We're talking about just in terms of dating right?
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Ally247
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Generally
Don-__-Don
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From women in general huh... I want your respect, kindness and understanding. Pretty much just general acceptance of who I am. If I can get that from you then we're gucci and I'll return the favor in kind. I want that from everyone for that matter, but we're talking about women here, so yeah.
Ally247
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Now are you just saying that or do you mean it?
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Don-__-Don
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I mean it, I have no intrest in tell you pretty lies. Note that I'm only speaking for myself here, I have no idea if any other guy feels the same way as me on this topic You've always striked me as the skeptical type, so I'll understand if you don't believe me.
Ally247
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I wouldn't say skeptical, just both guarded and analytical. I believe you, but I also think you're in the minority in that regard.
Don-__-Don
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Guarded and analytical, yeah that's a better way of saying it. Yeah, I'd guess I am the minority. I always considered myseld a rare case when it comes to certain things, but I never say that out loud because I don't want to sound to like I'm calling myself special, because I'm defiently not. At least I don't think I am. .
Ally247
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Right but the thing is, it's the same guys who will say they're 'not like the others' or that sex isn't everything, that will turn around and make everything sexual. You can see where the skepticism would come from.
Don-__-Don
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Yeah, I can definitely see where the skepticism comes from. I would say that's one example out of many even
Ally247
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Aye.
Don-__-Don
+1 y
Coming from my prespective, if I didn't make every conversation I had with a girl be about romance or sex, my peers will just assume that I was gay. I had that happen a lot to me when I was in highschool. It was pretty damn annoying. Society doesn't make this issue any better.
Ally247
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That's very stupid
Don-__-Don
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Exactly what I though, but the majority believes in stupid things all the time, that's how I see it at least.
Ally247
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Well that's because the majority are stupid
Don-__-Don
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Yerp, lol. Always the reason why I feel like the odd one out.
Ally247
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Same
oddwaffleYoda
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You are wrong. We also want sandwiches.
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sensible27Guru
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That seems like a generalisation and I would presume you're aware of it so the question fundamentally boils down to why are the people you've interacted with oriented the way they are, I don't know, could be selection issues. You can try dating apps if you think number of people you can meet in real life is too limiting. I'm sort of asexual and I don't know why but it seems like asexual people wouldn't be too hard to find if you wanna go that route. If you just wanna meet new people ok cupid might be a good site (swear I'm not paid, I don't even use it anymore but they used to publish interesting studies on humans)..
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NaxwiXper 6
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No, I don't think so.
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Agape93Master
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Nope. Love, romance, respect, compassion etc
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0112358Master
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No, but - it’s a high priority and harder to get then other things men want (for most men) so most focus on it a lot with attractive women where there’s an opportunity. - it’s all some guys want, and those guys approach a lot of women since they’re always single - if guys sense sex isn’t going to happen then nothing else she offers is relevant. If a woman isn’t sexually interested in me then... anything beyond friendship isn’t happening. And in that case either she’s fun to hang out with or not but I don’t care about anything else she has going on.
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comrade1027Xper 3
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Sex isn't the only thing we ever want. However, it is one of the primary ways which we feel we are loved. It is something important to us.
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GwenhwyfarMaster
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Sadly, for a lot of guys, yes. But not all guys are like this.
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sheikalanaMaster
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No. Some also seek for companionship.
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AffectionKingXper 5
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Yes and no
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JosyJosyMaster
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Nopes luckily
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QuestionsweaskXper 4
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No not at all i want her for many things, sex isn't even important , just being with your soul mate is what is the best part to me. I am pleased to say i have been with the most amazing lady for 30 years and i wouldn't trade her for anything. unless the batmobile is offered. she would have to go. then im afraid LOL
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cth96190Guru
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It has been said that, were it not for sex, men and women would throw rocks at each other.
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KabluieGuru
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Not really, companionship is probably better than the sex sometimes.
It became more apparent as I went through college. That just because I slept with this girl the first day we met. I really enjoyed how close we became, hanging out, going shopping or out to eat together. It setup the parameters that our friendship ended up much deeper than just having sex. Eventually she said she always wanted me in her life, and I couldn't agree more.
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chriscdiMaster
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yes you have mf 😐😂
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Ally247
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I have not. If you're alluding to our replies then I wouldn't term that a conversation.
chriscdi
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then this proves my point on my other point i was gonna make, thats because women dont give the guys that dont a chance, they chose the shitty guys over the good
Ally247
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Incorrect, I avoid shitty guys and the only guys I've given chances gave the illusion of being one of the 'good' ones.
