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Is my boyfriend being disrespectful to me? He keeps finishing in my mouth even after I asked him not to?

My boyfriend and I are both 17 and I have been fooling around for a few months now, I pretty much give him a blowjob anytime he wants it and I will say that is a lot. Every day after school we come to my house and I give him one pretty much every day. I really do enjoy doing it I love the way it makes him feel and in return that makes me feel good. He's also very good about returning the favor to me. My only stipulation is I don't like for him to finish in my mouth. The first time he did it was about a month ago and he did not even ask me or tell me he was about to cum, he was standing up and I was kneeling on my knees giving him head and the next thing I know it's like a squirt gun shooting me in the throat, I ended up swallowing half of it and spit the rest out. I did not really let him see it but I was grossed out by it and politely asked him not to do that. The very next day he asked me if I would let him finish in my mouth and I said no, he nearly beg me to do it so I compromised with him and told him he could finish on my face. He seemed to really like that and the next three or four times that's where he finished and I didn't mind it either. Shortly after that he again finished in my mouth and I was totally not expecting it and nearly choked to death. He told me it was an accident and he did not realize he was so close, I for gave him and didn't make that big a deal of it. The very next day after that he came in my mouth again and again try to tell me it was an accident. This time I didn't really believe him but I didn't really say anything either I just spit it out on my chest cleaned up and went and brush my teeth. Since then he has come in my mouth like five more times and I keep asking him to come on my face but he won't stop. Do you think he is being disrespectful to me? Can he really not tell when he's about to finish? He did it to me again last night and I was in a position that I could not pull out and ended up swallowing it and I just don't like it.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • This is a guy that will get you pregnant some way of another, sooner or later.
    Of course once or twice might be a mistake but there's no better FEEL than to be sucked/hoovered completely dry, then a kiss goodbye on the head.
    BUT
    to continue to do it against wishes = you are his toilet
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    his love for this feeling is more important than his love for you

    When you continue to this service after he breaks the rules = the rules mean nothing.

    Wouldn't you think there's a million guys out there that would love this treatment?
    Some of which would respect you enough to follow the rules? ... even some that love the full treatment like him would wait until someday you might change your mind.

    All this advice is based upon the assumption you are "legal" age and not condoning this pleasure that often ends in your life as serving fries out a window instead of reaching your academic potential/career.

    Certainly you might try older, more mature guys but never, ever stop defenses against STDs and pregnancy.

    • Perfectly said

    • No need for me to reply - this is perfect.

    • Hear this man out. Tell him no more blowjobs, or if he cums in your mouth again, he has to drink your piss. We know u really like him and all. But you shouldn't do something you dont like.

  • oh my god. what is it with this site and paragraphs?

    but no, he can definitely tell when he is about to finish. You should be able to tell as well, by the way. It gets a little stiffer right before. When that happens, pull out and stroke it.

    He's thinking that if he does it enough, you will get used to it and eventually learn to like it. And technically, it isn't 'disrespect,' but it is rape, fyi..

Most Helpful Girls

  • he is doing it on purpose because he knows that even though you dont like it you'll keep giving him blowjobs anyway. all of my exes and my current boyfriend can feel when theyre about to cum and have the control to pull out of my mouth or say something so i dont believe for one second he accidentally came in your mouth 8 times especially as he's shown he has the ability to control himself and finish on your face instead. dump the guy he doesn't respect how you feel, he just cares about himself

  • If he is blatantly going against your request and finishing in your mouth, then it is a huge form of disrespect.

    I would stop giving him BJs and consider ending the relationship because I would feel so disrespected

    Maybe when he cums in your mouth again, you can spit it back out right there and emphasize that you don't like it

    Guys know when they are about to cum. Don't let him tell you otherwise

  • what islands7 says:

    "to continue to do it against wishes = you are his toilet
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    his love for this feeling is more important than his love for you"

    That's what you are.. a dumpster for his cum. This guy does not love or respect you. You need to dump him.

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  • he's doing it on purpose. Next time bite him and say ooops lol.
    Usually u can tell if a guys about to cum just watch for the signs n finish him off with a handjob

    • no biting, that's jus mean

    • @SIR_LICKS_ALOTT It's no more mean than repeatedly violating her sexual space. I would dump him before it gets there, but I understand the sentiment and don't totally disagree with the suggestion

    • I know I was joking. No but her guy is obviously being an asshole maybe she should reduce it down to only hand jobs till he learns his lesson. Or tell him to fuck off

  • Well, it's not disrespectful. Male orgasms are extremely powerful, almost crippling, so it'd be hard to pull out and sense when it's coming. I personally believe what he did was a genuine accident, but it's still wrong. Here's a tip. When the blowjob starts to reach the end, just finish him off with passionate licks to the shaft so he doesn't cum in your mouth. He would on your face, but at least it's better.

    • If you cannot respect your partner's wishes and not cum on her mouth, then you need to NOT BE HAVING SEX, violating a woman's space and instead focus on learning some control all by your lonesome. Until you master that, it is not cool for you to be with a woman. It is a sign of a lack of self-control and discipline, which are necessary for you to be a good lover. I've never heard of a guy not being able to know when he's going to cum, and any self respecting man would honor a woman's wishes Her instincts are not wrong. She senses he is lying to her. Her intuition is spot on

  • Maybe you should start to lose track of your teeth a lil...

  • he doesn't respect what you want

  • Yep he's being an ass.

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