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Is refusing anal sex a deal breaker for you?

Is it a deal breaker for you if your partner refuses to have anal sex? What do you think about women who do it regularly?---Who would you consider to be more relationship material?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Is refusing X sex a deal breaker for you?

    It's good to take an honest inventory of both our WANTS and NOS and identify the deal breakers. We all should have some of each.
    This list will expand and contract some over the years but that's another problem. :)

    The more we are hoping for a LT monogamous relationship then the more importance should be placed on being sexually compatible. If one partner "X" WANT is on the others NO list it IS going to be a PROBLEM, and for BOTH. Do I need to enumerate? It doesn't mater what the X is, we see the same question directed at oral and others.

    Ideally we find these mismatches as early as possible and recognize them for what they are. We don't need to assign blame to either party (or worse) but if X was a deal breaker and we go forward this will be a perpetual issue in the relationship as the decades roll by or it will contribute to the end of the relationship.

    If X is important to you don't settle or compromise. Call it a deal breaker and find a sole mate who is X comparable with you. :)
    Take care :)

  • It's in fact a deal maker because it shows that you have some sanity in you.

    People who do this bullshit are fucking disgusting retards.

    • Well said!

Most Helpful Girls

  • It might be for some people... in which case, they wouldn't be right for me. I always tell my boyfriend that I'm down to try most things aside from anal. He's been cool with it so far; would like to try it again but understands if I'm not ever interested.
    (For me, I obviously wouldn't/don't really care due to my own stance on it. If there are women who do it regularly, good for them! I have no opinion on that... different things work for different people.)

  • No it isn't, I don't think anal sex is something that should happen all the time either, I think its more like a treat, even though I'm no pro- It's definitely not the same as vaginal. I think everyone has their preference, and I haven't met anyone yet who prefers anal sex over vaginal but I think that would be pretty interesting.

  • I don't have an interest in it. If I ever do it I imagine it would be in a marriage down the road if things are getting boring. But the idea doesn't sound appealing.. I'd probably do it if my future husband really wanted it though

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  • It is for me, but then i've not got any other ways to get fucked so its either anal sex or no penetration.

  • Anal has never really been my thing. I'm not against it, but it's never appealed to me, either.

    I've only attempted it twice, and it was at the girl's request. I say "attempted", because it was not a successful endeavor.

    If a woman told ne that she had no intentions of doing it, ever, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

  • I'm so happy my boyfriend does't need anal. Phew! No pressure for that crap, no pun intended :3

  • I find anal sex, as a concept, to be gross.
    No.
    An INSISTENCE on anal sex is a deal breaker for me. One fear I have is finding a woman I could love and live the rest of my life with, only to discover she craves anal.

  • I can get along fine without it. I have a preference for the entrance over the exit, anyway. A woman who refuses that is one who is not afraid to stand up for what she wants. I definitely respect that.

  • I would only marry an man who refuses anal sex because I would never do it, EVER.

  • It's important that both partners are comfortable with it. That's pretty much all I would sat about it.

  • Not at all! I don't have a desire for it because i know it will make most girls uncomfortable and i wouldn't like the idea of anal without a condom eigther.

    If my girlfriend was desperate to try it i would but other then that i wouldn't even suggest it.

  • No. It's a good thing if the person rejects it I think.

  • Haha no of course not. Don't get me wrong I would like to explore but if she doesn't like it then oh well

  • I would never consider marrying a girl who wouldn't do anal. Way I see it is marriage is a long time with the same person, it's going to get boring. So what do I think of women who do anal, they are awesome.

  • Not a deal breaker. It's her asshole that needs to stretch. BUT, if the carries over to anything she just doesn't feel like then it will become a deal breaker. I don't want to be with someone that won't even entertain the idea of something I want over and over and over. That's the type of woman that withholds sex.

  • Is it a deal breaker? For some probably. For some it makes no difference. For some anal is a disgusting thing they stay away from.

    Would I consider it a deal breaker? Not really. My ex-gf did not like it, but she did not like bj's, hj's, roleplay and pretty much everything else. And that was part of the reason why she is ex.

    As guys we can sacrifice a lot, but when its just plain sex... I'm sorry I can't do that shit

  • Yeah it's a deal breaker for casual sex; I love women who are open to the idea of me eating and fucking their ass.

    I don't date period so no woman is really relationship material to me, but if I were the type to date then anal sex wouldn't play a factor into it. I'd just introduce her to anal sex somewhere down the line.

  • No it would not be a deal breaker. I have known women who said that they preferred anal sex, and gave every appearance of doing so, and I enjoyed it, and I ended up marrying one.

    That said, for most men, I TRULY believe that sexual "quality" is not the make or break for marriage or a relationship. It is more important in FWBs and flings.

  • Definitely not. Honestly, I'm not that into the idea! I would be open to proposed experimentation, of course, but it certainly isn't anything that I'd be pushing for.

  • Since I have no interest in Anal myself, no.

  • Uh no. I'm not too keen on it anyways.

  • I refuse it too, thus it certainly isn't a deal breaker for me.
    What do you think about women who do it regularly? Their body, their anus.

  • It's not a deal breaker, but it would make me sad that she wouldn't even try it a few times.

    • And more relationship material: definitely the girl that does anal.

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