My boyfriend (24m) doesn't last long in bed. Any tips on how I can help without coming off as a jerk?
Now, the two minutes is once we actually get to PIV. There's always a bit of making out and either me jerking him off or giving him a bj before that, and that probably lasts around 10-15 minutes or so, give or take. Our positioning hardly ever changes once we get to it, aside from if we start with me on top - and that's just cause I suck and we both get fed up. Don't get me wrong, hands and legs will move but the overall position doesn't change. It's mostly just him going at it for a minute before he finishes. He's fast too, I don't know if that matters. Even if he says he'll go slow or be gentler, or even if I ask, that only lasts for a few seconds before he's jackhammering away again. I feel like it's pointless to ask again, so I usually just take it at that point.
He always apologizes for finishing so quickly, which I always reassure him is fine and that it isn't his fault - which it isn't and makes me feel bad for feeling this way about it. He isn't anywhere close to being new to sex, he's been having it regularly since he was 15, so it's not that. I don't think condoms would help either, as we used those in the beginning of our relationship before I got my IUD and he didn't last any longer back then. He says that he thinks it's just cause he likes me so much (most of the girls he's slept with have just been hookups) and that I "feel great", but I don't know.
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