Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I (21 F) and my boyfriend (22 M) have been together for over a year and live together.
We were having sex (I'm on birth control) and we typically don't use condoms, he just pulls out. Well this time, he didn't. I was so angry. I asked why he didn't and he said he "thought I couldn't get pregnant" for some reason. I figured since I was on birth control I would probably be okay
Nope. Of course I'm pregnant. I don't know how far along exactly. I'm in shock. It doesn't feel real. I've always had irregular periods but when I started having cramps for 5 days and no period, I knew instantly something was wrong.
I scheduled an abortion consultation in the closest city to me (45 minutes away) I'm so scared and angry and I don't know what to do. Am I wrong for being so angry with my boyfriend even though it's my fault too?
I can't help feeling horrible. I know I'm an idiot but I just need someone to give me advice or something I don't even know.
My boyfriend got me pregnant on purpose?
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Updates:
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i know it has been some time but i would just let you all know i told my boyfriend about the pregnancy and had a long talk then made a decision together well long story short im still pregnant and will be for 9 months then we will be parents
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What Girls & Guys Said
14 18just try to talk to someone. remember something happens for a reason. im sure everything will be okay. you'll figure it out someday.
You have a right to be upset but at the same time, even if you were in birth control you should always use a condom no exceptions.
Abortion? So u will kill the baby?
Tell the dad first. . .
Glad to hear the update! I think you're making the right decision.
thanks and i think so too
The only way you got pregnant is if you had intentionally stopped taking birth control.
Birth control is not 100% effective.
@samhradh_leannan 99.7% if actually used. It's amazing how many women it fails for when it's so damn near unfailable. Admit it sweet cheeks, you wanted to get knocked up so you stopped taking birth control and told your boyfriend that you couldn't get pregnant.
Sorry, I thought it was the OP replying to me.
Yeah, it's very effective, but it's not unfailable. With typical use it is only 91% effective, and that includes people who are very careful and try their hardest to take it correctly. It's also important to remember that some health problems and some medications can interfere with the effectiveness of birth control. For example, antibiotics can mess with it- and doctors don't always remember to mention that (which is dumb, but it's true). All in all, that's why many people choose to combine methods (e. g. pill in addition to condoms or pulling out). You certainly can't accuse someone of trying to get pregnant simply because their pill failed.
in my opinion, it's like rape.
If they had an agreement that he would pull out, then yes, you're correct.
The time for blame has past. I'm not saying not to abort, but be warned that it causes emotional pain and makes it harder for you to conceive in the future. And if you do choose to keep it, you and your boyfriend should elope. There's also programs out there if you have a difficult time providing for a child, but if you do keep it, remember that child will love you unconditionally.