral then that is OK but if there is something keeping you from liking it then address that issue.

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  • Of course that it is normal. Oral sex is not part of the standard sexual relations but have been "imposed" by the porn industry as something that should be part of a relation.

    People do not want to realize or notice that it is a major health risk because the sperm exits from the urethra which is a major source of bacteria that is not compatible with most of your other body entrances. Therefore it is a high STD/STI contamination and possibly life threatening.

    You only have one single health and one life and you have to weigh the pros and cons and whether you want to potentially jeopardize it so that a random guy can have 2 or 3 muscular contractions and spasms.

  • I’ve also only had one partner and I used to find oral sex uncomfortable (painful actually), but I’ve ditched my inhibitions, turning over a new leaf. We’ve discovered he just has to lick extremely lightly.
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    I would encourage you to work with your partner to find what you like and to also help you get more comfortable with it. Life is too short to miss out on life’s greatest pleasures.

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    • Of course. I wish you well. :)

    • why i'd agree to work it out. it would kill me if i couldn't give oral to my partner lol

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  • Definitely not abnormal. A friend of mine is the same way. It's honestly just a personal preference. Nothing wrong with it at all.

  • i feel the same exact things you feel about receiving it i don't like it either and would give oral sex very likely

  • No that’s not a problem

  • Although uncommon, it's not unheard of. In 40+ years, I've only encountered and handful of women who disliked it. On the other hand, I'm not a big fan of blow jobs. To each, his or her own.

  • Probably not the majority but certainly not abnormal. I felt the same way, until I was with Hubby for a while. Probably because I trust him so much and don't feel judged by him.

  • Do you feel that there is something weird or gross about your anatomy? Or "smelly?" Those are the usual reasons that I hear?

    • Well, the outer part is very puffy. I'm very clean but I still feel like if he goes down there he is going to dislike my smell

    • The only unpleasant odor I have ever encountered was when a woman had a yeast infection. Yes, you have a smell, but it is not strong, and it is a powerful aphrodisiac for most men. We really enjoy pleasing a woman orally because most of them have very strong orgasms, if you start moaning when you orgasm it will make us feel good as men, and you will be even more receptive to us when you allow us to enter you. Men don't understand why women love to give oral - but you DO! - and we are grateful for that. In the same way, you can't understand why a guy would love to give oral - but we DO! - and you should learn to enjoy it. Many women say oral gives them their strongest orgasms.

  • It's uncommon, but not abnormal. I'm a straight male and I hate receiving oral (maybe every single woman in my life has just horrible at giving BJ's, but I doubt it) and I especially don't like giving oral, although since I have a small penis, I've not only had to do it before (in lieu of intercourse), but have gotten rave reviews and compliments for my oral skills. I just communicate and listen to them. But it still doesn't mean I enjoy it. I'm just willing to bite the bullet and endure the smell and sandpaper-like texture of her snatch to please a woman.

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  • You probably feel uncomfortable because you are self conscious. There really is no reason to be self conscious. Each gal is different but just as good as the next. No reason for you to feel anything other than proud to have what he likes. And a lot of guys really love giving oral. You are cheating him out of some pleasure if you do not let him and it may hurt the relationship. Try to get over it.

  • its very abnormal, most girls love getting oral, you just lay, relax and it just feels good, maybe youve never got a good eating and you have bad opinion of it?
    as for your self conscious feeling, you shouldn't feel embarrassed, as long as you look normal, every guy will find yours attractive

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  • What you like & what others like are going to vary. Whatever you're most comfortable with is all you should be concerned about. I like things that other girls probably dont like & vice versa. Dont do anything you dislike during sex, you should be enjoying every minute of it.

  • So if the guy said you smelled awesome down there and begged for a taste you would still say no? And if the guy reassured you by telling you how delicious it tasted would that make you feel more comfortable? And if he told you not to worry about drenching his face because he likes that would that also make you less self conscious?

  • It is probably disappointing to the guy. I'm sure some will be relieved that they won't be expected to go there but I'd bet most will be disappointed you have no interest in something they really want.

  • There is no one universal sex act that everyone enjoys. Disliking any part of sex is normal because we all have different likes and dislikes

  • There is no normal. Everyone is different. Tell your partner what you do like. Communication is key.

  • Probably the guy is do bad on it that you ended up not liking it might not be your fault

  • Not normal. Time to get over yourself. Did he try the 'come hither'? That's usually an instant orgasm.

    For some women, their clit is way too sensitive. And if you get a guy that doesn't know what he's doing, or can't read you, it can be excruciating.

  • I fucked a girl like this, and it threw me off. Cause I have been accustomed to doing oral sex as part of foreplay

  • I've found that more than half my partners don't enjoy it... or didn't rather because they felt self conscious about it.

    Once they got over that mental block they ended up enjoying it.

  • You're not the first person to say this

  • In my experience, every woman loves to climax at least once per session. You, I'm going to assume, haven't gotten past having someone's face down by your pussy. The right person would make you forget everything except the experience of multiple orgasms.

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