Is it true that men get very angry and resentful if denied sex from their partners over a period of time?

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dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

It depends on the reason.

And, it also depends on how their partner feels.

For example, here’s when I think it would be perfectly acceptable:

The woman wants to be his first, but she’s waiting until marriage—she really wants to, but she’s being chaste for religious reasons.

Or, she truly would like to, but she’s ill and not feeling well. But as soon as she’s better, she’d like to.

Now, here’s an example of how it can turn into resentment:

She is withholding sex, as a means to manipulate and control her man, to try to get him to bend to her will by “punishing” him by withholding sex when he doesn’t do what she wants. (It’s one thing to not be in the mood, it’s another to weaponized sex.) No man with an ounce of self-respect will tolerate this. It will absolutely evaporate any desire he has for her.

Or, she is actually not attracted to her man and is only with him for convenience and practicality, ensuring her needs are met, but ignoring the needs of her man. This would make a guy feel used and unloved.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

There are a lot of men who start acting like a big freaking baby they think that it's owed to them they think they own that girl and after begging they get pissed off and angry and a big fight starts instead of thinking about her and the reason why she doesn't want to have it they cry want to argue you want to fight and it's just not worth it the guy knew this going into the relationship and he knew I was going to be and he should have just stopped the relationship right there and if that's what he bases his relationship on but yeah guys are big baby sometimes and they have to remember they don't own that girl and the girl does not owe them anything

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

Yes! My husband used to do it to me, one of the main reasons I left him! Men have feelings too and being rejected hurts.. I never ever rejected my partner for sex... so to be denied starts to piss the other person off...

Poppymarie · Accepted Answer

Who wouldn’t be upset about that? Being consistently rejected would hurt anyone over time.

Katie1964 · Answer

Yes, unless it has to do with physically being ill.

ratking63 · Answer

Not every man. Personally I don't hold sex to a high regard in relationships, I care more about the emotional connection.

inhua · Answer

if she's doing it because she's ill, then it's understandable if she's doing it on purpose while showing sexual interest in other men, then yes he has a right to be upset

Berethor · Answer

I'm a man; I can't help it trope, yea it can make a man angry, also it can push him to cheat.

Billlewis · Answer

No, not at all, ever. In fact, the first thing I do when I meet a woman is tell her that she'll receive the maximum amount of pleasure and monetary gains by keeping me sexually aroused and frustrated beyond comprehension! The only sexual access I'm permitted to have is performing anilingus for her regularly (typically five to twelve times a week), pampering and maintaining her feet, toes and soles, and occasionally providing 'after date cleanup service' for her, after the luckiest guy in the world (her boyfriend) has just concluded a spirited lovemaking session, culminating in his incredibly powerful release, deep inside her pussy.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

"A period of time" could be two days while she's feeling ill or it could be 10 years after you got married. Personally I'm not getting angry about it. I'll ask her about it and try to see what's going on, but if it's not something that can be fixed I'll soon be sleeping with someone else.

BeMuse · Answer

If you don't want to have sex with your sex partner, then you're obviously doing it wrong.

Summeroflove · Answer

No. There is men who want love and women too…

Uenvy694u · Answer

Yes because once u get use 2 getting. Then it stops thats when they start 2 wonder if u are cheating on them. Remember u can't miss what u dont do. U stop what they love 2 do. Its starts 2 make them think all kind of things

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I didn't. I just figured it was some kind of goofy phase she was going through and she'd eventually get over it and fuck me some more. I thought that up until I found out she'd been cheating on me the last couple years we were together!

exitseven · Answer

yes, it is tough.

bowenw · Answer

I believe it would depend on the reason.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That's very true, yes. Most of the nightmare scenarios you hear about the frustrated woman who can't get her husband interested anymore happen because she tried to weaponize sex earlier in the relationship so she would have control.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some do, but that is usually when you realize you are just being used.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If I try a number of times and get brushed off yea I get resentful. When she asks me to do stuff I won’t do it.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Yes I mean that completely invalidates the point of having a partner.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I have always had a strong sex drive. Most women would not be friends with me because I needed to talk about it and they rejected me.

Nightmoon83 · Answer

No that is not true

Twalli · Answer

Yeah, if it happens intermittently then it's okay, but if every time we want it for an extended period of time and we are denied we get pretty mad at her.