Locking eyes after kissing with my friends with benefits, what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I have a friends with benefits for 10 months now and I think I may be falling for him and just in denial. To test the waters and to know if I really do like him, I kissed him after sex, we usually just give eachother a quick kiss goodbye after our sessions but this time, I asked for a different kind of kiss, he initially leaned in to peck for our normal goodbye kiss... But I requested we kiss a bit more. After briefly making out, our eyes locked for a second or two before we head out. I was a bit shocked as we both did it at the same time.
Am I really falling for him? What does it mean for him? I'm confused with my own feelings. I know we're just friends with benefits.
He's my first friends with benefits and I don't have other sexual partners. Help?

[AustinMan]

I'd suggest a strategy something like this: sit him down over an intimate drink, looking especially nice, and open by apologizing. Tell him that if you've misread the situation, you apologize in advance, don't want it to in any way damage what you have, and will never speak of it again. That you feel there is some chemistry developing between the two of you that feels like something beyond friends with benefits. Does he feel that way as well?

This takes you off the hook before he can get spooked and react. What do you think?

[Asker]

I'm really thinking about it. I didn't misread the situation. I know exactly what I'm getting into. But I also didn't expect I want him more than the casual thing we always do. At this point, I'm just scared of taking the risk.

[AustinMan]

Just prepare yourself for no but give yourself a chance at yes.

[Berethor]

Looks like it hard for you to keep that relationship as "just" sex, and it's understandable

[Asker]

It really is. Now I'm contemplating whether to take the risk of confessing and things falling apart or just leave it as it is as I don't know if he likes me back or not.

[Berethor]

You know, most people consider dating and kisses as relatively minor things, and sex is what seal the deal, but in your relationship with him it's like the other way around, and I find it quite funny. The friends with benefits thing was mostly his idea no? you always wanted more and that way your way of getting closer to him or you was okay being "just" friends with benefits with him and changed your mind later when you start falling for him? he is afraid of commitment or something? why didn't he make you his official girlfriend even though you already almost like his girlfriend, he knows you for 10 months, he have sex with you, and you are loyal to him and don't have other sexual partners, and now made out with you too, you basically like his unofficial girlfriend already, what is missing? you worried that you lose what you already have with him if you would be asking for "too much?" and you don't want to "ruin your friendship?" though here's the thing, you are not "just friends", so it not unreasonable of you want to become his girlfriend, in a sense there is less risk that your request would ruin your "friendship", you already know that at the very least he is attracted to you enough to have sex with you and to making out with you, so he can't friend zone you for being unattractive to him, maybe you feel partly friend zoned, because you want a romantic relationship and not "only" a sexual relationship, but it's not a full friend zone, and you already like his girlfriend at least in the sexual aspect.

[Berethor]

Look friends with benefits is more serious than a one-night stand by default, it's the closest thing to a relationship without officially being a relationship, and you been together for 10 months, it's more than many official relationships last nowadays, also girls tend to be more emotional than guys, so it not surprising that you had fallen for him. You been having sex with him for 10 months already and so far he didn't reject any push for making your sex and relationship as whole more romantic, so your chances of success seems high, so you can go for it and confess to him that you love him and want him to be your boyfriend. Considering that you was not having those kind of kisses before then he likely already suspect that you are trying to make your relationship more romantic, but so far he didn't resist any of it.

[Berethor]

You can confess to him in a common way or you can do it in a more tricky way, just like you did with making out, you can tell him that you love him right after sex, it would harder for him to reject your confession at this moment, right after he been in such intimate situation with you, and right after he was sexually satisfied. You can also ask him for a different kind of sex this time or next time, or it can be the same sex but you would just be using different name for it, you can tell him that you like making love with him and see his reaction to that sentence, as it clear induction that you see sex with him as a romantic thing and not "just" as a sexual thing. Also does he knows that you don't have other sexual partners? many guys see it as a very romantic gesture, more than "just" making out and eyes lock, guys tend to be more territorial than girls, so usually it an important thing to guys, and it shows to a guy that the girl is wife material and not a slut, even if agreeing to a friends with benefit is usually not something that good girls do, but you manage to act like a good girl even in that frame.

tvtropes.org/.../IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship

tvtropes.org/.../SheIsNotMyGirlfriend

[Anonymous]

Never do friends with benefits that only tells the guy you’re only good enough to have sex with basically. Let him like you a bit first then sprinkle a little coochie on him if you want him lol :) <<<< this has worked for me.

[Mikelaughs]

This could mean different things, positive or maybe not.
Hmu if you want to talk about it

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/bPg3xCl_LcI

[Asker]

Thank you. 🥺

[es20490446e]

You are welcome ;)

[SavageGirl101]

Dude your def falling for him and he likes u

[AmeerX]

I think you should become boyfriend and girlfriend and marry later on

[Valnac]

That’s been my problem!
Friends mean friends,
You are not dating, you’re having sex.
You start getting feelings, it’s over!

[Asker]

Oh no.

[Walldo06]

Yep you're probably falling. Just stick to banging each other

[jogor20]

Time to change that friend that is the easy route or you can stay fall in love and grow as a person.

[Surfstyle1]

Oh shit run

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣🤣