Is it offensive to tell a man “Let’s get this over with” before having sex?

Would a man be offended if a woman tells him “Lets get this over with” before they have sex? There’s mutual attraction and there’s feelings involved but the lady is afraid to get hurt if she lets him know her true feelings. Would his feelings be hurt?
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  • Of course.

    Imagine you spend the afternoon cooking him a nice, elaborate meal, and you served him a plate and he said "let's get this over with" as he began to eat.

    Or imagine you had some kind of a performance you were doing that you'd worked hard on, and he came to see it but said "let's get this over with." How would you feel?

Most Helpful Guy

  • I wouldn't recommend saying that unless it was done in a joking and playful way. If you're not sure of his feelings try asking where he sees the relationship going. Does he see you as being a friend forever or does he think it could be more than that.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Flip the script-- how would you feel?

    It would be a turn-off for most people because it sounds like you're making it a chore.

  • In my experience... that generally get's him out of his pants before I finish saying it.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • What do you get over with before having sex?

  • Yes.

  • If a woman said that to me, I would suddenly feel like a piece of meat.
    Yeah, I would feel hurt if she was someone I was interested in or was in a relationship with.
    Hopefully, I am really horny and keep my hard on.

  • That comes off as disinterested and like a hassle when phrased that way. Mood killer because it is supposed to be fun and pleasurable, not annoying or like a chore.

    You want to kill a guy's boner, congratulations, you did just that.

  • Yeah, how would you feel if your boy friend looked at you and said "Lets get this over with" if you wanted to have sex with him.

  • Very

  • Depends what tone your using

  • Yeah and no

    • He'll probably not want to have sex with you but you're being honest so🤷🏻‍♀️

  • I find it a turn off. Dosen't really say the she is into it but that she's going through the motions or feels obliged.

  • Just do it and enjoy time without sexual tension

  • Yes, of course that's offensive. You're making the guy feel like having sex with him is a chore.

  • i would get dressed and leave. likely never talking to her again.

  • Congratulations... that is the worst, bullshit rationalization I've heard all week. You win. If you said that to me, I'd grab any stuff I had in your apt and be out the door so fast it would make your head spin. If it were my apt, you'd be out the door.

  • I like asking “what are you doing back there?” And “tell me when you’re in” along with “be sure to wake me when you’re done.” Guys find that hawt AF

  • I’d be very turned off.

  • Yeah. And i'd immediately want to leave.

  • I'd stop altogether. If She's not enjoying it, we're not having it!

  • Offensive might not be the right word but it just sounds rude.

  • Probably wouldn't want to have sex anymore

  • That would kill the mood for me

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