My husband wants to try pegging, is pegging fun?

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Firstly this is the reason I joined this site to ask this question! I've done a lot of reading online and I wanted answers from people who've done it.

We have plenty of anal play and he gets very intense orgasms from it, I love making him feel that good and I get a lot out of it, watching his reactions are amazing! But how do I make pegging more fun for me too? This sounds silly but I imagine I'll just be thrusting away but obviously not getting any stimulation from it... because you know... it's not a real penis and I'll feel nothing through it.

Also how do I make him feel secure and comfortable doing it? He wants to do it and talks about it when he's horny but when he's cum he's embarrassed by it and worries what I'll think of him. I love him and I'm very open minded so I have no questions about his sexuality etc.

Would love to hear your thoughts!!

Sarah x

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

I think this is either SR #156B or #157. I will have to check my records.

So, I am a big fan of pegging. That is a wonderful game from my childhood. It isn't just for guys though. It is suitable for both genders and ages from 2-4 years old. If you are interested, you can still buy it from this retailer:

https://www.amazon.com/HABA-Rainbow-Whirls-Pegging-Germany/dp/B00497M53A

Now, I know the age is geared towards younger children, but I played this well into my teens. I would still play today if I could find where my parents put our pegs. They are easily lost.

You also want to be careful not to let anyone put the pegs in their mouth, especially the little ones. You have no idea the bacteria that could exist on those pegs from playing so much. Gross.

So, if you are interested in this as a gift for someone, I recommend getting it now. They sell out pretty quick and the holiday season is right around the corner, if you can believe it.

Tammymooory9 · Accepted Answer

That is definitely more of a fetish. But you and him enjoy it there's nothing wrong with that

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

When I was married, my wife worked as a dental RDA, in a large dental facility. One day, one of the DR's brought in a long, thin dildo that he had bought to use on his wife, and the wife went crazy and told him to get rid of it.

Wife brought it home and stuck it up my ass one night, as it was not 'THICK' and as such did not hurt and it was somewhat long, probably 6-7 inches long. I think it would be fun. Sad to say, I can remember if I butt fucked her with the dildo and I should have to see how she liked it.

RobT312 · Accepted Answer

I don’t like pegging but I do like anal play and bdsm. You could turn this into dom/ sub play and maybe you could have fun/ satisfaction from that. I get what you are saying it may be boring for you. However my girlfriend has used a dildo on me and she loves watching my reaction and gets turned on when I orgasm that way

Guy13 · Answer

Doesn’t sound fun.

BrookeAZ90 · Answer

My boyfriend loves it. It's fun to take a turn to be in charge sometimes.

Berethor · Answer

I am not into gay stuff, but yea you like don't enjoy it, unless you enjoy the humiliation itself.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I never tried it however it’s probably like humping a beach ball.

SnowedIn · Answer

Pegging is fun and it feels great. If you haven't done it, I recommend you try it.

Dargil · Answer

I find the acting out of pegging, like with a strap-on dildo repugnant. It replicates gay anal intercourse. But anal/prostate play with fingers and devices is definitely fun.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

That's for whores.

Fireguy17 · Answer

What you need is a double ended strap on.
One end goes in you, the other in him, and if you can find a vibrating one that can ramp it up a bit as well.
I had an ex and that is what she used for just that reason.
That way she also got pleasure from it besides just doing the act itself.

Sisters_Of_Time · Answer

If you like to hold the whip every now and then, I think you should definitely give it a go!

beernbacon69 · Answer

That's awesome that you are open and are looking to make it more relaxing and enjoyable for him too. So as a guy, I was fortunate to be introduced to pegging by an adventurous girlfriend about 9 years ago now. Previous to that I had other girlfriends that were into rimming, fingering and a couple that liked to use a dildo on me while going down on me. I was kind of like your boyfriend though, as I was a bit apprehensive at first with the dildo play, but that didn't last long because of the intensity of prostate orgasms and my SO at the time was great about easing my worries.

