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Sexual Health My parents had sex in MY ROOM!!! I'm angry and I feel very disrespected?
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I go to college and come home on the weekends to spend time with my parents. I was just going to drop off my stuff in my room when I hear weird sounds. My door was closed but I knew what was happening... Angry I pounded on the door yelling "WHAT ARE YOU TWO DOING IN MY ROOM!!!" They stopped suddenly and I could hear them quickly putting on their clothes. I walked out into the kitchen and waited for them. My dad came out mad saying "You should really let us know when you're coming home." And I said "You two shouldn't be having sex in my room! I mean really! That's disrespectful!" My mom and dad then told it was their house and they could do what they wanted in it. I shouted "That doesn't make it okay! It's really gross what you did!" They then started giving me an excuse that it was natural and the urge can come quick. Pissed I told them they had their own room to satisfy their urges and that I'm staying over on the weekends anymore. My parents them said that I was being ridiculous but I just left in the middle of their sentence. I may be considered a brat but who does that seriously! YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BED!
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Sentence correction: Pissed I told them they had their own room to satisfy their urges and that I'm *NOT* staying over on the weekends anymore.
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33 58You remind me of my parents accidentally saw them having sex since 8 years ago. I missed the moment when I sneaked into their master room (since i was going to pee and the only toilet is located at there) during midnight. I doubt they stop having sex these years.
And yeah, I assume your parents are during 50s. You should be glad these fellows in this age are still having sex it means they have intimate relationship with each other. My parents on the other part haven't been having sex for years, as far as I know they're often having quarrel daily
And they should be happy I'm standing up for myself when I'm disrespected.
LOL at horny parents. You're right to be annoyed but hey, if they got away with it you'd be none the wiser lol.
And would still be rude.
I know, but I guess they're feeling kinky and thought doing it somewhere naughty would be fun. I bet you can't get that out of your head now. Maybe you'll get a bribery treat.
I'm feeling better now but what they did hut my feelings and I want them to know that.
Oh I'm sure you'll let them know. I feel kinda sorry for them lol.
We'll get over it.
They are right that it is there house, but still, that's pretty nasty. I would be so mad too. No child wants to catch their parents having sex let alone in said child's bed. It is pretty disrespectful and inconsiderate. I probably wouldn't want to come home as much either.
I would had done the same thing u did. That's really disrespectful. I mean it's YOUR room!!!
My old gf and I used to bone in the other bedrooms whenever the kids would pile onto our bed. It was easier than kicking them out, and kept me from being a wedge between her and her kids.
Some day she might tell em about it but probably not. :D
I hope you used a towel or at least washed the sheets...
Eeeew... We took a blanket with us and normally did a doggy style on the floor kinda thing. We weren't screwing in the kids' beds. If your folks left stains and pubes in your bed you're right to say change that shit. That's nasty.
I really didn't want to add anything to this question but im going to anyway. I think there's more to it than what they did. Did you have a bad relationship with your parents growing up?
We had our differences but nothing too dysfunctional. I don't know if they did it on purpose or not.
Yeah I just wondered which is why I asked. Well I think you have choice. there's two ways of looking at it they did it deliberately or they got caught up in the moment. People have sex in many places and sometimes you really dont want to know where people do it. It is a bit weird thinking about it but I think you may have overreacted a little bit. I doubt they did it to hurt you.
It's their house and you left the nest, you no longer have a room. You stay there as a guest now... Sorry to break the news to you. Be thankful they didn't turn your room into a study, another bathroom or something along those lines. They did their part in raising you and getting you out on your own, now it's their time!!
This.
But why did they have to have sex in my room when I'll be staying there that night? Would it be disrespectful if I did that to my parents one day when I got my own house? They had other rooms to do it in and it was inconsiderate and it's seemingly purposeful they did it.
You meant to say "the room they pay for that they let you sleep in".
you made my night sleepy sound
A parent has a responsibility to care for their child. And it wasn't like I had to stay there. I had my college dorm (which was paid for by loans and scholarships not by them). But it's really disrespectful. What if I had sex in their bed? Would I be a 'terrible child'?
Were they being neglectful and not caring for you? No they weren't. Just make them wash the sheets.
I'm not staying over there anymore.
My gut reaction is this: I totally understand where you're coming from, as nobody wants to really think about (let alone be exposed to in any way) their parents having sex. I get that.
BUT, at the end of the day I think you'll learn to brush this off and just be happy for them that they still cultivate and express these feelings for one another. Love that endures like that is a special thing, and while it's undoubtedly something that you don't want to be exposed to in any way/shape/form, it really WAS an accident, and I mean, it IS their house.
But they also quite willingly had sex in a room they have said is mine. Don't forget that.
I understand what you're saying, but they didn't do this to blatantly disrespect you. As I said, there's enough people out there in the world whose parents are in loveless marriages, so try to remember that next time you get upset. Also, whether they call it your room or not, if they pay the bills then they reserve the right to do whatever they want under their roof. Feel a little awkward about it, be a little upset about it, but beyond that I'd just accept that it happened and let it go.
