Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health * he has anxiety issues e. g. if he has bad day at work he can't have sex
* He always uses excuses like he's sick, tired, upset etc. I understand his work is stressful and long hours.
* He doesn't like it if I masturbate infront of him, it's a major turn off he said. He makes me feel like I'm a monster for doing that.
* He finds it annoying if I ask for sex
* He finds it a turn of if I seduce him
* He is 32m, I am 29f, been living together for 6 years
* What I find the most weird is he has a erection and he still doesn't really want to have sex sometimes
* He has rarely initiated
* I am always initiating but he does give me sex eventually but it's like pity sex when I ask. Like here you go, have it, kind of thing.
It seems like some kind of control issue, I really don't know what to do, any advice would be helpful, thanks x
My husband gets turned of if I want sex or initiate it, what can I do?
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2 37He needs counseling. They can help him.
Is he having an affair?
You both need couple therapy together because this isn't healthy in the long run. You both want different things and you obviously still love jim vice versa. But get it sorted before its too late.
leave
WTF is wrong with him?
It sounds like he has ED issues and is not dealing with it. A lot of anxiety meds can cause ED.
It's likely all his rejection of you and excuses are a defensive for his embarrassment that he can't perform.
Obviously he has a low sex drive
Talk to him about it, a healthy relationship needs sex. Maybe you can get him to express somethings you can do to get him in the mood so he initiates it.
it happens in a longterm relation.
both male and female get bored with the same body and same activity.
take sometime, take a sexual pause and spice up your sex life afterward.
If you like to fuck find you a fuck buddy or 2
Sounds like you've really tried various options to no avail. If he's not trying to meet you halfway maybe finding a FWBs is the way to go to have your sexual needs met or leaving him.
Good luck 😊
I don't know any guy that wouldn't like any of this, so it makes me question how much he likes you honestly? Or at least the sex with you? And/or maybe it's not those things, but you are simply doing it at the wrong times (ie, gets home, tired, not in the mood etc).
I dont mean to be offensive or cruel but he is acting like he is turned off by you.
He is really older compared to you and hence has lost interest in women and sex.
dumb him, you love him but he seems stupid as fuck.
I mean no offense but a man that doesn't initiates sex or likes when his wife masturbates in front of him is not a man and sex is something normal in a marriage and you will endup terribly unhappy, you already seem to be
dump*