I've always been open to try most anything in the bedroom and when she brought it up I thought about it for maybe 30 seconds and said sure, lets do it. She was one of them that enjoyed rimming me and had even picked up a prostate massager so she enjoyed giving (and receiving anal) and I had gotten some really incredible prostate orgasms when she used the massager on me. It was a cold winter day with a snowstorm moving in so it was good timing for the weekend. About 30 minutes after the conversation we were at the sex toy shop checking out harnesses. Luckily the lady that was working there was very helpful and had some recommendations on harnesses and dildos too. We ended up getting a pretty good harness, a 6" dildo, a 9" vibrating dildo and a 12" as well as a butt plug, a shit ton of lube (the lady said you can never have enough of that). The lady recommended that particular harness because she said it positioned the dildo a bit more over the clit and would give her a bit more stimulation during pegging. We also picked up some wine and beer, and we each were drinking a bit of wine as we unpack-aged everything when we got home and laid it out on the bed and night stand.

I did a couple of enemas first and jumped in the shower. I got out and helped her finish up adjusting the harness, and we put in the smaller 6" to start. She started out first by rimming me a bit, then finger and the prostate massager for a bit to get me a bit more relaxed and stretched out a bit. We started out with me on my back, with a pillow under my hips to elevate me a bit. It was awkward at first, and we both were laughing thinking about the first time we had experienced the awkardness of vaginal sex. So have a sense of humor about it and just be at ease. It took a little bit to get it in at first, but she slowly stroked into me all the way, asking if I was ok... and I was already turned on from all the warmup and just moaned a yes which she loved. She pulled almost all the way back out and added more lube before sliding all the way back in and repeated that a second time. She asked again if I was ok as she slowly picked up the tempo and I was loving it and moaning, which she loved. I asked her if the harness felt ok and she said yes, the lady was right, it was hitting her just right. She kept stroking into me the full length and asked if I wanted to "size up" which made me laugh, saying I'm going to ask her that in the middle of vaginal sex next time. She giggled and said, ya I don't want to stop... let me know if you want more lube. She then started stroking faster and faster into me, and a bit harder and harder too. She was breathing harder and said this is a workout, but I was getting close and as I came, she kept going and came shortly after I did. She was out of breath and just slid all the way in, and laid down on me for a bit. I asked her if the harness helped her with the orgasm, and she said yes it did... but it was also mentally stimulating for her with the role reversal and seeing how much I was enjoying it just as much.

So after a few minutes I laughed and said are you ready to size up now? She giggled and said oh ya, but how about you ride me. Ok, I'm good with that... so she sat up and pulled out of me and took off 6" dildo. She laid down and I grabbed the 9" vibrator and put it in the harness and lubed it up really good. I decided to face away from her (reverse cowboy/cowgirl) and it again took a little bit of work to get it in me since it had a bit more girth than the smaller 6". Once I got it in, we did the same thing, I slid all the way down, then all the way back up and she added more lube and we repeated this. I then slide all the way back down, and ground my hips on her... she always did this same thing in this position during vaginal/anal sex and I loved it too, and she said that felt really good. I started sliding up and down and started to get a good rhythm going, but again it was a bit awkward at first and the dildo popped out a couple of times, but she quickly got it back in. She started to mess around with the different vibration settings and that felt good to me, but I said pick the one you like the best. I picked up the tempo and started to slam down on her a bit, and she was moaning and saying don't stop... that feels so good. She said how she loved the view too of my ass stretching around "her cock"... we were both getting really turned on and with the vibrations going. She started to rub her fingernails lightly around my asshole when I would come up and that felt amazing, I wasn't even hard and I ended up cuming again. I kept going because I knew she was getting close, she put her hands on my hips and was pulling me down into her, only taking her right and off to slap my ass saying how cute is was. It made me laugh a little bit, but it also felt good. As I stroked up and down and slammed into her, when I felt her tense up I slid all the way down and ground my hips into her again. She let out a loud moan and had a shaking orgasm... it was so hot. It was the most amazing thing, because I started to cum yet again too and felt another wave as I had a second orgasm about 30 seconds after the first, the first time I've ever had multiple orgasms. Now I was out of breath, and I started to pull off of her, but she grabbed my hips again saying no stay on me and let me enjoy the view. I pulled her legs up a bit so I could rest my elbows on them, and since I wasn't all the way down on her she started using her fingernails around my ass again and was giggling as I tensed up since I was hypersensitive all over down there now. We sat like that for a few minutes, before finally sliding off of her and we took a little break for a bit drinking some more wine and ordering some pizza since it was snowing pretty good. After we ate, we "sized up" yet again and experimented with a few more positions that night and throughout the snowy weekend.

