Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is my porn addicted husband's choice of porn watching normal?
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I posted a question not long ago asking for feedback as to whether it would be wise to try to work things out and stay with my husband who I found out after we were married is severely addicted to watching porn. It has ruined our marriage and intimacy, as the consumption and masturbating was up to several times a day and he would always reject any of my advancements for intimacy. We have only had sex a handful of times in the 3 years we have been married. I had decided to try to stay as long as he seeks out professional help. However... I found the following types of porn in his history, and I would like some feedback from other men as to whether or not it seems normal or if I am warranted in my deep level of discomfort and concern. I found anime/comic porn involving animals, school aged girls, vampires, tentacles, choking, rape, transgender porn or "self fucking" such as characters who have penises and can fuck themselves in the ass. The history of the usual videos of porn included transgender, orgy, lesbian, and heterosexual encounters. I am a rape and domestic violence survivor. Not only does the violence in the porn worry me, but also the comics involving animals/young girls, and the transgender porn. He claims he isn't gay, bisexuality, or attracted to children. Can anyone give me some honest feedback on this type of consumption of porn?
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What Guys Said
(23)Bottomline: If he's picking porn over living life or worse you, then he goes to Porn Anonymous or You kick his ass to the curb and DTMF!
Have him get counseling.
POrn addiction escalates... vanilla missionary sex gets boring, so you look at anal or oral or multiple or public or old/young or bestiality or rape or anything "different", then you end up being numb and unable to get aroused... that is why Porn is bad...
Guys are curious and if its legal 18+ porn he's just more curious then anything.
I browse porn every once in a while and if I see my get porn il click it just to see how two mygets have sex... its an example of how it can be misinterpreted in to something wrong. I watched all sorts of porn from gay to anime put of curiosity. But the type of porn I enjoy watching is lesbian and swinger porn.
Instead of arguing maybe try and ask what porn he enjoys and start a healthy conversation on fulfilling that fantasy. Guys get bored of the same old. My wife and I were tired of doing the same position every other day and I found it easier to rub one out instead of doing the boring routine.
After my wife and I started talking about our fantasies we settled on swinging and never been happier and yep I watch 90 percent less porn
Sorry but Its just stupid when married men watch porn, he really should stop watching them or his attraction toward you won't improve, i have been addicted to porn in the past but it wasn't that hard to stop the addiction.
Tell him if he really loves you he should stop watching porn
Most likely he wants to see you being fuked rough by some stranger
I think they are some people that prefer masturbating over sex even before they are in a relationship. There are different types of attractions and He could have been attracted to you not sexually but because of your personality looks, etc.
Everyone's porn taste does look a bit bizarre to someone else. My tastes are inter-racial, hand-jobs, sucking a woman's breasts while she masturbates you, sensual massage, erotic couple wrestling, etc. It might seem bizarre, and very kink-focussed. But then, that's porn.
I do agree that your partner's taste seem a bit extreme.
But we go to porn for its bizarre nature, don't we?
It could be sad if porn comes in the way of your sex life. It shouldn't. If I was getting sex more often, I'd need a lot less of porn!
Why don't you convince him to watch porn together? Talk about it? Share your tastes...
It's always very sad when a couple has a mismatch in their sex drives... we've had it long in our equation. First my partner wanted it daily, now if I get it once a month, I'm lucky! This is one of the paradoxes of life and relationships!
the very first sentence here says it.
Tbh it sounds pretty normal. a lot of guys are into furry and all that stuff. Transgender porn doesn't make you bi in my opinion. Men watch it because the trannys look like girls besides the dick. But he needs to stop watching porn though. Or you need to become his porn. Dress up etc. I can't imagine he is successful in life. Discipline in sex a lot of the time correlates. Whatever you do. Be on his side. If you wish for him to stop then be on his side. Takes at least 100 days to rid of the habit but in his case maybe longer. A year. His imagination can help. And you as his wife can help. But either way trust me you want him to quit porn. It will fuck up his dick and sexual energy.
That’s some really strange porn choices , seems like he’s all over the board on that one , definitely needs therapy. If I had somebody that was willing to have sex whenever I want it , I wouldn’t even be looking at porn