Is there a difference between sexual tension and sexual chemistry?

[Sarahdelacruz]

So I want to save myself for marriage. I just want to know if it is possible to know if the sex will be great just from the sexual tension? Because there’s guys that I spoke with online and felt some form of tension/chemistry where I can imagine myself having sex with them. But of course this is all in the mind but I do feel that maybe that also plays a part? Since I have no experience I’d just like to know if there’s anyway to tell before sex if it will be good or not? What’re some feelings to pay attention to? What’re some advice you can give someone with no experience who is waiting for marriage. I also have never done oral or kissed anyone. I do not plan on having oral sex or foreplay before marriage either. I just hope to have great sex whenever I do get married but seriously want to know some signs I should pay close attention to that’ll help me make the right decision when that time comes. I have spoken to some guys that I felt absolutely no sexual tension or connection with. I cloud just view them as just a friend and nothing more. So maybe that’s something to pay attention to?

[Cubus]

I think a true love is when you are able to sacrifice yourself for him/her, by doing something you wouldn't normally do. Don't know if you can call it "sexual chemistry". Depends on your definition.

[Sarahdelacruz]

I agree with the sacrifice part.

[Cubus]

Well, I don't know if I am a right person to talk about it, as I am a virgin too, but I've been in love, and from my experience "chemistry" is when just being with that person, talking with him/her, hearing him/her voice makes you joyfull. And the previous mentioned sacrifice, like by helping him/her in something you don't like normally, but deep inside feel you like it, if you do it for him/her. You don't really care about her look, but are attracted to her in person, her depth. You will find her the most beautiful creature in the world, no matter how he/she looked.

[Sarahdelacruz]

Yeah I looked at the sacrifice part as satisfying your partners needs

[Cubus]

Can I PM you?

[Sarahdelacruz]

Sure

[loveslongnails]

YES - Sexual tension is what happens before you find out if there actually IS sexual chemistry when you do something sexual !!! LOL

[Sarahdelacruz]

Lol thanks for letting me know. So is it possible to have sexual tension but no sexual chemistry? Also is it possible to know if there’s going to be sexual chemistry before having sex?

[loveslongnails]

If you never have sex, you will never know if you have sexual chemistry. There can be all KINDS of tension between people, including sexual, but until something actually HAPPENS, it's all just in your heads.

[Sarahdelacruz]

Okay thanks for letting me know. Is sexual chemistry something that can be built overtime or is it something that’s a hit or miss?

[loveslongnails]

That's really an individual thing. The more you get to know and like a person, the more you tend to feel an overall attraction that "might" include the physical, over time. But remember, it can happen to only one of the people involved and not necessarily both. Is that considered "tension"? Maybe not if it's just one party. Then it's frustration !!

[bean2k21]

One balance the equation the other don't

[Sarahdelacruz]

Can you explain what exactly do you mean?

[bean2k21]

No..

[Sarahdelacruz]

Ok no problem

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes there is

[Sarahdelacruz]

What’s the difference?

[BarryLiverstone]

Chemistry is how you will feel in the moment when you have sex and tension are the feelings you have already described

[Sarahdelacruz]

So is it possible to have tension but no chemistry?

[BarryLiverstone]

For sure. Imagine that feeling of tension. But then when you have sex someone is impotent or even abusive.