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Sexual Health My boyfriend wants a threesome and said he wants to have sex with other women and if I won't have a threesome with him he will cheat on me?
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I have loved him for 9 years. He told me after church one day after moving to California together that he wants to have sex with other women and if I won't have a threesome with him, he will cheat on me. Of course this broke my heart. About a year later I found his secret email address in which he had sent hundreds of emails on Craigslist looking for sex/threesomes with naked pictures of him/ and of me in some of them with his phone number. He promised he wouldn't do it again, but he has done other things that I just can't trust him. He swears he loves me but I dont know...
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34 51He's a piece of shit. Time spent with someone doesn't count all the time its if you click for marriage. That just really messed up for him to say that. Find someone better and shove it in his face.
Break up with that douche bag.
Dump him. A man will never share his woman with another person if he cares for her. Also a man will never cheat on the woman he loves.
I agree with you.
Run from him!!! You stated that your not married so just up and leave, but leave a nasty note on the table for him so he won't report you missing. Go back to your family in the other state and get a restraining order on him.
He sounds like a rat. File for a divorce.
Dump him now
Ugh, love at this point don't mean shit. He obviously doesn't even care enough about you to respect you.
I'm sorry but he doesn't love you, no guy who loves his woman would say that, if he truly loved you, he wouldn't cheat, he would just ask "maybe can we try a threesome?"'that way if you're not into it than it doesn't happen and he remains loyal
you deserve better then that after nine years.
I couldn't vote A or B because they just did my head in...
He has given you an ultimatum, right after church ("Did the message speak to your heart today, sweety?" "I want a threesome."), he has shopped around for likely candidates by advertising both of your physical virtues without your permission, in the hope that he could surprise you with an erotic present for your birthday. I don't think he is on the same page as you, and to top it off, if you don't get on the same page, he's going to take out another book!
It doesn't sound good...
let him cheat on you and dump him on the spot
break up with him
Do you want a guy who wants you, or do you want a guy who wants you and a whole bunch of other women? You're nothing but an object to him.
I am not a fan of relationships. But, if i was in one and truly loved the woman, I would want any one but her.
Frankly, this is ridiculous and as such tell him to pull his head in or sod off. Or turn the tables and say:
' Ok, I will let you have one after you allow me to have one with two guys...'
I bet his reaction will tell a tale
He's pretty much asking for your permission to cheat on you.
He will cheat on you if you don't have a threesome? So, after you have had the threesome, he will come up with a new and even more stupid excuse: he will cheat on you if you won't have a threesome with him and your sister or what ever the hell.
Sure threesomes are cool and healthy and all, but going to such lengths is a sign of Desperation. Let him despair on his own, you don't need this.
What a douchbag. You deserve better than him.
he's a fuckboy on all levels. Haha dump that bitch
He's a jerk and you need to leave him.
You need to drop him. As hard as that is, this ultimatum is not the basis for a good relationship. A year's worth of bad behavior is evidence enough this isn't a one time lark and he's going to change and be a good guy. It will continue, and it will be even more secretive.