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My boyfriend doesn't want to use condom the first time. Should I be worried?
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I never had sex before but my boyfriend has. I'm scared of getting pregnant so I want him to wear a condom. I don't want to use birth control pills because I did some research and it really messed up your hormones. He said if he uses condom then it won't feel special and it doesn't feel as good. He wouldn't be as turned on with a condom on... What should I do?
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16 32For yourself I'd use any of the other alternatives instead of the pills. As for the condom thing just tell him 'no glove, no love'
I understand where he's coming from despite being sexless myself but if he's had sexual partners before you should probably say you want a condom to be used at least till you've been together a while. If your both a virgins and he promises to not finish inside I'd have thought it's okay.
Not finishing inside is not an effective contraceptive. There's no evidence at all that it works.
Well. i can't say that's not true but if you have to do it without a condom I think it's better than the alternative xD
Using a condom when you aren't on BC at the moment is always wise. But I would at-least look into it if you plan on having sex regularly. It's safer than condoms, and there are many options to limit the emotional issues.
do it with a condom or dont have sex with him.
if you are only worried about pregnancy then u can do sthg about it witha very low risk rate:
1) have it right after your period, which should be far enough from ur ovulation also considering the time a sperm can live in ur body.
2) make sure he pees before the act. that would make his pre-cum (transparent liquid that may appear before a man comes) sperm free
3) make sure he comes outside.
point nr. 1 is a failsafe option in case he fails in point nr 3.
do all 3 together and u should be safe from pregnancy, not STDs though.
we use point 2 and 3 only but it comes with a risk and i am quite used to timing my way out. in ur case, all 3.
Tell him to shut up and put the condom on. People like him really tick me off, running around, spreading diseases, and risking women's health just to feel skin on skin. Your first time will plenty special with or without a condom on, be safe, don't let him push you around!
If you are not on bc, then he MUST use a condom unless he doesn't know where babies come from.
You know condoms are mainly used for std prevention, right? Birth control pills are mainly used to prevent pregnancy.
Yeah you should be worried. He puts his pleasure above safety.
Yes safety is very important, if you aren't sure he has an STD and don't want to have child inisit either he use a condom or there is no sex. Sex is a two party act your say is as important as his.
Female condom
You should definitely stand your ground and insist on it. The pleasure may be different but your risk of pregnancy is close to nothing if he is wearing one properly.
I would use protection u wanna catch or have baby soon but thats just an opinion
right no condom no ass. bet he changed his mind really fast
Take pills or use a condom. Don't let that oaf knock you up and cost you an abortion. Unless you want to get pregnant.
Wear a condom, don't listen to him
Oh ya, you can try female condoms. They are way nicer and feel better for guys. Plus they are stronger
don't do it unless he wears a condom
Well it's up to u
No condom then no sex. You should also fear getting STDs for having unprotected sex
Good catch, seeing as this isn't his first rodeo.
I thought that as long as he doesn't have STDs then I won't... Or am I wrong?
Well no you're not wrong but some STDs you can't know for sure he doesn't have like herpes unless he's having and outbreak and then I can't recall which one but I believe there is one that he can pass to you and not even know he has because there are no symptoms for males. I think. Don't quote me. Either way though make him suit up. It's the responsible thing to do especially because you're not on BC
Thank you so much. Part of why I don't want to have sex with him is because I'm not fully aware of these things all the way. I didn't want to risk it.
Your thinking is sound. Just don't give in when he says the magic words, I love you, to get his way
@prettykittt31 you're probably thinking of hpv (human papilloma virus) The worse it can do for males is infertility. The worse for females is cervical cancer. Woman got it worse. Some people don't show any symptoms i think, so there's no way of knowing except for urine/blood test. However there is a vaccine out there. Which i would recommend to everyone (if budget allows)
yes... you sound be more than worried
Tell him you only take it from behind with no condom but DEMAND one when it goes in your flower. www.oddee.com/.../...03_vagina-shape_4-flytrap.jpg