My boyfriend doesn’t like eating me out but I don’t want to break up?

My boyfriend and i have been together for about three months now and he’s only eaten me out a few times. He acts annoyed or grossed out when i ask and says “do i have to” or “i don’t know right now”. I finally just told him that i felt like he was disgusted at my pussy, and he said it’s not me but giving head does gross him out. He said he thinks it’s the texture. I like making him feel good so i’ll offer to give head, but giving without receiving just makes me feel used. it’s the only way i can come other than a vibrator and he knows that. i can’t bring a vibrator with me every time we have sex. from what i’ve been reading, that’s a valid reason to break up. but i love him and i don’t want to…

i just wish he would enjoy going down on me. he said he’ll do it some times but i don’t even want him to do it at all if he doesn’t like it. i’m the only girl he’s done it to and he’s only done it i think twice, so maybe he just is inexperienced? he was a virgin before me. but he told me it grossed him out. i’m not stinky. if i was, he’d tell me, and i know that because he has before. he wasn’t rude or anything but he just said i was kinda funky and so he didn’t want to, and that’s fine. but i’m hygienic, shaved, i go down on him all the time (but now i’m not going to unless he will first because it just leads to me being sexually frustrated and feeling like he just used me to masturbate)… i feel like if he was really into me he would be willing to go down on me even if he didn’t like it much. i really don’t want to break up, and the sex we have is good other than the fact that i never come, but i feel like i’m never gonna be sexually satisfied if he hates oral. am i a bad girlfriend if i still occasionally ask for it? i’d be happy as long as he just did it once in a while.. what should i do? is there any way i can get him to like it? it’s a pretty big deal for me but i care about him a lot
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i broke up with him about a month after posting this bc he clearly lost feelings and recently he admitted that he cheated on me multiple times lol sooooo
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  • It’s only been 3 months and you’re in love? That’s infatuation honey. He’s already being honest and letting you know he doesn’t like giving oral. It’s very rare that he will randomly change and start enjoying it so don’t hold out thinking that he will.


    If it’s that important to you then don’t stay with him. If you can live without and still feel satisfied then stay in the relationship. I know it’s harder than it sounds. But sexual compatability is an important part of a healthy relationship.

    • i’m not in love but i do love him as a person and care about him

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  • He should man up and do it like not everything you do for your partner during sex is also pleasant for you sometimes you just have to do it

    • i think sex should be mutually pleasurable but i also wish he would do something for MY pleasure… i don’t think he’s immature in any other aspect, but him thinking eating pussy is gross is so immature :/

    • Like in total pleasurable for both but some acts are more for just one

    • yeah that

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  • Spend a little more time with your school studies and a lot less time about him!

  • I just wanted to comment to say your pfp is terrifying asf and will definitely give me nightmares 😭

    • i fink it’s funny ☹️

  • You can't get people to do things they are grossed out by. It's better to just find someone else if it's REALLY necessary you have that done to you.

  • Immaturity. Tell him he should be grateful woman don’t have a penis too. The amount of men that would reject blow if that was the case..

  • Stop blowing him, and he may come around.

    • yeah maybe he’ll come around

  • If I had a girlfriend, I would go down on her and she wouldn't need to shave cause I like hairy pussy but I would eat her out and she could lay there and cum like there is no tomorrow but your boyfriend is not playing fair with you

    • did you feel that way as a teenager? i kind of think he might just be saying this because he’s a teen

    • @lilyl02 As a teen I always wanted pussy but never happened to be sexually active at that age I was horny as a teen checking girls out

    • i bet, but as a teenager did you think eating pussy was hot? if you remember

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  • It sounds like if he doesn't like it and you love it, it's going to cause some issues down the road. Maybe not in a month or two or three, but do you think you'll be sexually satisfied in 2 years? 3?

    • if by then he still says it’s gross, no i will not be satisfied. he’s not squeamish at all. so I don't know how the feeling of my pussy is gross to him

    • Eh. I'm not squeamish when it comes to sex or gore, but rotten food skeeves me out. To each their own.

    • well, there was one time he fingered me and then the next day he had me smell his fingers because he hadn’t washed his hands since then. so i don’t think he’s squeamish about vaginas either

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  • you look very cute hard to believe your not also very cute there as well. So not sure why he don't like what you do as it is something i think most would trade with him. best of luck and take it slow your young yet. got rest of your lifes. and soon you will be 18 then i can tell you what i would really say then,. LOL

  • Well he won't change so you have to find someone else or get it from another guy if you stay with your boyfriend.

  • Tell him how big of a deal it is for you

    • i feel like that sounds kinda like guilt tripping though…

    • i’ve made it pretty obvious but i don’t want to outright say “it’s a big deal to me that you won’t go down on me” cuz then he will feel pressured to. well, do you think he would feel pressured? he said it’s the texture of my pussy that grosses him out. tbh, i think he just needs to try it more. i’ve never ate pussy but i fantasize about eating girls out all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️ i don’t see how it’s gross at all but whatever

    • It's best to be completely transparent. It's possible he knows you like it, but doesn't know it's a big deal for you.

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  • Can't control what people do. Only what you do

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  • Is this really an issue, can someone explain how a tongue, toy or finger is vastly different from one another. In fact, some say the finger and the toy is better.
    There are choices, this is America.

    The Crotch Commies won't arrest you if you choose one over the other.

    • it’s intimate and it feels better than fingers

    • Well the tongue can't go everywhere the fingers and toys can, Unless he's a total dickhead.

  • He’s a pussy. For next time, say you want to tie him up for kinks and then straddle his face. Don’t even say anything to him.

  • You need to find someone that like that and most guys would love to do that if it's clean down there.

  • He’s obviously gay in my opinion

    • he’s not gay😂😂 but i really don’t understand how he could think eating pussy is gross. i fantasize about eating pussy and getting ate all the time🤷🏻‍♀️

    • I can’t understand why a straight man would refuse to eat pussy.

    • It’s like the best thing ever

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  • I used to not like doing it, but now I really enjoy giving it. Have you tried 69 ? Maybe that might help your relationship.

    • i mean we could maybe try 69 but that’ll be another conversation 😂

    • may i ask what made you start liking it? was it just getting older? a specific girl?

    • Tbh I wouldn’t go down on every girl I went with but some and I started doing it when I was in very late 20s. I don’t mind it now. At first it was off putting but I think I’m grown up since. Hopefully this will help you

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  • If he ain't gonna go down on you then don't go down on him. Make him want to eat you out and he'll do it non stop

  • Use some flavored lube to taste.

  • Wow... Sorry for that. Some guys just don't and I don't get it either but some girls don't want to give BJs so it's kind of the same thing.
    If you want to be eaten often (or at all) you'll have to look elsewhere, but you should really ask him why before you end things.

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