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chriscdi
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that makes them shitty guys too, statement stands
chriscdi
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my**
Ally247
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I'd give good guys a chance if they existed
chriscdi
+1 y
this would be the perfect time to look back and think of all the guys youve rejected, there's probably plenty in that handful, just saying missy 🤷🏽♂️
Ally247
+1 y
Alright the majority I've rejected because I knew for a fact they were only interested in sex. The ones where that wasn't the reason, it was simply because they couldn't hold a proper conversation. It doesn't matter how nice a person is if you can't get past 'how are you', you get me?
chriscdi
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yea i can't blame you on that but basically my point is that they exist, they might just be in the most unexpected places, such as in your rejection list, in friendships, even your friends siblings for all you know, if you are waiting for life to make it easy for you to find them then a recommend you dont hold your breath.
Ally247
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Well I'm not looking for anything and I never have, I've always thought the best things will happen unexpectedly so I've just gone with the flow, but that's resulted in being disappointed many, many times.
chriscdi
+1 y
the best things come with effort, if you put no effort then you can't expect it to just fall out of the sky, if you have a job but you dont work, dont expect to get paid... you know?
Ally247
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Trust me mate, I'm all about effort.
chriscdi
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well you just told me you aren't looking for anything and never have, sorry to tell you but that doesn't sound like effort to me
chriscdi
+1 y
if you are those girls that play hard to get for everyone then thats most likely not helping in this casr
chriscdi
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case*
Ally247
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You're not understanding me lmao. When I say I'm not looking for anything I mean I'm not on dating sites, but when I happen to meet decent guys I put effort in getting to know someone. I never play hard to get, if it comes across like that it's because I'm genuinely not interested.
chriscdi
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when you shouldve specified that earlier, you are just letting me run my yap talking all kinds of shit lol but alright then your luck is just terrible or you attract the wrong crowd or both, i can give you one of my male minded ideas if you want, reason i call it male minded is cause it requires effort you might not be comfortable with but i believe it can work eventually
Ally247
+1 y
go on
Don-__-Don
+1 y
Friend: dude, I don't understand why she's playing hard to get... Other friend: Maybe she's just not into you like that. Friend: *existential crisis ensues*
chriscdi
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alright sit back and grab a snack cause this is gonna be long first im going to start by saying the guys you are attracting now are guys that want you for sex correct? so as a guy myself, i know how its like to have a dick and the mind of a dude, these guys run on looking for physical appearance, thats how they target their "victims" im sure if these are all the types of guys you are attracting its most likely because you have a very good physical appearance, remember that these guys usually try to target the best looking women so they can fuck and brag and do whatever tf these fuckers do so an idea that of course im not sure will work but can have a chance of working is if you downgrade your physical appearance now hear me out, im not telling you to make yourself look ugly nor am i telling you to change anything at all in your personality, what im suggesting is that im sure you try to look your best when you get ready to go outside and i know women love their makeup and personally i dont have a problem with that but i do gotta admit that makeup if its done right can make a girl look stunning, which just makes you a higher target and im really not trying to bash on makeup cause it doesn't bother me how women love makeup but what i think is that if you dont dress to impress them you might attract better guys because you ever heard that saying that goes something like "if he doesn't appreciate you when you look your worst, then he doesn't deserve you when you look your best" ?
chriscdi
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i believe there's some truth to that, if a guy comes up to you and sees you beautiful when you aren't even trying to look beautiful then it shows that maybe he isn't just looking at you as a sex object because he isn't following this trend of looking for sexy stunning women to fuck, he is following his own brain and looking for a girl that he personally finds beautiful and usually shows he is taking his own path which can mean that what he is seeking for isn't sex but someone he can spend his life with.
Ally247
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I don't even wear makeup
chriscdi
+1 y
doesn't go for just makeup clothing too dude
chriscdi
+1 y
but if you are stunning without makeup too then I don't know what to tell you, you are cursed
Ally247
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Yeah it's nothing to do with looks, the majority of men just view women as sex objects regardless.
chriscdi
+1 y
you can only blame society, what can i say, its just gonna get worse
Ally247
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Yep.
winterfox10Master
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Nah... sex is a pretty awesome thing. But if sex is the only thing a guy thinks women have to offer, he's really missing out.
