My male friend says he wants to have sex with me, is this normal?

We have been friends for 1 year. He's a nice and kind man, but sometimes he acts like a perverted gorilla. He tried to get sexually close to me for the first time a 6-7 months ago. I told him I would never reciprocate and don’t try again. He said he couldn't control himself and apologized. He acted normal for months but yesterday he told me for the first time that he wanted to have sex with me. I told him I warned him for the last time, that's definitely not going to happen because he's my friend. But I'm starting to get confused, he doesn't treat his other girlfriends like that, does he find me easy? And do you think it counts as harassment?

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  • NO , its certainly not harassment , he is correct to have a decent crack at you , thats life , if you don't like it , simply end the friendship and I'd recommend he does the same , there is absolutely nothing wrong with him letting you know the facts , truthfully and honestly , as you say you are not interested , he can say move forward and say

    " Next " ... there is absolutely nothing wrong with what he's doing.

    • I'm starting to think that I'm being harassed because he kept repeating it even though I warned him once.

    • If you think that " set him free " finish the friendship , he wants it sexual as he has clearly stated.

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  • It's obviously not harassment, but it should have been clear to you long ago that he is sexually interested in you, and yet you still kept him around. Umm...

    My male friend says he wants to have sex with me, is this normal?

    I will never understand how a woman can think she can have a platonic friendship with a man who is sexually attracted to her. It's literally impossible. You may think you are just friends, but you're not.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/T_lh5fR4DMA

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  • I think it’s quite disrespectful and bordering on harassment (I don’t know the full situation so I don’t know) since you have made it clear you don’t like his advances and will never reciprocate and to stop, and he’s continuing to do it. I would ditch him as a friend tbh. And saying he ‘can’t control himself’…that’s just not true, and if it is he should get serious help

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  • I woukd exclude this person from my life given your stated intentions are different and no sound and stable resolution exists.
    We are not meant to be friends with all people. And friends can accept No and let it go. Opposite sex friends do not work for this very reason. One of them always has hidden intentions or agenda.

    • @Guy13 wouldn't we be friends?

  • He has gotten nowhere with you in seven months; that DEFINITELY does not classify as "easy!"

    Women quite often say they want a man who can be honest about his feelings, but that doesn't seem to be working for this chap.

    Doesn't matter what the rest of us think. What do YOU think? Are you afraid that he eventually will not restrain himself and force himself on you?

  • I think keeping a guy around that has expressed overt sexual interest in you is a bad thing. He's not going to get what he wants (sex) and you're not going to get what you want (a platonic friend). It doesn't matter how he views you generally, but if he's as open about asking you for sex it may mean something about your reputation.

  • No, it means you have our taste in friends.

  • He dont view u as a friend he wants to fuck u so he keeps u happy

  • Completely normal. If Im talking to a woman without a actually required need to be doing so, it's almost guaranteed to be because I want to dominate her completely in every which way possible

  • He's a beta in waiting. Search it on YouTube should explain him to a T.

  • He is obviously attracted to you in more than a sexual way.

  • I would dump him as a friend. Because it seams he don't value the friendship. He just lingering around in hopes for sex.

  • at least he's being honest about his intentions and tried again, I think now if he's tries more then tell him you can't be friends because you can't deal with him being like this to you

  • this is why men and women can't be friends
    sooner or later...

  • Be careful

  • yes totally normal.

  • He’s probably more attracted to you, and would like you to be more than a friend, probably why he stuck around for so long, every guy would wonder what it’s like to have sex with their female friends

  • Normal