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Sexual Health My husband says he doesn't check out other women. I don't believe him. How to get him to confess?
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He has it confused. I trust that he would never cheat on me. He's a very loyal man, and Id bet my life on it. He is madly in love with me even after all this time, and I do know he loves my body and my face. There's no problems here. When I ask him if he checks out other women, it's because I am curious to know what he likes. I want him to tell me parts of women he likes so I can try my best to duplicate it in a way that works for me. I just want to look good for him is all. I want him to point out nice clothes on women, hair, make up, their bodies. He swears to God he doesn't check out other women. I'm not an idiot and I know this is a lie. When I say checking out, I don't mean that he looks at women and wants to sleep with them or thinks they're better than me. I mean, it's common sense. If he never checked women out, how would he know that he finds me attractive? Get it? But no. He's just totally blind to other girls. Does he think I'm stupid? How to make him comfortable enough to sit and people watch with me and tell me what parts of women he likes most?
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What Girls & Guys Said
8 20To be honest, I think you're right. Whether I like it or not, I will find myself looking at women or inadvertently admiring them. It actually makes me feel a bit creepy sometimes. ANYWAY, it is likely that he does look at other women but obviously wouldn't go so far as to cheat on you (that makes perfect sense by the way).
Now, from his perspective, he could be afraid of hurting your feelings or of you 'testing' him with a question like this. I would also feel uncomfortable literally objectifying women with my wife right beside me (most guys know almost instinctively not to do this). He may feel that the conversation will be a disaster and just doesn't want that complication. Maybe then, you should phrase it another way. Don't ask him to judge other women because it would make most guys uncomfortable. Honestly, if he had any strong opinions about some preference he had, he would probably make it clear to you unless he feels that you wouldn't be accepting of it. And, he of course already chose you so he probably already likes your body/clothes/makeup. If you really want to probe him about it, it'd probably be tricky unless you can absolutely convince him of your intentions and make him feel that you won't be offended or react in an overly defensive way. I hope this helps
What man in his right mind is going to admit such a thing, I mean, honestly?