Is it weird to get turned on by rape?

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When I was young (11) I liked to watch movies about pregnant women in tough and life threatening situations. Then it developed into liking rape scenes, then abuse and even incest but specifically a man's violence towards a woman.

I have no idea what the root of this is. I was assaulted but it has no correlation to my preference and happened before I figured out why I like specific scenes so much. I didn't enjoy what happened to me which leads me to believe I wouldn't actually enjoy rape. But I can't help but fantasize. Something about dominance, male strength, taking something and being a woman who is defeated and forced. Whenever there are rape scenes my stomach gets odd feeling almost like butterflies but with an urge.

I know rape fantasy is semi normal but I have had an sexual obsession with male violence towards women from a very young age and want to find out why.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I know that feeling in the pit of your stomach that comes along with the rush of fear and adrenaline. And I imagine that it similar to the rush women get when they are about to be ravished. Some women crave that feeling and even enjoy being put in dangerous situations such as being cuffed, bound, blindfolded, or being at the mercy of a man. They want to be used hard by a savage beast, but only when they know they are safe.

Many women would agree that there's "something about dominance, male strength, taking something and being a woman who is defeated and forced."

Look at the popularity of erotic "bodice ripper" novels. The idea of being taken by force by a powerful man who can't control his desire is thrilling. Fear, excitement, anticipation, and thoughts of taboo create the erotic thrill.

When it comes to fantasies in general, you have nothing to worry about. Fantasies are similar to dreams in which the subconscious mind can conjure anything. They aren't bad unless a person actually engages in them. Even then, some fantasies can be acted out safely for pure fun.

For instance, few women would want to actually engage in sex with their father. But role playing DDLG with a partner can be erotic and thrilling for both people involved. Why is it that some of the most popular porn genres are school girl and step father? It must be a common fantasy. But it's just fantasy.

One of the most common female fantasies is rape. I can't imagine any woman wanting to actually be raped. But the fantasy indicates a desire to be dominated, controlled and used by a strong, aggressive man for his pleasure. I imagine the fantasy involves excitement, like the fear of being on a thrill ride at an amusement park. While no woman wants to be raped by a stranger, people can role play rape scenarios with their partners. For instance, it's not uncommon to engage in safe forms of bondage.

Some people are even into BDSM. I don't know why would enjoy pain or degradation, but a few people do.

The bottom line is, any fantasy is fine. It's not unlike watching a thrilling or scary movie in which taboo things are portrayed. The sights, sounds and imagining the feelings of degradation are erotic. But it's just a movie.

Few would advocate people getting machined gunned, blown up, or hacked to death by swords, but people find that stuff in movies exciting. You know it's a movie and that nobody is actually getting hurt, but it evokes a thrill of excitement like dropping into the spins and turns of a roller coaster.

You want to be dominated? That's normal. There's nothing wrong with that, either. Set your freakiness free. You know enough to be safe, though.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

There's another app that I go to where you can do will play and chat and all kinds of things and you would not believe the amount of girls didn't want to go play that scenario they're like you they don't understand why they would never wish it on themselves or anybody else but it's just that thought of that fantasy of being forced by guess and a lot Girls asked me to go play that with them

It took me awhile to understand what was really going on at first I couldn't see myself doing it because I didn't know even how to go about it because in order to understand something you have to experience and I was kind of lucky with a couple girls they explained a lot of things to me and it makes a lot of sense now but at first it didn't
Just like with everything else in life I like to make it all about you girl I want to take her to a place and she's never been before but in a positive and a beautiful way so it was hard for me to get into at first
But it seems to start out as a role-play that way but it gets intense in other ways and you just got to go with those other ways and it's not really awake anymore even though it can be rough for whatever but you're not the only one in the world gets turned on there's a lot of girls that do that just to think about it or even to go play it I've been told many times let's do it again let's do it again it's just a fantasy show I think you should experience something in a roleplay sometime

WinterWaves · Accepted Answer

I think you like rape because rape is heavily romanticized in the media that you watch
Its the same reason why people like action and murder mysteries
Everything is romanticized in media but it's very different going through the same experience in real life where nothing is romanticized to make people enjoy these tragic things

So the fantasies that you have are probably controlled romanticized version of something that is otherwise very vile and gruesome so we can say that we are talking about two very very different things here

Aurora1010 · Accepted Answer

Yes, just cause many girls have them doesn't mean it's not weird.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Is it only sexual violence that turns you on or general physical violence as well?