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MakeushiverYoda
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I prefer intelligent, compassionate, well-spoken women both in sexual and non-sexual settings. Intelligence often makes for better lovers so it's not many traits not normally considered sexual wind up being sexual since sex involves your whole neing
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JEndigoBleueXper 5
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Umm, men ain't the only one. Constant rotation in my psyche. I just don't implement my thoughts until I have a full understanding of whom I'm dealing with before engaging in a plan of any type of relationship. If I have allowed you in my space. I'm attracted to you. It's what comes out of your mouth that will progress your intentions towards me.
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chubbycrowXper 5
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depends on the guy but 95% of men probably want at least sex from woman
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AbsolutePepparXper 4
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may be your too sexy, that is why they can't think of anything else other that sex
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We're talking about just in terms of dating right?
Generally
From women in general huh... I want your respect, kindness and understanding. Pretty much just general acceptance of who I am. If I can get that from you then we're gucci and I'll return the favor in kind. I want that from everyone for that matter, but we're talking about women here, so yeah.
Now are you just saying that or do you mean it?
I mean it, I have no intrest in tell you pretty lies. Note that I'm only speaking for myself here, I have no idea if any other guy feels the same way as me on this topic You've always striked me as the skeptical type, so I'll understand if you don't believe me.
I wouldn't say skeptical, just both guarded and analytical. I believe you, but I also think you're in the minority in that regard.
Guarded and analytical, yeah that's a better way of saying it. Yeah, I'd guess I am the minority. I always considered myseld a rare case when it comes to certain things, but I never say that out loud because I don't want to sound to like I'm calling myself special, because I'm defiently not. At least I don't think I am. .
Right but the thing is, it's the same guys who will say they're 'not like the others' or that sex isn't everything, that will turn around and make everything sexual. You can see where the skepticism would come from.
Yeah, I can definitely see where the skepticism comes from. I would say that's one example out of many even
Aye.
Coming from my prespective, if I didn't make every conversation I had with a girl be about romance or sex, my peers will just assume that I was gay. I had that happen a lot to me when I was in highschool. It was pretty damn annoying. Society doesn't make this issue any better.
That's very stupid
Exactly what I though, but the majority believes in stupid things all the time, that's how I see it at least.
Well that's because the majority are stupid
Yerp, lol. Always the reason why I feel like the odd one out.
Same
You are wrong. We also want sandwiches.
That seems like a generalisation and I would presume you're aware of it so the question fundamentally boils down to why are the people you've interacted with oriented the way they are, I don't know, could be selection issues. You can try dating apps if you think number of people you can meet in real life is too limiting. I'm sort of asexual and I don't know why but it seems like asexual people wouldn't be too hard to find if you wanna go that route. If you just wanna meet new people ok cupid might be a good site (swear I'm not paid, I don't even use it anymore but they used to publish interesting studies on humans)..
No, I don't think so.
Nope. Love, romance, respect, compassion etc
No, but
- it’s a high priority and harder to get then other things men want (for most men) so most focus on it a lot with attractive women where there’s an opportunity.
- it’s all some guys want, and those guys approach a lot of women since they’re always single
- if guys sense sex isn’t going to happen then nothing else she offers is relevant. If a woman isn’t sexually interested in me then... anything beyond friendship isn’t happening. And in that case either she’s fun to hang out with or not but I don’t care about anything else she has going on.
Sex isn't the only thing we ever want. However, it is one of the primary ways which we feel we are loved. It is something important to us.
Sadly, for a lot of guys, yes. But not all guys are like this.
No. Some also seek for companionship.
Yes and no
Nopes luckily
No not at all i want her for many things, sex isn't even important , just being with your soul mate is what is the best part to me. I am pleased to say i have been with the most amazing lady for 30 years and i wouldn't trade her for anything. unless the batmobile is offered. she would have to go. then im afraid LOL
It has been said that, were it not for sex, men and women would throw rocks at each other.
Not really, companionship is probably better than the sex sometimes.
