My fiance tried having sex with me?

[Anonymous]

Our arrange marriage is fixed so we actually never met before but we talked online for months, we like each other. 1st day we meet, I stayed in his hotel room, we just cuddled and kissed all night. We both are virgin, not even kissed before. Second day was going well, everything was perfect, but then in evening we started kissing, he got very excited. He tried to excite me too but I wasn't getting wet. He tried eating me a lot I told him I'm not getting horny. But he still continued, I gave him 5 bj (he was over me) and he came in my mouth 5 times. He asked me multiple times if he can get a condom, I kept telling him no, and I also told him not keep his part close to mine but he kept rubbing me down there. He also tried doing anal, even when I said no. But he couldn't enter since it's tight. I once even tried pushing him away from kissing me, instead he started sucking my breasts. I just couldn't stop him properly, I was enjoying a bit kissing and fingering part but I didn't want this extreme since i was new at this too, I accept my fault here. I just didn't realize what was going on, I didn't want to make him feel bad since I love him. he is good at heart but I felt he didn't treat me right. I felt disrespected. In the end I got out of bed and then he started crying cause he was guilty. Today he tells me that he wasn't enjoying 2nd day either and he was doing everything to please me, then why the hell did he cum in my mouth so many time, and I wasn't even wet!! Do all girl like sucking dick or anal sex, especially virgins? No!! He should've asked me if he can cum in my mouth or not, or if I want anal or not before pushing his finger inside. He says it's not completely his fault since I didn't stop him properly, but I said no many times, and he should've stopped when I told him I wasn't horny. I'm confused about marriage. He told me sorry a lot of times, and we had a good dinner too, but I just feel like I don't have any feelings for him anymore. Am I wrong in this?

[Anonymous]

Let's see... where to start? lol First, you never did have feelings because this was "arranged" (probably why you never got wet either). 5 times! Really? That's really hard to believe because twice is about the max for most guys (he'd need to recoup and that takes time). But when it comes to sexual things in the beginning, you have to be very clear about what you want and don't want and lots of communication needs to happen. But he came on too strong and you weren't forceful enough with what you wanted and didn't want. But I'm not surprised this turned you off. You're not wrong (it's how you feel). So forget the arranged marriage (is this your families beliefs?), or find someone new if it's over for you now? Or, have a long talk with him and not only really get to know him better, but what needs to happen if things are to ever get sexual again between you.

[Asker]

I gave him bjs 5 times, i dont know what was happening, and he did let out a lot of salty liquid twice at least in my mouth which I didn't like at all. It was my first time and I just wasn't enjoying him over me, fucking my mouth, I gagged so many times. And I feel he should've stopped when I kept telling him I'm not horny. Second he should ask me if he can cum in my mouth or not. Third , when I told him I don't him to enter me before marriage, he should've just controlled himself, but he kept insisting for condom sex. Fourth, this anal thing, He should ask if I want or not, I'm not his property yet. Fifth, it was only second time we were meeting, so I definitely didn't want it, he should've discussed this with me before.

[Opinion Owner]

He should've stopped yes, but if there is a next time, actually tell him to stop. Not sure he would have anyway by the sounds of it, but yes hopefully it's the last time you see him. Very disrespectful.

[Asker]

Yes I told no for marriage... now lot of issue is going on. He is asking me to forget what happened. But I don't feel its something to be ignored. Thank you for helping.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Asker]

Why?

[EmmaMary]

Not for one moment do I believe a single solitary word of this wonderful "bedtime story".

[Asker]

Why? What's wrong?

[Asker]

Okay BJs part might be wrong, cause I now know that men can do it only twice. I don't have much idea about it since I'm new to this. But what other things did u find wrong? And what's wrong in this?

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[PrettyPriya]

@emmamary welcome back

[ChrisMaster69]

Did you have any Tea during all this?

[foxrider77]

So you don’t like fried pickles?

[Anonymous]

Isn't that what fiance's are suppose to do, lol.

[Asker]

But I didn't want it.