Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it wrong to have rape fantasies?
StormMistress Xper 7
Ok so I’m a submissive by nature and the idea of doing a rape scene with a partner is very arousing to me. To have him force me down, rough me up and have his way gets me all kinds of excited. Is this wrong? Why does such a thing excite me where in real life such a thing is horrific!
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What Girls & Guys Said
35 103There's nothing wrong with having a r*pe fantasy because it's not real. Everything within it is, technically, consensual, and it stops whenever you want it to. There's also the taboo aspect of it. I have them. They're pretty normal.
I already knew that shiit before you said it, your type always has those abduction and rape fantasies. I could tell just from your default pic. You actually look like one of my ex-BDSM Submissives from Berkeley California. She wanted me to do a rape scene in her parking garage, adjacent to her apartment complex when we first met (our FIRST meet she wanted that).
@vikingwarlord What about her photo says rape fantasy to you?
@MysteriousDarkness I know her type from dating similar looking
@vikingwarlord I call bullshit on it. Just because people look similar is no guarantee them as a person will be similar.
Sooo many women have this fantasy. And its because we have lost the understanding of ravishment. When a man ravishes a woman, he bodily takes her as his, letting all his desire and love for her pour out without holding himself back. Nothing restraining him as he takes the woman he desires and makes her his own. Passionately. Primally.
Rape has the violently taking part, but there is no love.
It's very common.
A lot of victims have a lot of guilt for having the same kink or fantasy as well.
It's not inherently wrong, but some have a lot of trouble reconciling.
It’s a common kink
@annabananna have u ever wanted to try it?
No. It is just a kink.
You have "what I've seen in porn r*pe fantasies" and I'm talking about the softer kind, cause p*rn has even worse scenes. Real r*pe is not like how it's portrayed in those media's and you need to seek help before some creep takes advantage cause in the real world it's traumatizing.
I have grape fantasies is that wrong?
It excites you because you let him be in control and don’t feel guilty
Or you need to be degraded
It's not wrong. It's very common in fact.
Dayum, I wish women would stop calling it a "rape fantasy". It just confuses the fact that a lot of women want to be overpowered in bed by associating it with rape. That is not rape.
There's nothing wrong with what you want, but you're talking about two totally different things. The fantasy you describe is simply rough sex, some domination, and bondage. However, by your own words, it's with "a partner". Because it is, you consciously and subconsciously feel safe. You know won't be hurt, and you think that if he gets "too rough", you're in control enough to stop it.
When you're raped, that's not the case. If you're raped by someone you don't know, especially if a visible weapon is involved, you genuinely FEAR for your life. You have zero control if the person overpowers you and ties you down. If you're raped by someone you know, perhaps you won't fear for your life quite as much, but you may.
That kind of life-threatening fear is what powers rapists. It's very different from the fantasy you have to be sexually used and "forced" to do things that you really want to do anyway.
You have no idea of the number of girls that have admitted that to me thinking it’s something to be ashamed of.
It’s not something to be ashamed of, it’s just a fantasy, but there’s difference between cnc and actual rape, one is fantasy play the other is real..
nothing better than being forced down, tied up and used
Just have a safeword ready.
Sounds like you want Consent Non Consent (CNC)? You might also be into free use. Either way, you want what you want and if it makes you happy and it’s legal between two consenting parties, do it.
Be careful what you wish for. You might just bite off more than you can chew and actually get raped when you meet up with some dirt bag you have been telling about your rape fantasy. Just tell them you're looking for a rough fuck and you can think what you want while it's happening.
it doesn’t really matter what others think, it matters what you like.
I guess not, but it does seem creepy.
No, not at all. The only time that would be wrong is if you do it unconsensually to someone.
No, a lot of women have told me they have the same fantasy. So enjoy it with your boyfriend.