It became more apparent as I went through college. That just because I slept with this girl the first day we met. I really enjoyed how close we became, hanging out, going shopping or out to eat together. It setup the parameters that our friendship ended up much deeper than just having sex. Eventually she said she always wanted me in her life, and I couldn't agree more.
yes you have mf 😐😂
I have not. If you're alluding to our replies then I wouldn't term that a conversation.
then this proves my point on my other point i was gonna make, thats because women dont give the guys that dont a chance, they chose the shitty guys over the good
Incorrect, I avoid shitty guys and the only guys I've given chances gave the illusion of being one of the 'good' ones.
that makes them shitty guys too, statement stands
my**
I'd give good guys a chance if they existed
this would be the perfect time to look back and think of all the guys youve rejected, there's probably plenty in that handful, just saying missy 🤷🏽♂️
Alright the majority I've rejected because I knew for a fact they were only interested in sex. The ones where that wasn't the reason, it was simply because they couldn't hold a proper conversation. It doesn't matter how nice a person is if you can't get past 'how are you', you get me?
yea i can't blame you on that but basically my point is that they exist, they might just be in the most unexpected places, such as in your rejection list, in friendships, even your friends siblings for all you know, if you are waiting for life to make it easy for you to find them then a recommend you dont hold your breath.
Well I'm not looking for anything and I never have, I've always thought the best things will happen unexpectedly so I've just gone with the flow, but that's resulted in being disappointed many, many times.
the best things come with effort, if you put no effort then you can't expect it to just fall out of the sky, if you have a job but you dont work, dont expect to get paid... you know?
Trust me mate, I'm all about effort.
well you just told me you aren't looking for anything and never have, sorry to tell you but that doesn't sound like effort to me
if you are those girls that play hard to get for everyone then thats most likely not helping in this casr
case*
You're not understanding me lmao. When I say I'm not looking for anything I mean I'm not on dating sites, but when I happen to meet decent guys I put effort in getting to know someone. I never play hard to get, if it comes across like that it's because I'm genuinely not interested.
when you shouldve specified that earlier, you are just letting me run my yap talking all kinds of shit lol but alright then your luck is just terrible or you attract the wrong crowd or both, i can give you one of my male minded ideas if you want, reason i call it male minded is cause it requires effort you might not be comfortable with but i believe it can work eventually
go on
Friend: dude, I don't understand why she's playing hard to get... Other friend: Maybe she's just not into you like that. Friend: *existential crisis ensues*
alright sit back and grab a snack cause this is gonna be long first im going to start by saying the guys you are attracting now are guys that want you for sex correct? so as a guy myself, i know how its like to have a dick and the mind of a dude, these guys run on looking for physical appearance, thats how they target their "victims" im sure if these are all the types of guys you are attracting its most likely because you have a very good physical appearance, remember that these guys usually try to target the best looking women so they can fuck and brag and do whatever tf these fuckers do so an idea that of course im not sure will work but can have a chance of working is if you downgrade your physical appearance now hear me out, im not telling you to make yourself look ugly nor am i telling you to change anything at all in your personality, what im suggesting is that im sure you try to look your best when you get ready to go outside and i know women love their makeup and personally i dont have a problem with that but i do gotta admit that makeup if its done right can make a girl look stunning, which just makes you a higher target and im really not trying to bash on makeup cause it doesn't bother me how women love makeup but what i think is that if you dont dress to impress them you might attract better guys because you ever heard that saying that goes something like "if he doesn't appreciate you when you look your worst, then he doesn't deserve you when you look your best" ?
i believe there's some truth to that, if a guy comes up to you and sees you beautiful when you aren't even trying to look beautiful then it shows that maybe he isn't just looking at you as a sex object because he isn't following this trend of looking for sexy stunning women to fuck, he is following his own brain and looking for a girl that he personally finds beautiful and usually shows he is taking his own path which can mean that what he is seeking for isn't sex but someone he can spend his life with.
I don't even wear makeup
doesn't go for just makeup clothing too dude
but if you are stunning without makeup too then I don't know what to tell you, you are cursed
Yeah it's nothing to do with looks, the majority of men just view women as sex objects regardless.
you can only blame society, what can i say, its just gonna get worse
Yep.
Nah... sex is a pretty awesome thing. But if sex is the only thing a guy thinks women have to offer, he's really missing out.
I prefer intelligent, compassionate, well-spoken women both in sexual and non-sexual settings. Intelligence often makes for better lovers so it's not many traits not normally considered sexual wind up being sexual since sex involves your whole neing
Umm, men ain't the only one. Constant rotation in my psyche. I just don't implement my thoughts until I have a full understanding of whom I'm dealing with before engaging in a plan of any type of relationship. If I have allowed you in my space. I'm attracted to you. It's what comes out of your mouth that will progress your intentions towards me.
depends on the guy
but 95% of men probably want at least sex from woman
may be your too sexy, that is why they can't think of anything else other that sex
False, they'll do it with anyone