Most men overrate their performance in bed, true or false?

Most men overrate their performance in bed, true or false?
A survey of thousands of people on male virgins first time sexual performance yielded contrasting results. Almost all men claimed their performance was either superb or good. Yet most women who had slept with male virgins said the guys were terrible.
Who's telling the truth
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Superb Opinion

  • The only "review" I got on my first-ever performance was that the girl was excited for more. I'm sure I was far from where I am now, but I *did* know quite a lot about sex from books and articles (many written by women) that I'd read, and so even if I lacked real-world experience and time to refine my techniques, I also wasn't totally lost. Unfortunately for me, the girl's mom had gotten a promotion before we started going out, and in less than 3 weeks, they'd moved away. We were only together 6-8 times before she was gone.

    My second girl ended up breaking down into tears after the third time we had sex. I'd told her that I'd only been with one girl before, and only a handful of times. When I asked her why she was crying, she said that I had lied to her - that after talking to her friends, that there was no way I could be as good at sex as I was without having slept with dozens of girls before her. I was shocked - because I'd been worried - with both girls - that I wasn't good enough and that at any moment they'd cut me off (essentially, I had "imposter syndrome" where you don't think you deserve something good) - and, yes, I still had some self-esteem issues back then. We had a long talk about it, and I even gave her some of the books I'd read (several of which she loved), and after that, everything was fine. But I'm pretty sure I did fairly well considering my limited experience.

    These days, I have a good-sized group of friends from the BDSM world, and I have a good reputation among them (as I've been told by several), and I've gotten plenty of direct positive feedback from girls I've been with, so that's more than enough for me. I'm sure there are guys who are better - certainly guys who are better-looking, in better shape, and with bigger dicks - but I do all right, so I waste no energy worrying about that. What would be the point? If your team wins the superbowl, you still get a ring, even if you aren't the starting quarterback. As long as I'm ranked near the top, I don't need to be in first place to be happy.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Hah. The first time I had sex, I was ecstatic. I tried not to act like a virgin nube, but I was actually agog and practically trembling with excitement. To finally see and touch a nude girl was a long time dream come true.

    When I fingered her, I was surprised at the feeling of gooey squishiness. I had seen photos of nude women but didn't know anything about pussies because all they showed were bushes. All I knew was that women had a hole where the penis was supposed to go, but that's it. This was 1970, way before internet, VHS or DVD players, so I hadn't seen any porn.

    I was 16, she was 14 and had been in one previous, short relationship, so she wasn't a virgin. She was also on the pill.

    She had the hots for me. We had been boyfriend-girlfriend for a very short time when she invited me into the house trailer in her parents' back yard one night. There was dim light coming through the windows, so it wasn't dark inside.

    Once we were naked, we rolled around kissing and groping, but there was no foreplay beyond that. I didn't know about erogenous zones.

    I mounded her missionary-style because I didn't know about anything else. Once I was inside her, I lasted probably less than a minute. So I was complete shit in bed, but she wasn't disappointed because she didn't have a whole lot of experience, herself, and was thrilled to finally have me. And I had no thoughts about rating myself. I was just euphoric at the feeling of fucking a woman and cumming inside her.

    We went steady for quite a while after that and had lot more sex. I improved greatly. Hers was the first pussy I ever ate and discovered wondrousness of a vulva up close. She guided me the first time in licking her clit. She's also the one who gave me my first blowjob.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I am going to generally agree with this. I have been with quite a few guys that were average lovers yet they felt they were total studs. Just a bit delusional.

  • Women are telling the truth but I think it’s not that big a deal as it’s their first time. Great sex comes with practice

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  • This f*cking chart man, I swear... Not to mention, the random Capitalizations...

    "Poppy is trolling."

  • I think most do overate , I can certainly concur that my performance as a virgin was utter horrendous , like shooting 150 :( awful.

  • My own first time performance is outstanding, the best 90 seconds ever.

  • Well I have to be honest the first three times that I did it I was highly disappointed I used to watch a show called Love American Style Our Love Boat and those people on their used to say that you would see fireworks well I didn't see fireworks the first time second time or third time the girl told me it was great it was fine but I didn't believe her though can I couldn't understand why I was pissed off because I'm not only gave up my virginity but I didn't have the best sex ever there was something missing.
    It wasn't until the 4th time she was going back to college in two days her mom is going to be done on Saturday so she wanted me to come over and I did but I had a week to think about it and this time I did it different and I made it all about her I mean all about her and this time I see the fireworks and so did she this time I would have to rate my performance as bitter and each time after learning then it's all about her and to please her it is just gotten better and better and better every time you look at sex until this day

  • Most of them were nervous as hell.

  • The really good ones don’t mention it at all. They don’t have to. Speaks for itself.

  • It isn't surprising that sex with someone who's never had sex (a virgin) is going to be disappointing. They don't know anything. They've never done it before. Everything improves with practice. Sex is no different.

    Sex with virgins seems to be an outdated, medieval fantasy. The best sex is always with a woman I've slept with before. Often I'm not her only guy and that's ok. She'll bring her experiences to our play.

  • Definitely the women, no guy is good on his first time. If they say they were they are lying, if they actually think they were, they are delusional and are probably still a shit lover.

  • I dont know any guy that claimed there first time was anything close to good but meh fair enough

  • I'm betting on the women telling the truth. Men's egos get in the way. In retrospect, I have NEVER thought I was 'great/good in bed but with one girl in my 20's because I had my tongue in her every orifice a lot of times during sex and she orgasmed a lot. We fucked a lot also. I was never bashful about doing anything to or with her. Should have married her.

  • Poppy, you're looking again for comments against men. My first time (many years ago) was okay... nothing special. She (who was not a virgin) and I enjoyed each other... twice.

  • I am marginal in the saddle, due to modest equipment and limited stamina.
    But I am expert at oral and fingering and say that without modesty.

  • I can only say that my girl was begging for thirds and I was just spent
    But that should say something, no?

  • I feel like they do, it's kinda seems like it's a tactic men use to attract qomen sexually so they mut it like a mc Donald's advertisement, you look at all the burgers and how juicy and fat they make it look on TV but in reality it's some flat sad little sandwich lol

  • This funny I just asked my girl about this I'm like am I'm ok in bed girl she lol and said I'm naked right now shut up and handle this I'm like bet LOL true story LOL 😂😂😂!

  • Most do, I don't.
    I really do provide 5-10 orgasms every time we have sex and upwards of 20/day on getaway weekends.
    THEN... I will cum.
    Not before.

  • I'm going to get it for this but. I would tend to agree with this. Most men do overrate their performance in bed. It's not that it's bad it's just not as great as they think.

    • Oh yes it is😂

    • @Creampiekarl420 So your saying men overrate their skills?

    • No women just expect the moon and the stars lower your expectations once we finish we need to recover this is why when I visit my female family members I always bring them Gatorade to keep in their bedroom in cum closing lower your expectations ladies we can help but if you expect us to do all the work you’re gonna be disappointed everytime I’m saying sex is bad for women because you lack our enthusiasm 90 percent of women are lay back and take it kinda women and if you don’t think so when was the last time you really exhausted yourself having sex with a man if you’re not fucking a guy like his ex is in the room watching you’re bullshitting and can’t blame men for that

  • XD man you really have perfected the art of trolling :D

  • The woman. I have had more virgins who are so awkward and cum so fast. I get nothing out of it.

    • do you give up on them after that?

  • is poppy trolling 100%

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