GAG Grammarian Alert!! Ok. If I have deciphered the terrible spelling and punctuation of your question, I think I can answer it.
You've done it twice, right? In just that amount of time, it's clear that you're very new and he's given this a lot of thought, probably over years. He knows he's a dominant, i. e. someone who wants to be in charge in bed and maybe elsewhere. He's also a sexual sadist and gets off on inflicting pain during sex. You're a babe in the woods and I don't blame you one bit for being reluctant to go full bore into the scene, as we call BDSM. I too am a Dom and a sadist so I know where he's coming from.
My recommendation follows:
1. Sit him down over an intimate drink, away from the sex, and tell him that while you find his kinks interesting, you're not at all sure you want to do them all and you're positive you don't want to just jump in head first. If he can't agree to some ground rules, you're out.
2. He needs to understand, very clearly, that in the BDSM D/s (Dominant/submissive) world, kinky starts, and more importantly, STOPS with the consent of the sub. He gets your consent before he does anything kinky or outside your comfort range and stops if you withdraw your consent.
3. Pick a safe word. This is your escape hatch. If you use your safe word, he stops, instantly, no questions asked. This is how you withdraw your consent during a scene. It can be any word that you won't use as part of sex: strawberries for example. It needs to be something you won't forget under pressure. Don't use it unless you really, really need to but if you need to, pull the trigger. Get him to agree to your terms: using your safe word stops everything, instantly. If he won't agree, move on. It's too dangerous.
4. Set a few conditions. a) Most importantly, the two of you talk about the scene first: what he wants to do, how intense he wants to get. b) Confirmation that your safe word is absolute. c) That you communicate clearly and honestly.1 0 0 15. He's asking you to place a huge amount of faith in him and it sounds like you're, quite intelligently I might add, not ready to do that. You need to make sure that he is crystal clear that as your Dom, he is COMPLETELY responsible for your safety and that has to come ABSOLUTELY first. In bondage play, you will sometimes be restrained in such a way that you can't get away even if you want to. That be be exhilarating if you're into it but terrifying if you're unsure. Initially, have him tie you with bows, like on your shoes, and enough extra rope that you can untie yourself if you get too scared. He can never, ever leave you alone when you're restrained. If something goes wrong, you're helpless. The list goes on and on. I'll be glad to chat with you here or, better yet, on messaging to make sure you understand your role AND HIS. If you message me, refer to this question. I chat with a lot of people about a lot of questions and you're posting anonymously.
Question, as a sub (that's right, right because I've heard a lot of other names used) what do I do. I know he does things like tie me up and stuff, but what do I do? Also what about punishments? Hat do Ido to get them an what are they?
What do you do? You submit to him and do what he tells you to do and if you really don't want to or can't, use your safe word. He should share with you, up front, his rules and how he plans to punish you for violating them. Again, if you can't or won't go along, safe word. Rules and punishments vary all over the place. An example might be that he requires you to get waxed bare, front and back. You show up shaved with a rash and still have hair around your anus. The punishment can range from time out to spanking to who knows what.
Go at your own pace, you don't have to do things you're uncomfortable with just because he's got some kinky shit going on. He'll have to wait, simple as that.
0 2 0 0How do I first start doing kinky stuff?
Little by little, just start by trying out things you want to do first.
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