Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Does anyone even know what that means? I'll admit that I can be a prude when it comes to sexual stuff, but I had no idea he wanted me to be an outright slut during sex. He complains that I don't moan, or wear lingerie, or swallow...
am I being a shit wife here? Or is he overreacting?
My husband says I'm not slutty enough in the bedroom?
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12 19You boring in bed
You're a shit wife (and he'd be a shit husband) if you had no interest in trying to improve your relationship and excite and please your partner.
But hear you are asking about it, so hey, lets assume you're not a shit wife and this is just something new and you're both working through it.
I'm not -entirely- sure what 'be slutty' means, to him, because it can mean different things to different people, but it almost certainly means to be either more enthusiastic or to do more 'things'.
But it seems he has listed specific things he'd like. Moaning (which is really normal), wearing lingerie (I think on occasion normal?) swallowing (more common than not, but not universal).
Lets take a step back a moment though. You say you 'can be a bit of a prude' when it comes to sexual stuff. Do you just mean you have a vague awareness you're not interested in anything but the most romantic/vanilla things? Or do you mean you have an awareness that you restrain yourself during sex?
I mean that I'm extremely vanilla.
Is that because you're turned off by anything else, or because you feel like anything else is 'slutty' and you're not allowed/shouldn't behave that way? Or are you not sure? Basically if you're repressing yourself, that's not uncommon, and it would be great to work through that because then you'd be happier as well. If you're really not interested in anything else, you two need to figure out how to compromise. Most of what he's asking for seems... very vanilla. I mean are you... really making no sound? Do you orgasm?
Yeah I don't make a lot of noise... I do orgasm
Do you do anything during sex showing you're enjoying it? To me moaning is good, but not -required- but -something- is required. It might be (authentic) moaning. It might be talk. It might be kissing and licking and bucking of hips, or grabbing my hips and pulling me deeper. SOMETHING. Lingerie seems a pretty easy thing to fulfill, no? Is there a reason you're really uncomfortable with it?
Um. Well I definitely don't talk. I guess next time I'll have to try and pay more attention to my body language because I'm not sure. I just don't have the body for it. I'm not girly.
What's your body type? Have you considered the fact that the person who would be viewing you, apparently thinks you have the body type for it, or they wouldn't be asking for it? :)
Um. Pear shaped I guess. No I haven't. It's hard for me as a woman to let go of how I view myself in something. I understand that my husband probably sees me completely different, but I can't let go of what I see when I look in a full length mirror.
Pear shape is the best it's soooo hot :D So may I suggest your self esteem and how you view your body and his reaction to it as an area to work on? If you feel better about your appearance and showing it off to your husband, then that's win-win (versus pushing yourself on things you find gross which is more... compromising). You may not find your body that sexually attractive on account of not being a lesbian. Men find some weight in the thighs and butt intoxicating, it's how prehistoric females advertised their fertility!
Can I ask what you mean by (authentic) moaning, is that like breathing patterns, catching of breath, panting stuff like that or something entirely else
@19magic sure. But don't fake it. It's hot when a woman does those things - panting moaning groaning whatever is natural for her. If she doesn't that's okay, she can do something else, whisper words etc.
Worried for a moment there, I don't moan only ever faked it, just breath different, with the occasional swear word when something feels real good.
You're not being a shit wife at all. It's just a tough position when you're married. You two have vowed only sleep with each other so it's not he can get these fantasies fulfilled somewhere else.
So don't swallow but i don't see why you can't toss in a moan or some lingerie for him. The small effort would mean alot' to him. Didn't you two have sex before getting married? seems this should have come up.
lol he should marry a pornstar!
Thank you.
Stop being a prude then for starters
Can't really help it...
Actually asker year you can
Yes^
@kittycat119 you're 17 years old. Please stop replying on a post that is meant for adults.
Asker I'm 23 and even if I was 17 at that age I still knew being a prude is a choice you can change it
@kittycat119 then why in the hell does it say you're 17
I don't know, your guess is as good as mine. Gag changed it when I turned 23