Is it weird to masturbate alone whilst being in a relationship?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

No, unless it makes you less inclined to have actual sex with your partner.

I lived with one particular woman for over a year. The two of us had crazy sex at least twice a day and sometimes for hours at a time without a break. She was as adept as a kung fu master. Her entire body was erogenous and she was orgasmic as can be.
At some point, I found her dildo and she admitted that she sometimes found time to masturbate when I wasn't around. It just increased my admiration for her.

Girther10 · Accepted Answer

No, it’s not weird at all. In fact, it’s recommended because it allows you to get more familiar with what feels good. You can play around with different things, seeing how they feel. You can do it without anyone else seeing you. Then you can either do them to yourself next time you are with your lover, OR tell him to do those things, bc it feels so good...

Justacatlady · Accepted Answer

I don’t think so. Sometimes you get worked up and it’s easier to take care of it solo.  It would be a problem if you were choosing to masturbate after your partner tried to be intimate with you.

HOAAH · Accepted Answer

Not weird. I do it often. It just feels better for me. Plus he never sleeps in bed with me anymore. Too busy playing video games all night.

BeckyN · Answer

It's definitely not weird. Even when/ if he totally satisfies you no one can please you like you do as you know exactly what you want and like

NamerOfStars · Answer

No, it happens- the best way to handle unavailability or differently-leveled sex drives.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

No, it's not. Even though you're in a relationship (whether you are sexually active or not) doesn't mean you stop masturbating. I think it's more weird how people think you should just have sex with your partner every time and never please yourself. Masturbation is pretty healthy and can even be used to strengthen the relationship. I know I've read studies where if a woman in a relationship masturbates, then she'll be more likely to want to have sex with her partner (or something like that).

Oigit · Answer

Not really. Sometimes people just need to get their rocks off and your significant others might not be around.

JSmith925 · Answer

No, it is completely normal. Even when you have a relationship with someone else, you still have a relationship with yourself, mentally and physically. ~JSmith

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Not weird if your partner is not available to satisfy your sexual needs.

Red_Arrow · Answer

Not at all. Some times you need that feeling when your partner is not available or not in the mood. Enjoy those moments as well as your together time.

offendedsorbet · Answer

Not at all. Its perfectly healthy to still get yourself off in a relationship. You dont have to do everything together. Its nice to have alone time

denver25 · Answer

nope! sometimes the best person to get you off is yourself because who knows your own body better than you (:

ohshee · Answer

Not really I'm not in one tho , so not sure but what I do like is doing it with some one who want to do it right now together that's a turn on

JackSmy · Answer

Most people do, even in relationships! It is different that being together, and having sex, maybe mostly for guys, but some women have said they sometimes like it a bit, before bed, to sleep better, when we can't be together.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Nope. Gotta do what you gotta do

BlueScorpio · Answer

It's kinda weird you have to do it in relationship at all. If your partner isn't satisfying you in the bedroom, then might be ready to have sit down and talk.

Mishan97 · Answer

No. If ur partner is unavailable what else r u supposed to do

Berethor · Answer

Well it's better than cheating, but it's bad if you are ignoring your man for the sake of masturbation.

roody · Answer

No... I think it’s common

Elliegirl · Answer

No. I’m married and my husband and I both still masturbate.

Gerdchen · Answer

Nope, not weird. Sometimes you eat a meal together and sometimes you just get a snack alone.

Jjpayne · Answer

I feel if you are used to it then no but if you have to resort to it... it might be something to try to work with your partner to ask them for more intimacy. But I have heard stories where this happens so I don't think it's uncommon...

SphynxUK · Answer

Nope

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nope not weird your allowed to have your own time.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all. Your partner may be absent or ill or just not on the mood.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

No...

josephinelcajon · Answer

No its perfectly ok

Tobi_Lerone · Answer

Not at all. I think sometimes one of the two in a relationship has a higher sexdrive. And there you need some release I think and that's why it is okay

Dargil · Answer

Not all. It's a form of working out. Keeps the sexual plumbing in top shape.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not at all. I do.

Nephilim000 · Answer

Define alone. I was dating a girl in a different city and sometimes when we couldn't be together we would get hot and heavy on the phone

dantheman1118 · Answer

Absolutely not. That should be something no one can tell you not to do. (Some rules do apply, of course) It's a way of getting to know yourself better. I believe it gets most of it's negative feedback from dudes who are creeps. I say do it if you want to or don't.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's not weird, we all need releases with our hormones, so we masturbate

DavidFox · Answer

Nope

KilledByBees · Answer

No, it is good to practice self care and exploration.

Starlight_Whimsy · Answer

No, masturbation is normal and healthy. Sometimes it’s just relaxing to do so, it’s not about sex, or getting off because you’re sexually frustrated.

TCredo · Answer

i don't think it is... i often will tell my wife i am going to masturbate - and if she can, sometimes she'll join me for the ending... she doesn't masturbate as much as i do - and usually will only do it when i am away on business - which, then, she is doing it alone... so it's not weird at all :)

chriscdi · Answer

no i wouldn't expect anyone to have sex everytime they are horny

Browneye57 · Answer

We had a motto growing up in the 70's and 80's - post sexual revolution... "If it feels good, do it." :) As long as you're doing yourself INSTEAD of doing your man, it's fine.

magiusX26 · Answer

if it is, i dont want to stop being weird.

tofamous · Answer

Masturbation is a natural out and also it helps to prolong and also stimulate oneself to be a better sexual partner And it will give you different avenues of sharing with your partner how to please you or vice for versa

MeganH1999 · Answer

i don’t think so

BobbyC65 · Answer

It's not weird and masturbating is a fun time. While alone. 💞

pink_and_inlove · Answer

No lol

WhiteGlaze · Answer

Especially with a name like warm apple crumble

AmeerX · Answer

Yeah

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, I don't think so. I might do it if my wife wasn't in the mood and I was. (Though I wouldn't if she asked me politely to wait.)

oncpl · Answer

Me and my girlfriend sometimes masturbate in front of each other, and sometimes to each other.

TeddyGotT · Answer

No because it's a solo act

Kiera_Japanese · Answer

I masturbate all the fucking time.

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, if you're horny and your man isn't around then its fine to masturbate. Just don't let masturbation take the place of sex.

monkeynutts · Answer

Well for girls, maybe, because I would worry as a man that I was not properly doing my job. And maybe he is not. Maybe you need to give him instruction.