Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health So my boyfriend isn’t usually pushy and he lets me make the first move because I’ve told him I’ve had a traumatic past of sexual assault.
We don’t have sex as much as we used to because it’s been hurting but we’ve been trying different things to remedy the situation.
Today after we kissed for a while he touched my vagina region (I was clothed) and I winced and told him it didn’t feel right and made myself more comfortable (it had hurt). Then later on I jokingly said looking at a goofy picture of him made me wet.
He tried to touch me again and I held his hand away and said Don’t but he touched me anyway. Later I asked him to please not push back when I say not to touch me and to just refrain from touching me when I tell him not to and he said “I can touch you wherever I want whenever I want because we’re dating.” I said no you can’t and he got mad and a fight ensued.
So I told him to please tell me if he felt he wasn’t getting enough sexually from me. He said he didn’t understand why it was okay for me to kiss him but when he touched my lady region I said no.
I told him I shouldn’t have to explain consent to him. He said he didn’t understand why it’s usually okay but today it wasn’t.
I wasn’t mad that he tried I was upset because when I asked him not to he resisted me and that when I asked him not to resist me saying no, that he got mad.
Girls and Guys what is your opinion on this?
My boyfriend said “I can touch you wherever I want whenever I want because we’re dating.” Am I right to be upset?
Anonymous
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Just a clarification: We do have sex. When I said we are trying different things so it doesn’t hurt I meant we’ve been trying lube, then organic lube, then latex free condoms, then adding toys and making sure they’re latex free then doing more foreplay etc. At that time we were kissing, he went to touch me and I was fully clothed and I stopped him and asked him not to because it hurt. He got mad and said what he said.
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What Girls & Guys Said
39 83you’re right to be upset. just because you guys are dating doesn’t mean that consent doesn’t matter. he needs to respect you and your feelings.
Your body is yours so it's fine if you doesn't want him to touch you but you're dating. Physical touch is essential. Explain it to him. Ask him to understand your situation and go slow, if he can't do that then leave him.
Not good enough - get away from him. If he cannot get his head around something beyond a toddler's or primitive understanding of consent that turns you into his property, then he doesn't deserve to have sex or breed.
If I'm not married to you iv no right to your body,
If I where i would probably feel like this.
First of all Dump his Ass... no Man /Woman has the Right to touch ANYONE. Who doesn't want touched...
Secondly ! You have every right to be upset its Your Body. its Your feelings. ... stick to your guns!
Yep you don't like it then you say "it's not me, it's You"
He is incorrect. Yes, you have every right to be upset. And you should probably break up with him.
I'd be upset too
You have every right to be mad since it is your body.
You might be in a relationship but it's your body
Yes you are absolutely right to be angry, once you tell him no he should respect your wishes.
He's an ass dump him
He’d have to go.
Lol.
Ummmmmmm? Upset that's more then upset that's rape.
Technically it's sexual assault, but yes you are right.
@Jackblue It has to be physical under uk law anyway because he just said it the best would be verbal abuse.
It's the traumatic past that upsets you - otherwise people find it a non-event
No one whoever has the right to touch you ever.
That fact that he thinks that should send warning signals and would make me nervous.
he feels rejected. I'm sure if he did it to you then you'd be on here asking why wouldn't he let me touch him
He should have respected your boundaries.
Ehm he is wrong. Dating does not mean consent in any form. Always ask first before touching your partner.