Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it ok not to have sex with my husband any more?
Anonymous
I love my husband very much, we’ve been married 3 year now but I’m not attracted to him any more and I dislike having sex with him, we have had so many arguments about this where he tries to guilt me into giving him sex and I have even told him that if he wants to have sex with another person I am totally ok with that. But he refuses and says that I should want to. I’m just confused because I know I don’t want to have sex with him any more and if I have to choose then I will leave but I don’t want to leave him, i love him. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to open the relationship up to him having another woman and still enjoy everything good in our relationship, I know he loves me too. Did I make a mistake and I shouldn’t have married him and now this is my punishment feeling confused and guilty?
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What Girls & Guys Said
17 70So maybe you should get a divorce or become swingers.
yes your a mess... you shouldn't have lied to the guys and married him in the1st place...
That's guilt tripping him to do something bad so you can. Hide your cheating ways. No woman that loves her man would be ok with him doing other woman unless she was doing someone else. Period. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Get a chastity belt so he knows he won't get that.
Which country you born / live in? I am trying to understand what culture you consider your self belongs to or identify with? Let's say you are in US. If he dies sex without your permission it would considered as a rape. I don't know how to interpret the situation. You don't want it. He want's it. You are ok with him sleeping with other woman but you are not ok with him sleeping with other woman. My answer would be as confusing as your question. It's ok to not have sex bcoz you don't want it. And it's not ok to not have sex bcoz he wants sex and he wants with you. You two seems to have grown apart for whatever reason. Sex therapy or regular therapy can help. This is probably called conflict of interest. Which is mostly not good.
Thanks Andres for like!
he does sex*
no, it's not
Is it you don't want sex with him or sex altogether
well suck him off, give him hand jobs etc, keep him happy
She's not at all concerned with his happiness.
@KrakenAttackin Yep, she doesn't give a shit.
Nope
Wow its is odd dear
why don't you want to have sex with him anymore?
What do you want exackly?
I don’t know
Threesome or what?
If you believe in it depending on your religious beliefs sex is a major part of marriage and it keeps the marriage intact by spiritual communication and physical communication of things that cannot be necessarily said out of the mouth you should try to see if you can get back into with him and have sex with him as much as you can stand and as much as he can perform
Three years and you already don’t want to have sex? that’s really odd and I don’t see this marriage lasting unless he does find someone else for the sex part but then his feelings will change for you too
you and him need a marriage counselor or a divorce. what is it about him that you aren't attracted to anymore?
DON'T get divorced. You're lucky to have such a LOYAL MAN.
Love without sex is also good. Love is spiritual but sex is superficial and physical.
Ignore shallow people's response, they all are driven by LUST. I hate the fact that people only make partners for sex. That's not true love at all, It's only to satisfy their physical needs.
Our partner is our soulmate and treasure. It's not compulsory to make them a sex toy.
If you make each other happy, that's what matters. I admire sexless couples, because it shows that they TRULY love each other without having any sort of agenda and greediness.
Yes it's totally okay to have sexless marriage. You marry because you love each other, not because you can f**k each other.
Sounds like you both need a divorce.
This what happens to a lot of women, they just get a man to marry her by offering a lot of sex and after when she gets it all, she stops giving it an wants just be 'married friends'.
Men can do everything without women, except sex. So what is the point of him staying with you, when he can get other woman and have it all?
Thats very problematic ur denying him something very critical that's abuse.
What is it that you don't like about sex? Do you have a physical condition which it impossible? Don't make him resort to another woman; find some way to satisfy him.