Your opinion makes it sound as if age should be happy that they had sex in her room. Reminds me of someone saying it was a compliment to have a dog humping your leg. Good for them. Disgusting for you.
Thumbs up to Panzer103 for his recent comment.
@panzer103 is a dog humping your leg really analogous to a husband and wife making love with one another, albeit in a less than desirable place? I think not. I don't think she needs to LOVE that this happened, no. I clearly stated that, and I think that if you'd read what I'd written you'd have seen that. I told her that yes, of course this is awkward, and it is upsetting, but it's in her best interest to get over it and move on from it. Thus whole "I'm not staying at your house anymore ever again!!!" thing seems bratty to me.
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You made it sound like a blessing to have her room turned into a live best for her parents. To put it into perspective, a happy couple still having a spark is beautiful, but nasty when done in your bed. Just like a dog humping your friend's leg is funny to anyone else, but disgusting and violating for him.
@Panzer103 I didn't intend for anyone to interpret it that way. These were my exact words to her: "Feel a little awkward about it, be a little upset about it, but beyond that I'd just accept that it happened and let it go." I don't see anything there that indicates that she needs to see this as a blessing. I just think that we could all do better to strive to see the silver lining in life, and for me it's very clear that there's a silver lining here.
That's my point. On the bright side, they love each other. On the bright side, the dog likes you.
Well, if you think the weight and power of a dog humping someone's leg is comparable to the love shared between a husband and a wife, then there's really no point to furthering the discussion. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, and I respect that.
I'm regards to the victim they are the same. No person without mental issues looks at their plea rents going at it and thinks "it's beautiful" just like no one has a dog hump them and think it. You are twisting my words and purposefully ignoring the point being made just because it flies in the face of the holy rule of "my house my rules".
Okay, since you love this leg-humping dog analogy, I wonder if you'd agree with the following: A dog humps your leg. You don't like it, and it's sucky, and you don't want it to happen again. But you accept that this is a thing that dogs do from time to time, the dog isn't consciously offending you or hurting you, and you let it go because you realize that it's just a dog being a dog. The point is, people being married, being in love, and sharing that love together late into the relationship IS a beautiful concept. And rthem fucking/making love/having sex/going at it is a thing that they do. You accept that there exist less-than-pleasant realities in life sometimes, and you let it go. It is what it is. There's no need to freak out over two lovers acting like lovers.
In the very same bed I'll sleep on that night with personal sheets and in the room they said was mine. I'll forgive but I have a right to be mad. I wonder if they did it on purpose. They had other rooms but use mine the night I'll use it? They got what was coming to them.
A better interpretation of the dog-humping analogy is that a dog humps your legs, and you insensitively cry "this is why I hate having legs!" to your friend next to you who is in a wheelchair with both legs amputated, and desperately wished he could be so lucky as to have legs that a dog humped.
Yeah, exactly @dav123. It's all about perspective and just learning not to take everything overly seriously and personality, and being willing/wanting to see the silver lining in things.
it may gross you out but whats done is done right? and you've made your decision to not visit them anymore, but I bet that's making your parents very sad. they probably feel bad enough as it is and are deeply sorry. its your life though, do as you will. I don't say that disrespectfully:)
To be honest I hope they feel sad.
im sure they do and you can be expecting an apology maybe. but they might be expecting the same.
then imagine how many other times they've done it in your bed when you weren't around.. damn thats nasty, they definitely disrespected you.
Yeah, they were pretty dumb to do that, even if they are technically right, it is still immoral.
That's fucked up. I'd be pretty pissed off too. And I hate it when parents do that. It's soooooooooo aggravating.
They are right. Its their house and you can't do anything about it. If I were you, I would burn the mattress, the pillows and etc etc now.
Gross. Lol. Three's definitely a crowd. It would be weird to sleep in your room afterwards. I'd feel incest about it.
Your manner of conversation is not the healthy or normal manner of conversation between parents and kids. You all have fucked up family values. Sorry. But being honest.
I got mad because it was rude! I guess I say rash things when angry. But I hope they learn a lesson. As will I.
If you think THAT is rude, I hope you feel exactly the same way about people who make out in public. Ar least your parents were in a bedroom. Indeed, your parents should have been careful but there was nothing disrespectful being in another room. They were jusr careless and got embarrassed.
Yeah it sucks that they did that... but is is their house, after all, and you're not a minor anymore.
You're powerless here.
Seeing your parents have sex is bad enough, but in your own bed. That's rough. But at the end of the day it is their house and they are your parents, so it's not the end of the world. There's worse things that could happen bUT hey if it bothers you that much go have sex with your boyfriend in their bed. Revenge is a dish best served cold. :p
Lol! That is so funny!
The thought has crossed my mind. XD
I know this won't get best answer but their house their rules. They've only been loaning you the room for as long as you've been there. The good news is that you get to get your on place soon and you can be in charge.
They just wanted to spice things up.