Is it offensive to tell a man “Let’s get this over with” before having sex?

Question

Would a man be offended if a woman tells him “Lets get this over with” before they have sex? There’s mutual attraction and there’s feelings involved but the lady is afraid to get hurt if she lets him know her true feelings. Would his feelings be hurt?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Of course.

Imagine you spend the afternoon cooking him a nice, elaborate meal, and you served him a plate and he said "let's get this over with" as he began to eat.

Or imagine you had some kind of a performance you were doing that you'd worked hard on, and he came to see it but said "let's get this over with." How would you feel?

bowenw · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't recommend saying that unless it was done in a joking and playful way. If you're not sure of his feelings try asking where he sees the relationship going. Does he see you as being a friend forever or does he think it could be more than that.

KingdomForAKiss · Accepted Answer

Flip the script-- how would you feel? It would be a turn-off for most people because it sounds like you're making it a chore.

RaveWorthy · Accepted Answer

In my experience... that generally get's him out of his pants before I finish saying it.

Red_Arrow · Answer

What do you get over with before having sex?

Cherokeehp · Answer

Yes.

AndyOh · Answer

If a woman said that to me, I would suddenly feel like a piece of meat.
Yeah, I would feel hurt if she was someone I was interested in or was in a relationship with.
Hopefully, I am really horny and keep my hard on.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

That comes off as disinterested and like a hassle when phrased that way. Mood killer because it is supposed to be fun and pleasurable, not annoying or like a chore.

You want to kill a guy's boner, congratulations, you did just that.

The_Inquisitor · Answer

Yeah, how would you feel if your boy friend looked at you and said "Lets get this over with" if you wanted to have sex with him.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Very

angeliquedevereux2 · Answer

Depends what tone your using

LastQueenOfScotland · Answer

Yeah and no

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I find it a turn off. Dosen't really say the she is into it but that she's going through the motions or feels obliged.

Givemore · Answer

Just do it and enjoy time without sexual tension

winterfox10 · Answer

Yes, of course that's offensive. You're making the guy feel like having sex with him is a chore.

magiusX26 · Answer

i would get dressed and leave. likely never talking to her again.

Prettysammie · Answer

I like asking “what are you doing back there?” And “tell me when you’re in” along with “be sure to wake me when you’re done.” Guys find that hawt AF

loveslongnails · Answer

Congratulations... that is the worst, bullshit rationalization I've heard all week. You win. If you said that to me, I'd grab any stuff I had in your apt and be out the door so fast it would make your head spin. If it were my apt, you'd be out the door.