Is masterbating bad?

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I’m embarrassed I have to ask strangers this but I don’t have anyone else irl I can ask.

My mom had caught me doing it yesterday and got really mad. When she cooled down she explained to me that it’s ok to have those feelings around my period but it’s not ok to act on them. What does she mean?

I don’t understand. Those feelings do not go away unless I act on them though and I thought it was ok cause it’s not like I’m going to get pregnant from it right? And I searched up on Google it was normal for girls my age to do that stuff so why is my mom telling me it’s wrong and I shouldn’t.

Please no creepy answers, I just want serious answers.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

Masturbation is something that just about everyone does when growing up. The feelings that make you want to masturbate are feelings that we often get while growing up. When people are older and have someone that they are with all the time, they often have sex together which relieves those feelings. If they have sex often enough, they may not feel the need to masturbate, and yet many of them do in addition to having sex.
At your age, it is normal to have the feelings. But there are many who believe that it is wrong to masturbate because of religious beliefs. But masturbation is something that you can do and not hurt other people while enjoying. So I don't think it is bad at all.
Masturbation can take care of those urges. It also can be something relaxing to do even without the urges. Many people will masturbate to help go to sleep. Men will often make a mess when they masturbate and need to clean up before going to sleep. Women often take it more easy when trying to fall asleep and do not need to clean up before sleeping.
So it is a way to take care of those urges. It is a way to learn more about that part of your body and what makes it feel good. It can help you sleep. It does not hurt anyone. So there are really many good reasons to do it and no reason to not do it.
You need to learn how to keep it private so that your family does not know, and you will be able to enjoy it without people bothering you.
You are fine doing it. Just keep it hidden from others as it is private. Go ahead and enjoy it.

bredtaleth · Accepted Answer

Based on what you're written, I'd guess you're around early puberty. It's never easy for parents when their kids explore their sexuality, since they don't like to think of their children as sexual beings. So, many parents will be very cautious about it and some will straight out ignore it. Some parents will feel so insecure about it that they will actively try to prevent their children from anything sexual. However, as the other posters have pointed out, it's completely natural for you to try to understand your body and your desires.

If you live in a culture where women are not mean to express themselves and be open, this will just be one of the many things you're told that you're not suppose to do. If so, don't believe everything you hear. Think for yourself.

I just hope that despite your mother not being very supportive, you can treat sexual desire like any other; without prejudice and without worry. Just like hunger is a desire; it shouldn't control your life, you should not be obsessed about it. If you're comfortable with your sexual desire, and don't let others influence it, you won't feel stressed about it. It's just a nice thing in your life and you can slowly grow to enjoy as you get older. Take it slowly, but trust yourself :)

Curiousgirl2414 · Accepted Answer

I’m assuming your mother is religious. I think that’s where most of this belief comes from. Somewhere in the Bible talks about cutting off a hand or something like that.

Here’s the thing: if it’s a sin to pleasure yourself, hell is gonna be a really, really crowded place. It’s normal. Sex is a physiological need for most humans post puberty, and when you don’t have someone to provide that release for you, it’s acceptable to provide it for yourself. It’s better than you going out and getting knocked up as a teenager.

I’m a 27 year old adult, single, in no place to get married financially or otherwise, and I consider myself a Christian. And if I need to give myself a sexual release, I’m gonna do so and won’t feel even slightly guilty about it. As a teen with hormones, I’d encourage you to do the same lol.

snowgirl123 · Accepted Answer

it's not like it's something wrong, but the problem is what it leads to.

for example, if you keep masturbating a lot, it may become addictive, which is even something you can manage easily, but soon masturbation may not be enough for you, and you might become anxious to have a boyfriend, to have sex, to do things that you could wait a little longer for. you might end up getting involved with people and situations because of your urges.

look, just be careful that you don't become addicted to it, and go into paths you might later regret. some people don't see it as a problem, but see to it, if it is the best for you.

I don't know why your mother told you this, maybe she's a Religious or conservative person.

please be careful, the smallest things can lead to te greatest problems.

ZiZi_Bell · Answer

It is perfectly natural.
If you have an itch, you scratch it. The itch may eventually go away on its own but it's gonna drive you crazy until it does.
It's just part of your body, and there is absolutely nothing bad about it.

You may just have to get more sneaky when your mom is home. Lol

MrOracle · Answer

It's normal and it's fine. Some people have been taught that it was bad, and religion has done this a lot (even though, for example, the few bible verses often sited do NOT prohibit it at all - but religious leaders often intentionally mis-interpret them to fit their own agendas).