So a few recommendations:

- Definitely talk to someone at the "toy" store about what they may recommend. I'm glad we did because it definitely made the experience more enjoyable for both of us.

- Since you already do a bit of anal play already, you know about enemas and lube. But grab extra, when you think you have enough grab another bottle. Especially if you are going to have an extended amount of pegging. I think we grabbed two 10 oz bottles that weekend and we used one and part of the second.

- If he's still apprehensive, get some wine or beer... or if you are inclined some pot to put you both at ease.

- Be patient and have fun and laugh during, it's probably going to be a little awkward at times, but it's worth it and having fun with the awkwardness helps put you both at ease.

- I'd also recommend getting a smaller one and a larger one if you can as well as a butt plug too if you don't already have one. As Bridgit and I both enjoyed pegging fairly often after our first experience we both had our favorites. I liked the vibrating 9" because it really sent her over the edge. She liked that one too, but said she loved the 12" because she loved the visual of me getting stretched by that one and seeing the whole thing going into me. Honestly, from a selfish standpoint I personally liked that one more too, but liked her getting a bit more out of the experience. The butt plug is a great help too if we know we want are both wanting to do some pegging after going out to dinner it helps prep me a bit so we can get right into the fun. We hardly ever used the smaller dildo after the first few sessions so I'd just get a cheap one of those and splurge on the medium size or larger versions.

- Also, you said "This sounds silly but I imagine I'll just be thrusting away but obviously not getting any stimulation from it... because you know... it's not a real penis and I'll feel nothing through it." You may be very pleasantly surprised. Bridgit said she was probably just as stimulated and turned on from the visuals and the role reversal if not more, than the physical stimulation from the harness and vibrating dildo. I've been pegged by a few women since this first experience and they have said the same thing too.

I hope this all helps, but post back and let us know how it goes, or DM me if you have any more questions. Have fun and enjoy!

Boredaf99 · Answer

I don’t understand men that like it in their ass.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I’ve pegged my boyfriend several times

hbg84 · Answer

Never actually tried it but have had my prostate massaged with a prostate massager. It was surprisingly nice. It felt weird at first but started feeling good after a minute or 2. Its important to start with something small like a prostate massager then work up to using a normal sized dildo

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've never tried pegging but I have seen a strap on that has a vibrator that you insert into your vagina. It's enjoyable for both of you

Philyouup · Answer

i love getting pegged. my girl friend loved pegging me. it’s fucking fun

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yeah, he's gonna feel like shit after, or not wanting to for a few hours. Butt it's what he wanted. There is no secure or comfortable turning getting fucked up the ass by your girlie from fantasy to reality! It's sure as hell a lot less risky than cuckolding..

Hanrej · Answer

You might wanna try a feeldo. It inserts into your vagina and puts pressure on your g spot while you fuck him.

Also. If he's embarrased after Cumming you may want to look into a bit of domination and orgasm control. Simply make a game out of not letting him cum.

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

Look up "male g spot". That's likely why he wants to try it

TotallyAlmost · Answer

Put a vibrator in the strap on belt.

OnTheLevel · Answer

If you are both into that, go for it! Not something I'd enjoy, but if you guys do, have some fun!

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