Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend has never fingered me or went down on me I don't know if I should ask him?
Anonymous
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 months now almost 5 and we live together. I am 18 and he is 21. I’ve given him blow jobs and jerked him off many times. He loves when I do so and I like doing it myself. I’ve just wondered why he’s never tried to finger me or went down on me. I haven’t brought it up but I feel like I should. I like getting fingered and eaten out it pleasures me. I feel like it would be nice if he could go down on me or try it. Maybe even just finger me if he doesn’t like going down on me. I have a very good hygiene and make sure I smell fine down there. I’m very clean and shave. He said he’s fine if I have a little hair but I’m not sure if he’s okay with it if he went down on me. I’m not sure what to do or how to ask. I just feel like I’ve been doing most of the work I always give him a bj or jerk him off. We have lots of sex but he doesn’t finger me or go down on me. I am usually the one to go down on him and then we have sex. He does other things like sucking my tits but also for a little. When he does so he stops after 3 minutes. When i pleasure him I take my time and I keep going to really get him in the mood. I just feel like he could at least try to finger me or go down on me. I feel like fingering would help me get more into the mood. I feel like I might be asking too much or maybe it’s just me. I’m not sure how to bring this up and tell him if he wants to try or maybe see if he likes it or not. I need thoughts about this. I just want to be pleasured like I pleasure him. He just usually gives me hickies which feels nice but that’s all he does, either that or sucking on my tits for 3 minutes. Am I in the wrong for wanting to be pleasured or at least fingered?
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 37Cause it's a one way street for most guys if you do what they want they aren't gonna do what you want.
That’s what I was thinking like I’ve been doing what he wants but what about me
Try to invite him to 69.
Fingering or getting fingered is not hygienic act , as for receiving oral most girls need to be eaten out for a better orgasm. You should tell him that you can't reach orgasm without receiving oral in your vagina specially your clit. He should lick out your butthole too for an INTENSE ORGASM if he is a good partner for you.
get him to go down on you much better
Sounds like he's a bit self centered and only worried about his fun time
Get a new guy
You're not wrong
You need to find somebody else to lick you or finger you...
maybe he is all about him
Ask him
He is gay
I hope you're still here..
Next time, climb on top of him in 69 position and then announce, "okay, you get started and then I'll join in."
Yes ask, talk to him. Communication is key. Fingering for example, you can also in the heat of the moment, do something like take his hand and put it there. Or if you give him a bj, say "my turn" after lol. You have to speak up though.
I guess take his finger and do it , then he will go it