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Sexual Health My girlfriend came back from holidays and sex with her felt extremely different. Please may I have someone explain this?
MrFeathers Xper 5
My girlfriend who I have been fighting with, breaking up with, had ignored for a while because i didn't trust her came back from holiadys. We hadn't spoken for 12 days because I broke up with her. When we met we had sex, and I swear I could not feel a thing. she was extremely wet and she kept saying she missed me (she is 21 if that means anything). Umm I swear it felt so much larger, like i was putting my penis in a bucket. yet she was sreaming and squirting but honestly i couldnt feel nothing. im surprised i even had a boner cause it was frustrating at some point. I told her we should stop because i didn't feel right. I will be honest, i thought of the worst things probably out of insecurity but i could not shake it off. she explained that she was just horny, but the reason i broke up with her was cause i felt she was unfaithful and her health is quite bad to say the least. When i stopped sleeping with her immediately the fight of sex being different switched to why i was hanging out with a girl who has a crush on me. i am not remotely in love with this girl but the fight ended with i do not trust you for hanging out with this girl. Well thats too much background story sorry, i honestly just want to know or if i will ever know cause i think this question will help a lot of boyfriends. Just because your girlfriend of 2 years comes back with a bigger vagina does that imply that she slept with someone else?
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69 19The vagina does not get loose after having sex. ever.
the only situation where the vagina loosens is after having a baby, and even then it shrinks back 90% to its original size.
The misconception that girls become "loose" after having sex needs to be cleared up and disappear forever.
That's a big fat lie
Given that the lowered friction was associated with higher than normal lubrication, i'd assume she was more excited and turned on then normal.
So, nice job ruining that ;)
Sometimes when a girl is THAT wet it reduces all the friction to basically nothing - so you don't feel like you're rubbing against anything - which is why it feels "looser" than you remember. Its probably not - its just so lubricated that its like ice skating.
She's so wet because she's so horny - because she hasn't had sex in so long...
Don't be paranoid. It causes many severe problems - like this one you've just got yourself into...
I would like to add that my friend was complaining about being really wet all the time (w/o being turned on) and turns out she had an std.. it was discharge. So if you were on & off for long time & it never felt like that she may hve std.
yes she does have an std which she doesn't want to tell me about. people here are coming up with random scenarios of what happened. i stopped making out with her when i noticed two huge white boils that if i touched she said ouch. i asked "whats that?" she said "nothing.. i miss you so much im so horny", put on a condom and holy crap.. ok i dont know if i have a small dick its 20cm erect, and given that before she left or the last 2 years i haven't been able to completely put it in and now i can? heck i can put my hand and my dick inside easily. furthermore she wanted to try anal, she hates it!!! could you please elaborate more on this discharge thing, any links to read on would be helpful. she was excessively wet, she smelt different, tasted different too. thats why i stopped. it just didn't feel right to continue you know?
I don't know she just said she felt really wet all the time & yellow discharge after awhile. Went to doctor & had chlamydia.. or gonnorhea (don't remeber). I know it can take awhilebfor symptoms to show up..
Dude my ex said the same thing when I went home for Thnaksgiving and I was only gone for 4 days. He was only joking but at the same time I guess I did feel different. I was really wet and I missed him lol, but seriously you're paranoid. I'm in shock at the women who actually said yes, they probaly don't know any better about their vagina or any other ones for that matter. What a shame, get educated!
after four days did you come back with 2 boils on your labia? cause thats what i saw. and that wasn't there before.
@MrFeathers Boils on the labia are from an infection caused by clogged sweat glands or ingrown hairs.
Maybe she's been masturbating!
You finally got her excited, lol! She wasn't lubricating before, or really into it. Once you got it right, the difference was scary. That's kind of sad.
Oh and if she's not Tight enough for you when lubricating, there's always the back door once you've given her a few orgasms.
You being with her for two years is a major factor. You know her vagina and if it was looser then yes she had sex. Even at the super horny stage it won't be to the point where you can't feel anything thats extreme. Most likely she had sex with someone who is larger than you and it opened her up.
That's the dumbest thing I have ever heard of unless it was 2 arms simultaneously or a large horse. You've got to be well thick to think vaginas stay the same forever :x
No its not my ex is smaller than my now husband. When I was broken up wit my ex and before I was actually dating my husband we had sex like twice. A day to two days later I went over my ex house and he said he can tell the difference and he knew for a fact that I was wit someone else.
I did not say that it will be like that forever but the grith can be expanded. It will go back because it is muscle but it also expands because it is a muscle. Thats why some women bath in vinegar and hot water to speed the process of tightening
But def. Snaps back.
stop your whining and either trust her until she gives you a reason not to (aka you see her actually cheating on you) or break up with her.
So fucking simple.
THERE YOU GO GIRL!
It honestly is normal for someone to be so horny they feel a lot more slippery. Trust me, I know that when I masturbate it feels like the size changes occasionally. I have different sizes of... things... to use because when I get more wet, the smaller ones don't fit right. Honestly, though, what she said could very well be true. It's not unnatural for her vagina to feel bigger because of how horny she was.
Dude these chicks on here are lying and it sounds like more than half don't know thing about the female body. I'm pretty blessed with my size and AT NO POINT after breaking up with gf did she EVER come back feeling wider. The only time is when she'd been with someone bigger than me and she told me herself she'd slept with a guy who was bigger than me. So much bigger than me that the sex was uncomfortable for her so she stopped talking to the guy. Sure enough a woman's vee-jay can do amazing things but one thing every single chick on here should have said is that after sleeping with the same guy for so long a woman's body molds to him. I knew a chick who had dated a guy that was super small and when I slept with her she was tight as hell, it was great by the way. There is no point in which a person should make you feel like you can't trust them unless they give you a reason. For instance, a person can have friends who are clearly a dating option for them which in turn can make their partner feel like they can't trust them. The girl hasn't cheated though because you broke up with her. And you should have made it known in your original post that she caught a bacterial infection from trysts beforehand.
