My boyfriend won't lick me out!!! How do I get him to?

[Blondiebomshell]

We have been together for a year and a half and he has never once licked me out!! I've asked him and he always says no! I give him blowjobs! I've tried saying I'll not give him a blowjob until he does and he says he could live with that! Generally he isn't a foreplay person either and just tends to stick it in and go for it until he's satisfied with no regard for my satisfaction! Apart from this its a pretty perfect relationship but How do I get him to be a more generous lover! And before you ask I'm very clean, clean shaven and have been told by previous lovers that I taste good and have a perfect looking vagina lol!

[Anonymous]

Ill make it simple for you... To me Oral is an act of selfless and affections towards a women. there's something very special a women feels when your sucking on her juices. Most women prefer oral over sex easily.

In contrast there something very selfish with a guy that just sticks it in. Basically he's a selfish lover and doesn't really adore you or doesn't feel your special enough to compromise his rules. To him, if my friend told me that her sex life was the way you described it, Honestly Id tell her that there's a internal reason and it just happens to be showing through his sexual acts.

Just my opinion. But Some men just don't like it yes of course, but I'm not really sure why they dont

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I agree with Yadda. Don't pressure him to do it. It's obviously not his thing. DON'T start playing games with him by withholding affection or whatever else; this is obviously your issue, not his, as he has already said that he would be fine without blow jobs.

I know this guy. His behavior is EXACTLY like mine. I don't go down on women. I stick it in and work my magic that way. The sad fact is that you simply get more out of oral stimulation that vaginal whereas he is the opposite.

Personally, if this relationship is great otherwise then I don't see any reason for you to have to leave him. Every relationship takes sacrifice and this has got to be one of those things. Sorry babe.

[Blondiebomshell]

Mmmm but you say you work your magic? I really don't get anything from him sexually apart from being used as a hole to fuck

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

You obviously wouldn't feel that way if you got something from vaginal stimulation. Know what I mean? It could be psychological as well. A woman's psyche can have a major effect on sexual gratification. If you've grown resentful over your man not giving you oral sex then that may explain why you "don't get anything" from him.

[Blondiebomshell]

I do get vaginal stimulation... I came lots through it with my ex but my current partner isn't that big I feel it very occasionally but not for long so I guess it's not reaching my g-spot properly

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Could be the foreplay as well... it's not getting you in the right mental state. See if you can somehow get that going instead of the oral. He may be more receptive to that.

[Blondiebomshell]

Yes I guess I wouldn't mind mot being licked if he got me into the mood thanks I'll try that

[divspppp]

Sir I don't know what world you live in, but most women don’t get off from just intercourse and need oral. Only about 25% do. It’s quite sad you think you can get them off by doing just that.

[Anonymous]

Lol same thing happen with my ex. He was exactly like your bf. No foreplay, never lick me out. Only go straight to stick it in... He was a good bf though besides that fact, bu yeah... We're not compatiable if he's like that.

[arutha64]

he's bad in bed, to put it bluntly. And you continuing to have sex with him despite not getting much out of it (it seems) really just encourages his behaviour and gives him no reason to try to change.

Next time he tries to have sex, tell him you aren't turned on enough yet and want to fool around more. Or perhaps try to get a sex game of some kind that has a lot of playing around and try that.

[Jonny_]

Try withholding everything and see how long it takes for him to crack...

[WhoisntBi]

Withhold sex, I bet he can't live without that haha. Try reasoning with him as well, compare it to him not getting bjs & the pleasure he gets from them, you're missing out on it!

[Thewhitestdudeever]

He sounds like a selfish lover to me. Personally I love licking vag haha. He's probably a little grossed out by it and that's normal, I was too at first. Maybe you should stop going down on him and tell him that you refuse to until he reciprocates. I mean that's just not fair, sucking a dick probably grossed you out at first too but you got over it. It's an acquired taste, no pun intended haha.

[MyNameIsJonas]

I mean I love to perform oral sex on a hot woman but some guys are not into it. I really don't get it.

You should ask him why and get more details about why he doesn't like it. He should at least treat you to it once in awhile to be fair.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I'm sure it is perfect. If he's not gonna lick it, he's not gonna lick it. At this point your choices are to accept that limitation, or debate on whether the relationship is worth it

[ClauseViter]

^The truth, some people are just sorta repulsed, I mean it is a slimy orface that leads into your body, that's very close to your asshole, a multitude of crazy shit could be going on there, not to mention guys can be intimidated by the smell or taste, I don't know those guys prob just over think it, I find it hella hot tho.

[Mesonfielde]

By taking a shower previously. If he still doesn't then just don't do anything until he does, lol.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, these are things you need to talk over with him, to be honest i won't touch a girl
whose pussy's not hairy cause that's my preference , if she is clean shaven, bald she
has to look for man who will settle for that cause i am different

[WhiteRaven]

put nutella, icecream or something on it. I don't know

[JackKerouac77]

Perhaps he's had a bad experience before and is just unwilling to go back down that road.

Seems unfathomable to me. One of the best parts of sex.

[ralphie]

He has been with someone who had a odorless vagina. It is the best. Hard to go back to regular pussy smell and Taste. Try douche.

[Dragan]

Stop're giving him fellatio.

[DoraLikesSugar]

Why are you with a guy who's so selfish in the first place?

[This_guy_here]

A favor for a favor. No licking no sucking.

[This_guy_here]

By the way... you are super cute, that would be a must do for me (I have some type of face/vagina correlation) with all your respect. So, yeah getting and not receiving screams selfishness.

[Blondiebomshell]

Hehe thanks :) and I've tried this :/ he said he could live with no sucking!

[This_guy_here]

Hm... OK let's try ;) But I have heard psychologists answer comment on a situation like yours and this is simply BS.

[jmmmfi]

I'll never understand guys like this

[LuvsToLick]

Since you asked, I'll offer my opinion.
Lose this guy. There is no long term, satisfying relationship with a guy who does not care about your satisfaction in bed. Lovemaking is a very large part of a good long term relationship. After a number of years you WILL wind up resenting him and you WILL seek solace elsewhere. Not all men are good lovers. It takes experience but the man must have a desire to make your eyes roll back in your head... no matter what it takes.
His refusal to do this has revealed him to be a very selfish person by nature and it will sour things after time.
Personally, I love pussy. Nothing else about a woman's anatomy maters more to me.
I will overlook a lot of physical things for a woman such as you who practices good intimate hygiene.
Waste no more time on him and find a real man.
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Well if he doesn't want to do it, he doesn't want to do it. Like some of us (normal people), he might think its gross.

[Anonymous]

Push his head down there and say, "Eat carpet bitch".

[Anonymous]

seriously, after one year and a half, if he didn't do it untill now, he is not going to give you oral. at least you could try talking to him about it. and i mean not casually asking it, but seriously talking about it. about oral, trying to understand why he doesn't want to, if its him or you (i really hope its not you:)). maybe you feel better after. and definetly talk about the fact that you are never satisfied with your sex.
but im curious, you say he doesn't like for play either. does he like to kiss you? if not, it sounds like he's with you just not to be alone and for you to help him when ever he's horny.

[Blondiebomshell]

Haha no he does kiss me :) he's a very generous kind and loving boyfriend at other times. He's 30 and I'm his first gurlfriend longer than 4 months so I know he's not worried about being alone x

[Anonymous]

Talk to him help and gruid him though it show him what you like want ect. Use food and edible sex lnotions lube.