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Sexual Health My bf forced me to have sex with him when I was on my period, am I wrong to feel upset?
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When I have sex with my boyfriend, he often dominates me, and I love it, I am very willing to take part. Sex does get rough sometimes, but I encourage it. Last week I was on my period and not well at all, i had a migraine, awful period pain, and my period was very heavy. I just was not in the mood for sex at all. He was trying to encourage me, so i just went upstairs for a lie down. he came up after me , threw me on the floor, pinned me down, and pulled my tampon out, and forced himself into me, I tried to push him off, but he was too heavy, and I told him i didn't want too. In the end I just lay there , waiting until he was finished. Afterwards he just said", i loved it really". I didn't enjoy it at all, and didn't want it. The thing is am i wrong to feel upset with him. , cos usually when i have sex i enjoy it rough and him dominating me. He keeps telling me, i was just pretending i did not want sex, so he would dominate me, but i wasn't. I know its not rape, cos he's my bf, and he often dominates me, and i am a willing partner. I do worry in case it happens again, cos i did not enjoy it. It made my period cramp worse and i seemed to bleed even heavier afterwards. How should i deal with it, or how can i get it across to him, that i don't want sex when my period is that severe?
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21 19He's a rapist.
Boyfriend or not still doesn't change the fact that unconsentual sex is rape... I would dump his ass right away!!
he did just rape you. You need to talk to him about not doing that again.
This is rape. Its not okay.
That's called rape.. I love period sex but no means no
This was rape. I can give you two obvious reason... he forced himself in when you were pushing him away. Then you go off by saying you're scared he will attempt to do it again.
thing is i am confused , cos not sure if he really does think i wanted him he dominate me, i tried to make it clear.
Tell him you felt raped
Good poin, t i told him how upset i was , but i never said i felt raped, i will say that cos hopefully he will listen next time, thanks
he raped you my good lady
Explain to him after, if he does not understand that our period well, makes us feel like s### then I don't think he's the right guy. You are allowed to make your own choices, and that's not fair what he did. You feel terrible and he forces you to have sex? Wow. And he did not seem to care that you told him no. Take my advice girlfriend. K?
That counts as rape, he forced you to have sex after you said no.
Do you think he genuinely didn't realise you weren't just roleplaying?
Thata why im confused cos i felt so ill with my period and i can't understand how he didn't see that i wasn't enjoying it, but he acted like i was , usually during roleplay i am enjoying it, so not sure if he didn't care, or didn't believe i didn't want it, i can't understand how it can be rape when he's my bf and i have allowed him to dominate me in the past my heads spinning cos really dont know what to think at all
If you think he was actually mistaken and thought you wanted it then you really need a code word as others have said.
Uhm... isn't that rape?
Yes yes it is
he raped you
It was rape even though he is your boyfriend, and he knew you didn't want it and his excuse is you like it rough he is a rapist and you should consider if you want to stay with him.
Im confused how a bf can rape you though i have had sex lots with him and dominant roleay in past, dont know if he knew i didn't want it and didn't care or believed i i did, im confused as what to think , he knew i was ill with my period , and can't understand how he thought i was enjoying it , i clearly wasn't , usually i show signs of enjoyment
He has bexome comfortable enough with you that he feels like you are his property to do with as he pleases what next daily beatens no means no even if you are married, and of course his excuse is he thought you liked it and although it would be hard to convict him in court and you said no then it was rape.
Holy smokies.. daily beatdowns.. thats scary
Indeed it is
""i did not enjoy it. It made my period cramp worse and i seemed to bleed even heavier afterwards. How should i deal with it, or how can i get it across to him, that i don't want sex when my period is that severe?""
Tell him exactly that.
i did tell him, but he just said i enjoyed really.
Well tell him that you really didn't, and if he does it again then you might reconsider your trust in him.
he raped you. why are you still with him?
He raped you, you didn't give consent. You told him no that you didn't want it but he did it anyways. That's rape.