Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health ■Me and my girlfriend are 3 years together at the start very intimate and all the last year and a half... no sex, no nothing, not even a grope, - I don't know I was asking about it to her and she just laughs it off, and I find out today she just uses the shower head to get off...
■Lovely. Anyway I don't know what to do I tried a few moves before but she kinda laughs it off and pushes me away... I'm honestly now just so pissed. It's like we are room mates, that hug sometimes and kiss on lips once in a while... any advice?
Me and My girlfriend haven't had SEX in 1 year and 7 months... I don't know what to do?
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20 43Seems rather obvious. I’m surprised you have stayed with her for a so long. How long are you going to stay with her not having sex? Another year? Two? Five? Ten? Thirty? Because if you do nothing that’s what will happen — nothing. if she’s consistently refusing you, it’s time to end it. If you are living together one of you has to move out. I would tell you to listen to Paul Simon’s “Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover”, but you don’t have a lover, just a roommate.
Hmm... when you say to him seems rather obvious what do you mean?
@RaversFantasy Seems pretty obvious that as a romantic relationship it's over. He should have left after two months unless she had a medical problem.
That's not normal. She's probably cheating. There is a limit to how much the shower head can do.
She needs to tell you what is putting her off about sex.
Bro, I think you KNOW already what has to be done, you have to make a decision.
You can put it off some if you want, but I can assure you if you're wondering, she won't change the situation, and not only that. . . I would not be at all surprised to learn that she's using more than just a shower head to get off. Sounds to me like she's jumping somebody else's bone and doesn't want to "cheat" on him with you. And why would she stay with you if she feels more loyal to him? Maybe because he's a low-life degenerate and she likes the lifestyle that you provide but she prefers him for sex.
I'll tell you something else, when you do decide to kick her ass out, I would expect her to go into a nuclear meltdown and say absolutely anything and everything she can think up to hurt you, including the truth.
Don't confront her with your mind half-made up. Win the battle in your own heart and mind first, then go fight it out with her.
In the future, don't ever let things get this bad for this long. You should have started asking questions after the first month. And after two, you should have already tossed her out.
You don't have a girlfriend, you have a roommate.
From what little you told me I'd say it's time to look for another girlfriend... Not to say sex is something that she's required to give you... But three years and she gets herself off... I figured she's not that into You to be honest
Jeez... how long before you take the hint?
She is probably using you as a sugar daddy who is good for paying the rent and providing food but no longer qualifies as a sex partner. Grow a pair, dump her, and find a girl who appreciates you.
There's a reason why she hasn't had sex with you for 1 year and 7 months I would be asking her questions and if all she does is laugh or smile somethings not right for sure
unless you ask questions things will remain as it is, If I had a married wife who wasn't having sex with me or any other sexual pleasure I would be asking questions for sure
you don't deserve to be left in the dark about things?
Ditch her. She's supposed to be your lover, not a roommate. Wouldn't surprise me if she was cheating too. The fact she laughs at you for wanting intimacy is the real insult, I wouldn't stand for that even the first time, let alone for over a year
If you up for it, Tell her how the whole situation makes you feel, then tell her what you need, and make the request of what you want. If she's not willing to be truthful and speak with you, then you have to think about your next steps. Its tough becuase you guys live together but 1 year is a long time for no nookie in a relationship that was previously active.
If sie doesn't want sex, and you're not happy with that, and talking to her doesn't work, kick her out. Find someone who will take care of your needs. Her laughing it off is a massive problem. It shows she does not care, and is likely cheating.
Talk to her, if things dont get better, leave her for someone who can appreciate you.
Bin her and get on with your life , she does not give a shit about you , bluntly put , but afraid that's the truth , life is too short to waste in worthless " relationship "
The answer is obvious... get out, and get out now. You're too young for this to be happening now. Don't try to talk it out, or work it out. The spark is gone and so is she. GET OUT now !
She's likely banging someone else, but even if she isn't, why haven't you dumped her and moved on? What are you afraid of?
and you're still staying with her. The world wouldn't be so full of entitled bitches if it wasn't for guys like you to begin with.
It needs a sit down and a frank talk.
No just laughing it off.
But I would have thought you would have talked before.
As you say, she gets what she wants no need for you.
Sadly it's a time to find someone new if the sex is do important.
I don't know about the living arrangements but she may listen if she needs your input in living costs.
I would say firstly explain to her how that makes you feel and try couples therapy
Find out who she's fucking? Go off and masturbate 'cause you ain't gettin' any.
Time to move on bud,
It sounds to me like she's shagging someone else. If she won't discuss the issue, just tell her it's over and kick her out.
Simples...