Sexual Relationships 
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- You feel it's your responsibility to show her a good time, and that means you being active and decisive.
- You feel the pressure of gender roles, and that you are 'the man' and it's your 'job' to always be the dominant, more active one.
- Sometimes you'd prefer to be 'the sub', but there's a part of you (or you think her) that doesn't believe you're masculine, manly, enough, if you're not the one dominating/controlling her.
- Sometimes you're tired, had a hard day, and would actually prefer to just lie back and not have to think or make any decisions.
- Variety, creativity, and keeping it spicy is your job.
- You have this instinctual, yet perhaps illogical, feeling that your masculinity depends on your sexual performance.
- You believe the quality of the sex you both have is based on your performance (not hers.)
- The thought of 'Mechanical difficulties' stresses and sometimes psyches you out to where the equipment doesn't work as you always want it to.
This question is about partnered sex with a female, and your role, and her role, in that.
I'm just creating this topic to allow you the space to air your thoughts. There's no judgment here. Anyway, feel free to discuss, chat, explain, or vent.
What Girls & Guys Said
2 24Often. Men are generally considered to be responsible for the pleasure of both partners, and are viewed as jerks when they don't take that seriously.
The most with me are the feeling of being a failure when engaging in sex after marriage night
Because that happened, or it's a fear that has not yet happened?
@amandayvr It's fear and a few times with my first ex-gf, I couldn't get turned on and I was attracted to her
So if I understand you correctly, no intercourse until married then? Yeah that would be a lot of pressure. It's such a big night then. A lot of married couples who have been sleeping together before they marry, just go to bed without sex on wedding night. It's too exhausting a day.