My girlfriend doesn't like being fingered?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend told me that she doesn't like getting fingered, I am very new to the lesbian scene thing and tom will be our ALMOST first time.. and I am confused what should I be doing other than fingering then? her exact words were I am a pure top and I don't like getting fingered at all. I am not sure if I should jump to oral, wouldn't it be too fast?

[sammy67]

I would say have a talk with her and ask her what she likes , maybe she's one of those girls that likes to do the fingering and not being fingered . Trying oral also is not a bad thing but the best way to fix this is to have a chat with her and ask her what she likes .

[Claireluvskaren]

Nice answer. I was thinking the same way

[WhatAreYouReading]

A lot of lesbians rub (scissoring) rather then using penetration. You can O through clitoral stimulation.

[Phoenix1991]

If fingering and toys are not for her, then penetration isn't for her. I reccommend a lot of rubbing and oral with affectionate actions. A lot of licking, kissing, sucking, caressing, etc.

Try exploring her body a bit more carefully to find out what does it for her.

[Tarvold]

Being a "pure top" means that she does not ever enjoy any part of anything going inside anywhere of hers, and that she needs to be the dominant one in the sexual relationship. Just concentrate your efforts and attention on outside parts only, and let her take the lead.

[Asker]

soo should lick her maybe I don't know I feel like I need to be told what to do

[Tarvold]

Yeah... lick would work. Maybe just ask her to show you what she likes?

[ironeddie]

Either go to oral or keep a good vibrator handy. One with fresh batteries.

:-)

[Asker]

she doesn't like vibraters or toys ! this is really confusing :\

[ironeddie]

Tickle her pusswa and her whole body with a feather. Then go for oral. If not that ask her what she wants. This is why women confuse the hell out of guys. LOL! :-)

[garydeanbaker]

have her work on you...I think that's what she means...

[DutchAtheist]

Is this about being "the guy" and only wants to "do you"?

I'm sorry that only guys are answering this... XD

[Asker]

she enjoys giving pleasure basically, but I also wanna pleasure her at some point !

[superguy1]

Maybe she thinks " Fingering " imitates a dick = OH NO !

[Asker]

tho fingers are wayy better.. just sayin ;)

[superguy1]

Yes , but not for her , like a dick = yuccckkkk OH , Try a clit on clit rub etc . No dicks allowed there ;)

[Dandeus]

You just need to tell her you're inexperienced and you're not sure what she enjoys. Ask her what she likes and do whatever it is with gusto, you should be fine.

[dave4u]

When you say "new to the lesbian scene", are you saying that you don't think people are born gay. That they choose to be gay? Were you with guys before this? Do you prefer both?

[Asker]

i believe that everyone is born bisexual, some chose women some chose men some deny who they truly are and pretend to be "straight" their whole life. I know I am bi, I am into girls more than guys , I've been with one guy before (never enjoyed the sex part actually, don't whether its him or me) , and my girlfriend is my first girlfriend and I really really reallyy like her I am actually faalling in love with her so I wanna satisfy her in every single way just like she do

[dave4u]

You sound funny

[Asker]

lol why do you think so?

[sammy67]

What she means is this is her first lesbian relationship and first time having sex with a woman meaning she inexperienced . It's kinda like in a heterosexual relationship where a girl is a virgin and not sure how to please a guy . Hope this helps

[dave4u]

It's just funny sounding is all, you make me laugh