NamerOfStars · Answer

Not really; it's just a stronger or more pronounced version of normal submissive tendencies. Just remember that some fantasies are better left as fantasies, and while you certainly can do sexual power-play stuff healthfully- even the more extreme versions- it's very important that you trust your partner, as you're in a very vulnerable position.

It's also best when they respect you, and understand that these desires don't reflect a lack of self-worth on your part, but that's pretty much implicit.

MrNameless · Answer

You might just be turned on being dominated.

In reality, I don't think you want to be raped, as that is a very scary scenario and beyond your control... Not to mention without consent.

A lot of girls have fantasies of being dominated by guys, and that's something that's controlled in their heads. And in actual reality, its obviously with consent and with someone they know.

SnakeBoop · Answer

you're turned on by consensual non consent. not rape.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

First off it’s not semi normal, it’s a kink, and a specific one.

Social media and porn tends to portray this stuff as normal.

The result is guys then think, yeah it’s almost normal so my girlfriend is bound to like it.

what it is part of is Consensual Non Consent - CNC, where both agree to what the limits are and that safe words may be in use.

The other bit is playing scenes in role play is emotionally painful afterwards for both.

If playing with a partner it’s important that the other person is not getting off on the actual doing and is feeling shit afterwards, as it means you are actually with an abuser and they are potentially capable of doing this in non role play.

Screamsgutter · Answer

Sometimes it's difficult to understand your own psyche. There are some really out- there fetishes. Sense can be made out of some of them, but others are just... whatever. As for this fetish, I can only speculate the thrill of it comes from its domination/being dominated aspect (s). And if you're gonna partake in this fetish, it'll likely be with a partner you know and probably trust a little more than usual, which I'd imagine relaxes the 'concept' of the deed quite a bit more.

Hell, you don't have to go far to find guys who are turned on by violent women, having their private parts manhandled, deliberate penis size shaming and even friggin' circumcision.

Berethor · Answer

You sure can be a great feminist. :)

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Yes it is and very concerning

slatyb · Answer

No. It's one of the most common teenage fantasies, and the plot of many or most romance novels.

jshm2 · Answer

The word you're looking for is "domination"  Some people are turned on by dom, some by sub. You're a dom type probably.

Wonderwhat · Answer

It might just be a fetish. As long as nobody is hurting you it is fine.

anon1903 · Answer

It can be paraphilia. It wouldn't hurt to see a counselor.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Same. I had it happen wasn't fun but I liked the di ea of violated imaginarily. Weird exhibition bdsm cross I don't know. But I think it's something. It's not natural something musts happen really little make u think it was good idea. But not rlly. Old cunt. I'll figure it out sometime in therapy ey it was subtle ig. Media mabe ya. They show some sexy shit in kid little baby kid shows back then

exitseven · Answer

if you really understood what rape really is you would not think it was so great.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Lots of women have a rape fantasy.

Confidentandchill · Answer

I think it’s normal and also kinda hot. Have you tried CNC? Also please follow me I do have a situation I’d like to discuss with you.

Subarugirl · Answer

Actually it’s a very common fantasy for a lot of people. It’s generally a way to defer responsibility and guilt.

Kichbazp_ · Answer

RAPE__IS___NOT____FUN

litty · Answer

It's a common fantasy but most it would be consensual non consent. If a person actually wants to be raped after a sexual assault the situation might be similar to stockholm syndrome as despite the fucked up situation they found something positive as fear and excitement can be close in feeling.

sarasubmis · Answer

It’s your brains way of making sense of it. It turns pain into pleasure in some cases of trauma. I understand the same thought process and kinda confusion of what you’re going through

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