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Sexual Health My guy friend and I have been sleeping together, but he has a new girlfriend now. What should I do?
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My guy friend and I kinda had a crush on each other for a while and we started having sex a while back. We've been friends with benefits for about a year now and I've been loving it. We really get each other and we have really hot sex pretty often and it's amazing. We spend nights with each other, take baths, sext and send nudes and sexy pics on Snapchat. Now he just started dating a new girlfriend last week and I don't know how to feel about it. I stayed over with him last night and we've had sex a few times since he started dating her, and I really don't wanna give it up. I know he's not "mine," but the sexual bond we have is pretty special. He said we could still sleep together as long as she doesn't know, but I don't want her to find my panties or thongs over at his place or something. She called him while I was giving him a blowjob last night, and I'm just concerned she might try to come over sometime while he and I are having sex if he tells her where he lives. What are your thoughts on this?
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21 37Stop that shit y'all disrespectful af... doesn't matter in front of a relation if y'all have however strong bond or sexual bond... the best is that he break up with his girlfriend cuz he's a cheater
In the end, it's not your problem, when he cheats on his girlfriend.
Actually he has been cheating on her from the beginning, which is really fucked up, but still not your problem.
If I was in your skin, I would have stopped having sex with him, right after he and his girlfriend got together, because I think its a scummy thing to do to his girlfriend, but you do you.
He wants his cake and be able to have all the fun to. Put yourself in her place. Would you want a man that has a friend on the side that your not to know about so he can have lots of sex with her? What does that say about him as a person. Is he honest and caring or just out to take care of number 1.
It's wrong on both of your parts to do this unfortunately. Tell him to stop being a scumbag for lying to the other girl. Think about it like this: You're only. okay with it because you want him, but if it was the other way around you would be upset for sure.
Stop sleeping with him.
If you're ok with it then don't feel bad about it. It's alright. Because it looks like you're not emotionally attached to him, just sexually. So you can continue whatever you're doing. But if you're not comfortable with this then just leave him. And find some one else.
Move forward he doesn’t sound loyal he has choose either you or her
Well, it's like you said; continuing to see him, even if you don't have any ethical qualms about it, is gonna be a lot of headache and worry. Unless you always want to be worried about having to keep things clandestine; you definitely need to stop sleeping with each other if he's dating someone. Even if he still wants to sleep with you, you're just asking for stress, and needless stress at that.
"What are your thoughts on this?" ... what about it? Not really sure what we can do to help you here. Sounds like you already know what you want, which is for it to continue but for the girlfriend to go away. That's not going to happen, so you have to decide what your options are.
Find urself a boyfriend too then
I think you should move on
The question is, Since you are already sleeping together, why couldn't you be the girlfriend? And how do you think it would go over with the current girlfriend if and when she found out about the two of you?
She's not going to just come over while you're having sex. If your bond with him is so great and he wants to continue then just go for it. I doubt that his bond with his girlfriend will be as good so even if he gets caught it won't change things between you two. If he's ok with it I say go for it.
Time to look for another guy
You're allowing him to be unfaithful to her and don't seem to care.
You are being the "Other Woman" in this relationship.
Time for him to make a decision on what he wants or if you two are more the friends with benefits.
Let him have his new plaything.
Move on
Yikes. People are pretty shitty
@Asker did you keep sucking his dick when she called and did he actually pick up haha?
Tell him how you feel. If her wants the other girl cut the fucking out of the picture. Make him want you. I hate cliches but, "why buy the cow if you get the milk for free "