Let's put aside the ethics of lying for a minute.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life lying to your partner? Imagine all the hoops you would have to jump through to keep it under wraps indefinitely. What if one of your friends knows about your sexual history and lets it slip without knowing? What if you run into one of your exes in a grocery store? What if you just forget one day and let it slip yourself? How are you going to make sure to keep your story consistent?
And also, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who wouldn't want to be with you if they knew the truth about you?
I just don't see why you would go through all of that effort to lie to a guy who wants his partner to be virgin, when there are plenty of guys who don't care. Just find one of them.
Being yourself and telling the truth is the best filter for compatibility. If you lie, you're only doing yourself a disservice.
Omg lol it’s funny how I’m not evening gonna actually do it but people be commenting paragraphs pressed lol
Then why did you ask?
Well nah I mean I was just curious cuz I considered it
Really not sure why would you want to be with someone who didn't want to be with who you really are.
Im 41 and its been quite some time since i was a virgin so its not a consideration for me, the fact of the matter is that pretty much anyone i am likely to be with wouldn't be, but it doesn't have to be an issue in anycase. There are always a lot of variables, we are all different and we all have a wide range of qualities and interests etc.
I would suggest that you concern yourself more with things that actually matter, like having compatible religious and political views, life goals like children and pets etc.
It just doesn't really make any sense to make a big deal about virginity unless you are strictly religious and intend to only share yourself with one person within the confines of marriage.
The answer is no. It is never ok to lie unless your life depends on it, but in this situation you clearly have a choice. I know how stupid it is for some guys to want and expect their girls to be virgins when he is not a virgin himself. Those guys are idiots. A real guy who knows how to love and understand would be able to understand. Not being a virgin isn't a sin, you know? You don't have to be embarrassed about it. I guess it's easier to lie, but it will not do any good to you. So don't lie. I am sure the right person will understand and those who aren't right for you will never understand.
Listen, I don't know what guys you are running into, but if they're internet men, I wouldn't use them as prime examples of what men prefer. OF COURSE, maybe society is different where you are.
I don't have it in me to base any relationship on a lie, to a point that I have lost friends, boyfriends and family members from being TOO HONEST... so, I will be lame and say no. But, you're an adult woman, do you, just accept what comes with it.
Yea I’m not gon do it
I didn't honestly think you were going to tbh, but I get why the idea came to mind.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!This must be "Ask a Virgin question" week or something. Virgins seem to be the Hot Topic this week. I guess it goes hand in hand with the body count questions, and those are getting boring.
Here's the real question: why would you want to be with a guy who judges you for something as petty as not being a virgin?
If that's something that a guy is going to get upset about, he's not someone that deserves to be with you.
Aw ur right. Lol I’m actually not gonna do it I was just thinking about it. It’s ok I’m going to commit suicide (not because of this lol) so I don’t gotta worry about future partners
Ok, well, please do not do that. Committing suicide is never the answer. If you need to talk about something you can pm me. But please, please don't kill yourself.
Attention whore alert attention whore alert.
Great. You want to build a relationship with someone and it begins with a lie. When he discovers your lie, he will be bitterly angry with you. . . not because you weren't a virgin, but because you lied.
If the guys you meet refuse to date anyone who is not a virgin, then you need to change your strategy for meeting guys.
Help me change my strategy for meeting guys 😭 I need help lol
DM me and we can start talking about it.
It's a small minority of guys that want virgins because most voluntary virgins aren't sexually frustrated so it will take a lot of time and effort to convince them to have sex. Most guys want experienced and confident girls who are a little bit easy
Yeah they want experienced girls for sex and dating but not for marriage at least I’ve been told.. :(
If they're virgins themself, it's justified to want another virgin. If all guys waited for a virgin wife, they would end up alone since it's a really small minority As long as you're not promiscuous and have a body count less than 5 and didn't do it with strangers, there's no reason for you to lie. If a guy rejects you even after that, he's a shallow little bitch who you don't wanna end up with
Hopefully it's never something that would ever come up. If the dude asks if you're a virgin at the start of a relationship it's a sign to be wary and maybe walk away.
True thanks!
Most guys dont want a virgin. Most virgins become clingy to the first person they fuck.
Using the phrase "body count" would rule you out for me to date. It's an incredibly distasteful and disrespectful way to refer to former sexual partners.
It does not matter what you say. That's not what tells a man what you're about. it's your vibe, the words that you use, and how you act. Lies are easy to spot.
Although it can be a dumb thing to obsess about, it's really not okay. Whether it be to create a relationship or for sex, it's not okay. On the first hand, you built a relationship on a lie. On the second hand, it's arguably assault/rape.
How is that assualt? Lying to someone does not mean u rape them.
People lie about things all the time doesn’t mean the whole relationships a lie
The relationship is built on a lie tho so yea. Like that's a relationship doomed to failed because you're actively lying about something you know would be a dealbreaker. If it were every found it, the violation of trust would end that relationship, unless the person didn't care in the first place. And even in that scenario, the fact that you lied about something like that might make them believe you've lied about other things/are untrustworthy, which is going to lead to problems. Lying is manipulation. Manipulating someone to get sex is just bad. Like you'd be saying that knowing they wouldn't be with you otherwise, morally bad, I think a legal gray area tho.
I was going to say no until you said that you don't even care anymore.
If you don't value our opinion then why are you even asking this?
Haha I like reading the responses
Fair enough.
I mean I’m a born again virgin. So I’m not lying 😂
Sure
well if you are loose, you aren't gonna fool anyone 😂
I’ve had a few partners every single one of them have told me genuinely I’m rlly tight. And lol u gotta educate yourself. Having sex does not make a women loose.
i was joking, no need to insult salty pants but lying about your body count makes you low
Lol I ain’t actually gonna do it I was just thinking about it. Anyways for now on I’m only dating people who don’t ask me that (no ones rlly have in the past unless I ask the question first and I ain’t doing that no more lol)
that is your choice, but if someone got to know the truth, it would be really bad
If you want
Thanks
Not worth the fuss personally
No way
Would u date a non virgin?
There’s hardly any virgins out there what choice do I have?
Of course it isn't. No, not all men have a high body count and not all men are hypocrites. Be honest. Don't start a relationshiop with a lie.
A real man doesn't care about your body count. They only care about being with you and giving you the love and support that you need. I've been with many women and I never asked how many men they have been with. A relationship begins with trust. Neither partner should ever lie to the other person. Just be honest with yourself and your partner.
Never lie about these things. I want a virgin, sure, but I would not turn a girl down because of a bc of 2, that's not really indicative of a personality problem to me, she could have very well learned her lesson and be on the right path by now. Generally speaking though the higher the bc, the less chance of an ltr working out.
I'd much rather a girl with a bc of 2 being honest than a girl with a bc of one lying to me
Lol I’m not gonna actually do it
It's best not to lie.
Would you want someone to lie to you about it?
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