Some chicks have this 'women need to stick together' attitude which will make them say you, the guy, are insecure instead of going by the facts and giving an informed opinion.
Point blank she has NEVER cheated you broke up with her so you two were not together at the time.
perfect answer thank you
and thank you for reading the other comments before you posted, it seemed as though i was the only one doing that... thank you!
The vagina DOES NOT work that way. My vagina changes a lot during the month. Most women's vaginas do! We tend to get tighter or dry if we are tense... on or close to our period... drunk... dehydrated... didn't have enough foreplay beforehand... hormonal changes... birth control.. etc. Many variables affect the wetness and tightness of the vagina. If she was wet and loose when you guys had sex, it means she really wanted to have sex with you and was enjoying every second of it. I can see why she might have, since you two were apart she probably missed it a lot. If she was getting better somewhere else she would not be so horny while having sex with you. And your accusations of her cheating are outrageous. You should apologize to her. You have no evidence she cheated on you. And your reasoning for breaking up with her is abusive and shows you have little idea what you're doing in bed. Maybe that's why you are so insecure.
Why do you females lie so much? Its not like he's dating you. I deal with women constantly. Its what i do. My family is also predominately female and any one of them will tell all you lying "chicks" to stop Your bullcrap. A woman's veejay does not just stretch out on command unless something is maki ng it do that which means penetration. How is it yhat out of the hundreds of women I've been with only you few have magically stretching vaginas? Another thing is that most of the females in my family are in the healthcare field and im not talking CNA's. You vag does not magically stretch out from not having penetration. It's impossible.
Have you noticed how many chicks are calling you insecure? Notice how most of them are instantly making you the bad guy? That should be reason enough to not listen to one word they say.
This is the best answer so far. I have to agree vaginas don't magically stretch out. and if he couldn't trust her before then I'd be curious too.
Does she masturbate? When was the last time you guys had sex? The longer she has gone without an orgasm, the hornier she is going to be, and the more her vagina will expand.
Have sex with her again, and if her vagina is still looser, then you can safely say that it didn't happen both times only because she was horny.
after a faithful vacation it should have felt tighter...
when i came back from italy last year my gf was really tight, it was really difficult to have sex.. i spent 3 weeks in italy though...
I don't know it doesn't sound like you have a healthy relationship anyways... you will have to decide to move on or trust her, if you can't seem to trust her you will have to move on
good luck
The vagina doesn't just magically become permanently larger from sleeping with someone else or even using a giant dildo. It *does* however "tent" when extremely aroused. And the reason you couldn't feel anything is probably because she was so wet.
Make her feel guilty or shamed about getting so aroused and so wet and see how the sex is after that. I wouldn't want to sleep with you at that point, and if I did I'd be so anxious about whether or not I was too wet for YOUR enjoyment that *I* wouldn't enjoy it.
Wow. Do you have a reason not to trust her? If you do, okay that's understandable. If not then you shouldn't let your insecurities get in the way of your relationship! Was she tight before? The vagina naturally gets wider to accommodate the penis when a woman is horny but I'm sure not to the point where she's "loose".. Then again every girl is different. So, if she were to hangout with a guy that has a crush on her, how would you feel? Do you care? If not then it looks like you're over this girl. If you're done with her, be done with it. Don't play with her feelings, it's not nice! It looks like you're unsure of what you want.
True!!👌
That poor woman... You're an ass.
He's right you know. Even if what you're afraid of is 100 percent true, it doesn't matter since you admit that you broke up with her. She could fuck every man in the world now that she wasn't dating you. but yes, as many of the women here have concluded, the vagina can expand greatly depending on the level of arousal. typically, the vagina expands as much as 200% when fully aroused
While that is true what makes him an ass is he broke up with a woman for her poor health, she's desperately scraping to get back with him, and he still found a way to make her the bad guy. I wish I could talk to her and be like "FUCK THIS GUY!"
Im an ass for forgiving a girl who might have slept with someone caught something (yes she did catch an std-which she proclaims developed on its own)? when i say poor health i mean she is endangering me now. so excuse me for being an ass, excuse me for not truly forgiving her the first time this shit broke out and that i feel like she is with someone else. i know you don't know the whole story and as guru i wanted to hear adivce or some kind of contouring information to learn from it all, which you did thank you, but being calling me an ass... ppfff for someone whom i wanted to spend the rest of my life with who happens to be doing some shady shit, i felt that was unfair. regardless thank you
Stop whinging this away & blaming her! You cut her loose, she did her thing & it had consequences, you take her back then punisher her for it. Yep you're a proper asshat for doing that!
This is to the asker. Look man most of these guys do not have a sexual life So they get on sites like this and Facebook and they try and score by playing like some knight in shining armor. These guys are such a-holes SMH
I think she is a very unfaithful girl. I bet you anything that she screwed someone else when you weren't together. I would just say "see ya!"
Honestly, it doesn't really matter whether she slept with someone else or not. If you trust her that little to the point where you broke up with her because you thought she was being unfaithful, and now this... Well, then this relationship won't do anything but bring you stress and pain. I advice that you let her go for good and find someone who won't make you so paranoid.
I'm guessing that it's because you weren't as into it as she was that it felt different for you. and just think about it.. no matter how big a guy's penis is a baby is bigger and women's vaginas go back to.. maybe not their original size, but close to it... haha I don't know.. but if you feel this way it's time to move on. allow yourself to move on and find happiness.
how about asking her? tell her everything