Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I just find it really disrespectful for a guy to look at porn when we're in a relationship. I'm not a prude, I just really hate porn, I find disgusting. There is no love in porn and love is what makes sex good.
We always make excuses for men because of biology but I really don't see it. Men don't have to rape women when they see the a leg exposed, they do have control. I really don't think men have to look at porn, it's just a choice.
Maybe I expect too much in return for my unconditional loyalty.
Is it really too much to expect a guy not to look at porn while in a relationship with you?
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*his needs
May I ask what it is about your guy viewing porn that you object to?
Make it so that he doesn't need porn if that's such a big deal. If you're making love and his tank is empty, it's likely he won't Jack off to porn unless he has a problem.
I'm probably going to get hate but I honestly don't think it's a big deal nd I feel like it is a lot to ask for especially because chances are he's been watching it way before you two even got together.
1. R*pe is 90% violence (10% is using sex as a tool to inflict damage). It is a combination of inherent violent tendencies mixed with sexual frustration. If it were biology, then nearly every man would be doing it.
2. Masturbating and watching porn is solely for himself. You have no part in it. It shouldn't matter whether you like it or not because it is his time. It's just like him restricting you to go out clubbing with your friends while wearing sexy dresses: i believe your response would be "i am dressing like this for myself, not for others to stare me". What attention is to you IS sex for men.
3. Loyality is always appreciated by the person who realises the value of loyalty. However, a sense of personal freedom must exist in any relationship. Otherwise, there will be resentment
Makes sense?
You can't expect perfection. That's impossible. However I personally don't see porn as beneficial to a relationship and therefore work to actively avoid it. But I'm imperfect, this means that if I cannot permantly push it out of my life and I want to for my own reasons I don't think you'd be able to get him to do it either. Though you could ask him to work one it, just he prepared to give a tad on your end as well as I'm sure you do things he doesn't like either.
I’m with you all the way. It’s like damn let me be your fantasy. Why look at that? When you can have me! It is disrespectful. I know I love to make my significant other feel like he’s the most desirable, attractive man ever. So I expect the same. But they really put it out there easy access. And they just choose to look at that nasty crap -.-
I disagree that it's disrespectful. Both my man and I watch it together sometimes. You can learn a lot from it. It doesn't change the love that is there with either of us. The other thing is that guys are wired different than us. Unless you're willing to make love to your partner everyday, Maybe even a few times per day then it's hard to ask them to never look at it. You may think he could just use his imagination when jacking off but they are visual. They visually need to see something turning them on. It's ok to ask him not to do it around you but I think you are not being understanding to ask them to never look at it. I agree with these guys that say he'll probably just hide it. Then that's when it becomes disrespectful. There has to be a compromise unless by some rare chance you fall in love with a guy that doesn't watch it.
Well I know that one of my guy friends watches it to keep himself in check. He'd rather choose porn than some random girl that's not his girlfriend. They just have an itch they want to scratch. I don't think you're expecting too much, I think you're just misunderstanding/forgetting how horny some guys really are.
"I'm not a prude, I just really hate porn, I find disgusting."
Is that the prude version of "I'm not a racist, I just don't think whites and blacks should live together and marry and have kids" ?
You obviously don't understand what a prude is. I love sex, I'm sexy. I hate porn.
It’s a normal behavior for both men and women to look at porn. And porn isn’t cheating. It’s not as if he is trading nudes with someone too. I personally don’t care if some guy I date watches porn because I’m not insecure , it’s cool with me if he thinks they are hot because at the end of the day he isn’t going to meet or sleep with pornstars.
And comparing rape to watching porn... wtf girl... one action is morally neutral while the other is horrendous... Yikes
can't believe someone is actually getting those two mixed up
I don't think it's anymore disrespectful to watch porn as it would be for a woman to fantasize about Chris Hemsworth. Yeah, there's no love in porn, but people aren't typically worried about love when they have a craving to jack off.
Seriously, women are too emotional about this shit. Yes, he can still love you and like fucking you while using porn to jack off meaninglessly. Next thing you know, women will want men to stop finding other women attractive or having fantasies...
Wait... a lot of girls on G@G expect that already.
This is some insecure bullshit.
