Its time we made up our minds, are angry men who are confrontational and aren't afraid to hurt people dominant or submissive?

[Anonymous]

There are two schools of thought when it comes to this.

1.) They're dominant because they're not afraid to take control or put down bullshit by any means necessary.

2.) They're submissive because, in being confrontational, they are giving away control of themselves to other people.

You ask me.. #1 is more accurate and those who peach #2 are just gaslighting. It doesn't matter how much you've influenced a guy's emotional state. If your limbs are no longer working and it's clear that you either do what he says or worse will happen to you, you've still been dominated in the purest form.

What boggles my mind even more are people who flip-flop between the two.. as if there's something that makes any two situations regarding this different.

Well, if there is, I don't see it.

[0112358]

Power is dominant.
being able to control others is power.
being able to control yourself is power.

angry and confrontational people dominate others till they bite off more than they can chew then they get flattened. Of course there are bullies who bully those they can and suck up to those they can’t. It’s hard to respect people like that.

[Asker]

In order to control others, you have to sacrifice control of yourself.

[0112358]

Lmao. No. You can’t even fight well if you lose control.

[Asker]

Okaayy.. but if you were fully controlled, you wouldn't be fighting. Use your head. There's a trade-off.

[0112358]

Not often. But there are times you might. Still you seem to be focused on hot heads. They’re generally either just bullied or more like an animal. It’s dangerous but it has no brain. Is a hurricane dominant or a volcano? I wouldn’t describe either that way. Guys like that can’t control people effectively. They can make someone in front of them do something but they can’t manage. They can’t run an organization. They’re thugs. They couldn’t even run a gang.

[Asker]

You're saying the people who run businesses have genuine charisma? Fuck no. It's called being in control of people's pay.

[0112358]

CEOs report to owners. They get fired if they’re not effective at transmitting direction to a group. Yes, most CEOs of significant organizations I’ve met had a lot of charisma; presence in a room, calm but focused demeanour and so on.

[Asker]

Lmao yeah I'm sure they do have a calm demeanor.. until they don't get what they want. Are you kidding me? Come on, you're almost 50!

[0112358]

I’m wondering if you actually know any powerful people.

[Asker]

No but I have common sense. People are only as calm and collected as they can afford to be.

[Asker]

How the fuck do I know this and you don't despite your higher life experience? You have lost the right to speak.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

They're neither.

They are angry, confrontational men.

They may have reason to be angry and confrontational. In which case, they're simply expressing themselves.

They may have no reason. In which case, they're emotionally stunted man-children.

Dominance and submission are more about constant mindsets than flash emotions. Even the most in-control person can have flares of emotionality.

[G3tAClue]

Anger and being confrontational has nothing to do with dominance. If anything, showing anger shows weakness. Not caring if you hurt someone makes you an asshole and does not merit respect from anyone.

[Asker]

Seeking respect from people is a submissive trait. It makes you a kiss-up.

[Asker]

"Oh yeah, I'm so mentally strong that I NEED people to look up to me."

[G3tAClue]

Lol that’s not how respect works

[Asker]

Then explain to me in a way that makes an OUNCE OF SENSE (and make it it good) how it works.

[G3tAClue]

Are you just asking this question so you have an excuse to act like a cunt?

[Asker]

Don't deflect. Defend your retardation.

[Asker]

That's what I thought. THINK before you type.

[Anonymous]

This question seems to indicate that you do not understand what being dominant means.