Men can't control themselves?

[SheWolf718]

I see it from time and time again, I have received tons and tons of unsolicited dick pics and it made me wonder, men really can't control it. I am on whisper so many men are married, or engaged and their spouse doesn't know and they are being sexual with women on there. With the action to cheat. Now a lot of women are on there also but most are bots, but there is cheaters.

Now why would I wanna date a guy who sends his dick to every girl around? Do decent men do this? Is it really hard for men to control this? I since then have deleted the app because it was one of the main reasons why I have lost hope in men. I am a bigger girl and I feel like men only fetish me (especially on there) I thought maybe I'd find someone decent by now (Not on the app, just in general) Why is it so hard for me to? This really ruined my self esteem and I haven't had the best luck with men and this just made it more difficult.

[MrOracle]

We all want the things that are hardest to get. Men prioritize sex, because that's the hardest thing for most men to get, and women prioritize relationships, because that's the hardest thing for most women to get. But that's why you have so many men pursuing sex rather than relationships - for a whole lot of men, relationships are a much lower priority than sex.

The dick pic thing is also due to different priorities. As a woman, you are of course fully aware that if you sent a nude pic to most men, they would love it and want more. The vast majority of men would not be offended by a nude pic from a girl - just the opposite in fact. But there are plenty of guys who don't understand the differences between men and women, and so they project their own desires onto women, in this case assuming that women will be just as happy and aroused by a dick pick as a guy would be with a nude from a girl. Most of the time, they're wrong, but maybe 20% of the time, it actually works, because there ARE some girls who like getting them. A lot of guys who send dick pics are simply sending them in an effort to locate the girls who like them, and they don't care about the girls who don't like them - if it doesn't work, they just move on to the next girl.

I certainly don't condone cheaters, and anyone who asked about it, I would tell them that they either need some relationship therapy or they need to break up. Having said that, we all know that SOME women will cut a man off from sex for months or even years in a relationship, sometimes without even being able to give a reason, so I *do* understand (even if I disagree) with why some men cheat. Other men just feel entitled to getting whatever they want all the time, and those guys are clearly in the wrong.

Anyway, hopefully this helped you understand a bit of why this happens, and maybe it will help a few guys get a clue about why sending unrequested dick pics is a bad move.

[GingerGuy]

Unfortunately women usually ONLY see these guys. The "good" ones have better things to do lol. But yes we certainly can. I've never understood this. I have a theory though. We guys like attention also, like you women do, and we often don't get any or very little from women. We are also visual, and I think a lot of guys can't really understand how you women aren't the same way we are (ie, we love looking at a naked woman and often are aroused by it, where women not so much if at all). So bottom line, I think guys do it for attention, just like women (for those that do). But personally, I have no desire at all to send nudes. To even consider it, it would have to be someone I was with and trusted enough and, SHE would have to ask me for them. Even then I don't know if I would to be honest. But yeah, I think it's for attention and guys can't understand how women wouldn't enjoy seeing it I think, because we do with you.

[Ks8rbtb]

The "men" will gaslight you into oblivion online especially here.

Just stay away from these idiot selfish perverts.

Only speak to respectful normal decent men eho never bring up sexual things unless its to say they are waiting for marriage.

Even then, they could be lying. So keep your eyes open.

[saffoler]

Men can control themselves; boys can not. Most guys have been conditioned to be boys their whole lives. It is how government can control society.

[PenkWing]

I don’t think it’s lack of control in itself. It’s a mix of sexual frustration, lack of communication skills, and feeling entitled to attention. On top of that, men usually don’t pay the consequences when they bother others. The incentives are in favor of just trying and seeing what happens. An application like Whisper has zero moderation so that’s even easier.

This might be one of rare the good times to say “not all men”, because an app like that one tends to concentrate the misbehaving men, while you’re gonna hear less from the “good ones”. Still, saying that not all men are like this is half a lie, because you will be exposed to these men all the time.

[ohshee]

There's time I go to a random stranger chat site and there's been many times where I will click on somebody and before they even say hi I receive a picture headed to some guy's dick and I see bro I'm a guy what the fuck I don't want to see that little thing put it away you're embarrassing yourself and of course they click off really fast so I think that you might be right because why wouldn't they even say hi first or find out who they're talking to before they send a picture it's kind of really stupid I think. It was even more stupid is they actually think that that's going to turn somebody on I don't understand it I mean I'm not going to say anything to negative about it because I've been asked before and I have before because she had a stand we were heading that direction LOL

[Guffrus]

The fact of the matter is that there are women out there rewarding the behaviour with sex.

This is choice being made by women, not men and there is where the blame belongs.

[SheWolf718]

I am sorry I am not understanding what you said.

[Guffrus]

Well, if a guy can get laid by basically putting in no effort and just spamming dick pics around the place and get laid from doing it, he is not incentivised to do anything different. If the behaviour werent being rewarded by women with sex it wouldn't happen, so it is women who are making this choice, not men. These men are simply responding to or conforming with the pay off matrix which has been created by women.

[SheWolf718]

I am not having sex with these men, lol.

[Guffrus]

And i am not sending random women pictures of my penis. But the men who do do not need 100% of women to reward the behaviour, only a sufficiently large number compared to the effort invested. You dont need a high number to make it profitable because the investment is small and there is no reason to think that an investment of 10000 times more effort will get you any further.

[Guffrus]

Its like blaming Mexicans for crossing the American border. Mexicans are creating that situation, Americans are, if you dont want them crossing the border, stop employing them. The fact of the matter is that some Americans want to exploit cheap, illegal Mexican labour and Mexicans can earn more money working illegally in the US than they can by staying in Mexico. It is simply the result of the pay off matrix.

[HighValue]

Many more women cheat. There is a site Ashley Maddison that even made the news multiple times for it. The site's purpose is for married women to cheat and it was one of the most used dating sites.

[SheWolf718]

This has nothing to do with women, I am talking about men. To say more women cheat is ludicrous.

[HighValue]

I was just pointing out that married women cheat and yes, statistically from dating site recorded interactions, more married women cheat. there have been studies on it before. Your post seemed to just bash married men so I thought i should point out it isn't an exclusive trait to men.

[Texaskid1]

"You don't get the dick picks you deserve but the dick pics you need."

The Dark Dick.

[Ks8rbtb]

Reported.

[Texaskid1]

@Ks8rbtb ohhhhhh... How I tremble in fear.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

They're the same men who get turned on by a pussy pic.. even though a pussy is just a fucking hole.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Basically I'm saying they're tasteless and stupid.

[SheWolf718]

it sucks.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

So now that I've said something feministy, do I get nudes now?

[SheWolf718]

You're a funny one.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Yes.

[Recurrence]

I don’t send anything unless I’m asked and I want to

[SheWolf718]

That is completely different, I am talking about guys who send without asking permission. It is different when it's a mutual occurrence.

[DiegoO]

Am, well I don't send dick pics, and I certainly wouldn't be watching other women's if I had a relationship. If I ever had to, I would rather brakeup (been there).

Don't generalize. I am sure most of us don't send dick pics.

[ewok737]

I guess they think a girl will like them for their dick , they kinda look the same for the most part.
I will only send one if it's requested and I don't get many requests.

[FireFox001]

I only send unsolicited deck pics.

[nudeNhorny]

Men are always horny

[Shy_Steve]

We just have trouble controlling our sexuality, You Girls don't get the same urges we do when you see someone attractive.

[jimmy2]

You must be so fine

[SheWolf718]

I am not, lol. I am a big girl