How is that unconditional? yes you are overjealous about 'adult movies', and most men would not be willing to give up on porn, and many of those who say that they do are lying. Also if you one of the girls who have "headaches" all the time, you should be glad that he watch porn instead of cheating. :)
Porn is cheating. I was always available. To be honest, men like you are why I will likely be single from now on. It's not all about you you you you and your stupid penis!
Stupid penis you say, so why don't you go for girls instead? watching movie is no cheating, you just overjealous, get over it girl, also you not satisfy your man enough anyway.
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I dumped him, he cried. No more sex for him. The truth hurts huh?
He would could easily find a girl who is both better in bed and not overjealous.
No one can be available 24/7 he could be home alone horny while your at work. So while your not available he has porn to temporarily satisfy himself until your free
I have the feeling that she barely satisfy him even when she was at home.
Or possibly doesn't do all the things he wants to do so porn is an alternative
You have no idea what I'm like in bed but I already know women don't like you. You reek of sleazeball.
Lol "single" I was right... have fun with those sex robots for the rest of your life.
Some one's stalking my page 🙄 that post was like a year ago lol
You wish. I was talking about Berethor I didn't even visit his page, just hovered over his name.
That's a conversation to be had between you and your partner.
Pornography is an addiction, no one wants to admit it, everyone wants to say it's completely harmless and "natural" which can't even fit within the context of electronic imagery. Every dude I've met is far too proud to admit how much a hold it has over their minds, I've slowly become jaded to just how messed up it is that no one can take a moment to think and realize just how very unnatural it really is.
So I guess yes, because unless you find a guy that's humble enough to notice how important something that's not is to them, then they're all the same, and good luck even trying to talk with them, it's to close to their hearts.
Porn itself is not an addiction. It's only an addiction if you watch it too much. But the same can be said about real life sex. If you NEED sex on a daily or weekly basis, you're addicted. No different than the porn watcher.
Have you met a guy that doesn't include it in his daily routine? All the same I guess you're right, addiction is usually defined as a habit that negatively impacts your life, so if a person is taking cocaine on the daily, even if it has a unnecessary sway over how they think/spend their time, it's still not an addiction if it's not causing any problems so I guess me calling it an addiction is wrong, but my definition of addiction is different than most people's.
This!! You sound very smart, thank you so much! I do find it's just like an addiction. People did survive without porn before, it's not needed.
There are plenty of guys who don't include it in their daily routine. Some only watch it like once a month.
At that level I don't think even I couldn't call it an addiction, maybe I'm just meeting all the wrong people.
It's the majority of people who are addicted to it, so you're bound to meet the wrong people. Not your fault at all.
If my boyfriend isn’t satisfied with just me then I don’t want him
If he's not satisfied with you, you're doing it wrong.
literally post the most beta thing ever, while talking down about betas.
An alpha doesn’t watch porn.. he has sex
Not when you can get sucked off while watching porn.
That's a hard one because as a woman I watch a lot of porn and I wouldn't want a man telling me I couldn't watch it
How much do you watch prom if I may ask
Porn*
@ChefZam oh all the time
Like daily?
@ChefZam yes
Yes it is too much. Love might make sex good for women, but it's not the same for men. You/Women find porn disgusting, not men for the most part. It's for us, not for you.
We make excuses for women being overly emotional and all other crazy behaviour because BIOLOGY, so why not mens sexuality? Just because you don't understand it? You will never understand so stop trying to CONTROL your mans body.
You need to try and sympathize with the male perspective a bit more. Even though I know most women have trouble with this. If you want men to do the same. What if he told you you can't use a vibrator anymore cause it's not his dick?
It's called fantasy and variety. Men watch porn for just that... he is not out in bars and clubs trying to cheat on you. Humans will always want variety... men watch porn to scratch that itch. Women who can't stand men that do that are usually insecure. in my opinion. Would you rather have a guy who goes behind your back and visits strips clubs and massage parlors and watches porn in secret? That is disgusting in my opinion... embrace his fantasies and enjoy some porn with the guy.
I find it disrespectful also
You feel disrespect because he's rather watch images or a magazine and fap his penis rather than not have this option and stick his penis in another woman?
Are you saying if I am in a relationship with a man and I do not allow him to watch porn he will than cheat on me? Because if so than you are very wrong that does not drive a man to cheat! I do not watch poor so I wouldn't like my partner to enjoy watching it not all men watch porn you do know that rite?