However, masturbation is normally something you keep private - especially with your family - so really, that's what you need to do. And, last, many parents get upset, not because you are masturbating really, but because that means you are growing up and are no longer their innocent little kid. That's often the hardest thing for parents to accept, and having to face it in a big way for the first time often gets parents emotional.

The reality is that masturbation is normal and healthy and fine - just be private about it at home/around your family, and you'll be fine.

LisaLisa89 · Answer

Some people believe that masturbation is sinful, for cultural or religious reasons. Perhaps your mother believes that.
Personally I disagree, along with huge numbers of other people. I discovered it when I was a teenager and found it to be an amazing thing to do. And now I'm in my thirties it's still just as amazing, and even better doing it to my fiancé and him doing it to me.
My advice would be to do it when your parents are asleep and make sure you're quiet when you do it. It's beautiful and you should enjoy it without feeling guilty.

Rob70 · Answer

It used to be frowned upon to play with yourself. Times have changed and it's excepted more now. There is nothing wrong with it if you ask me. The more you know about your body and what you like or think feels good helps you when you do have sex.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Masturbating isn't bad. Its a natural process and feeling. Your mum is backwards as fuck in her mindset and its incredibly toxic, so well done for reaching out elsewhere to actually learn.
Sex is also natural when you have it fyi.

RobT312 · Answer

It’s normal, natural and you should continue! It’s also nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Everyone does it... even your mother has

ushagomez · Answer

It’s an absolutely normal and beautiful solo pleasure enjoyed by almost everyone. It is not bad in any way. Please continue to enjoy one of life‘s great pleasures.

laurcar34 · Answer

Maybe you should sit down with your mother and talk about it. It may be difficult, but difficult things are worth doing. But, yeah, your mom is wrong. Your body is worth celebrating and enjoying. And I hope you enjoy yourself! You're a sexual being, whether you or your mom likes it or not; and you may as well cultivate that sexuality in the most positive way possible.

Romulus8817 · Answer

Masturbation is a natural activity that many animals, not just humans, participate in.

Your mother is a prude. I'm not sure where you're from, but I'd be willing to bet good money that some flavor of religion has given your mom the idea that masturbation is a sin, ergo her response.

Here to tell ya it isn't.

Go on, get off, just don't get caught again lol

wankiam · Answer

its not bad at all though you did spell it wrong lol... its maturbating

20yearsolder · Answer

Masturbation is normal, just make sure you do it where you can't be caught. Explore your body, it's yours. There's absolutely nothing wrong with seeing what feels good to you,

Bricealan · Answer

Well, supposedly, mothers/fathers have our best interest at heart when they tell us what they believe is right vs wrong. My girlfriend's (most of them) have said they found their clitoris at a very early age, sometime around 5, 6, or 7 years of age, and they masturbated from then on. You have to use your own judgement and feelings and just be more careful when and where you masturbate, and don't get caught again.

BTY I can't imagine your mother catching you? Where were you that she 'caught' you?
Just be more careful in the future, and you go girl _ rub-one out when you feel like it

Dargil · Answer

Like working out, it's good for you.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

It's totally normal for teen girls to pleasure themselves. Do it as much as you need. Your mom is wrong.

BrosephBrostar · Answer

As with all things, it's all about moderation. The problems come when excessive masturbation causes interference with your day-to-day life, at that point it becomes an addiction. I don't think women can get the same physiological issues men can get with excessive masturbation (the infamous Death Grip), but nonetheless, it's something to keep under control.

Also consider that masturbating as a way to alleviate loneliness is counter-productive because you're not doing anything to actually solve the problem, you're simply using a shortcut to release the same endorphins without getting what you really need. You're young, and this more applies to people who are older and are more in control of their destiny and life. The last thing you need is to be known as the town bicycle, but it's worth keeping in mind that chronic masturbation could just simply be loneliness.

exitseven · Answer

no, everyone does it and if they say they don't thy are lying.

PuNishant · Answer

Do it when you want but don't get addicted

Jylaaa · Answer

Parents do not want to think about their children in a sexual way, or doing anything sexual. So yeah they will overreact they will tell you not to ever be sexual.

Subarugirl · Answer

Don you have a doctor that you can talk to about this. Honestly this is a conversation you should have with your mother, or doctor at least.

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

What she meant was when she was back in college she had a issue with the not acting on it part and had negative experiences to go with the "positive" experiences. She's trying to tell you it's not worth it cause she's been through it.

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