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Sexual Health I really try not to. I don't move in for a kiss unless the guy does first. But when someone starts kissing me, I can't stop. Which is exactly why I don't move in for the kiss first normally xD
I told him flatout, I'm not looking to hookup. I don't want sex on our first date (yeah that plan went out the window, and I don't regret it). I was busy after, he had to be home because he had plans to play a game with a friend. Well I kinda forgot my plans and he took me home with him. We made plans to go for another date today, or soon if he ends up busy.
Anyways. Do you think it's possible to have a relationship after sex on the first date? I' good either way.. just curious on people's opinions lol
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15 35I personally wouldn't, but I believe its possible
A couple of years ago, I met a girl in a night club, lets call her Julia. There was an instant chemistry between us. Physically, she was exactly my type: Tall, long hair and curvy. After her best friend had left and had went to meet some other friends, Julia and I made out. A bit later, we went to a park next to the club and started to touch each other on a bench. Then we went home to my place. Usually, sex can be a bit uncoordinated in the first night but with her it was really great. Although Julia basically went home with a stranger, she did a bit of dirty talk and was very demanding. I was so thrilled and impressed by that. I just wanted to do her again and again.
We planned to meet again on Saturday afternoon in the park and to go on an actual date in a nice cafe. You know how it is - the first time after a hookup: Shall you kiss her on the mouth? Shall you just hug her? So, I kissed her left and right cheek. I hugged her and instantly felt that chemistry again. We started to make out and I asked her (against all protocol) the one thing that was in my head: Would you like to go to my place first? You mean for a drink? Yes, for a drink. So, we went to my place and had sex again. In the evening, we finally arrived in the cafe. We had such a fun night. I started to figure out what an interesting and wonderful person she is. One thing that we definitely have in common is that we are very talkative after sex.
I guess I have a quite healthy self-esteem but of course I did not assume that I was the first guy that went home with Julia on (or before ) the first date. She had a lot of sexual partners before me which really turned me on. We kept seeing each other and four months later, we started officially dating and I'm sure by now that she is my life partner.
Hahaha! Sounds like it was one hell of a date then! Pretty hot that once you start kissing you can't stop. That means the chemistry must've been SUPER hot! How was the sex? Did you stay the night? Round 2 in the morning? :P
Lmao we were going to go to the movies but we started kissing in the parking lot.. when we realized the movie had started 15 minutes ago we went to his place. I didn't stay the night, lol. I would've but my family was expecting me home.. My parents would've killed me if I didn't come home xD. The sex was the best I've had (I've barely had any, but omg he was good).
That's awesome! I'd love to hear more about it! Let me know if you'd like to discuss and you can message me!
lmao nah, you're looking to get off or something I'm anon for a reason
LOL! That's a bummer, but okay!
sorry xD
Me too! I love stories like this one! :P Sounds like you made VERY good use of your date time! Far better than seeing a movie!
haha I sure as hell did
Did you manage to wait till you got to his place or did you get it started in the car?
started in the car lol.. at the movie theater. then we realized we were in a crammed parking lot and we went to his place
LOL! Wow! How far did you get in the car before you realized you needed more room? And how close by was his place? Must've been a pretty hurried drive!
fingering.. and we had calmed down a little bit before he started driving because I was nervous. couple miles.
Nice! So were you driving stick while he was driving home?
Yeah, its possible but with what guy? No intelligent guy would go into a relationship with a slut
Nearly every guy is a “slut” when they enter a serious relationship or get married... So what’s the difference?
@chrisv First of all, guys can't be sluts. Slut is a gender related term, saying a guy is a slut is like saying a guy is a lesbian. Just impossible. Second, you probably want to say nearly every guy is promiscuous or a cheater, which is still bullshit, there are plenty of faithful guys, even saying half of all guys are cheaters is an overkill. And I don't know why do you bring that up, since the question is about a girl asking whether she can have relationship with a guy after fucking him right away? I answered that question, you are jumping to another topic, why?
Hahaha.. feeling a little defensive are we? not surprising- since you put the whole double standard out there. Here’s what you said: since you have memory issues: “Yeah, its possible but with what guy? No intelligent guy would go into a relationship with a slut”. But girls are expected to go into a relationship with men who (and this is for your moronic benefit) are the female equivalent of sluts.. This is 2018 - not 1818, although your misogynistic self would no doubt be more comfortable back then... A parting shot: if “Answering the question” meant telling women not to be sluts by sleeping with men on the first date, you made a fool of yourself - not them...
WIKIPEDIA Slut is generally a term for a woman or girl who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. It is usually used as an insult, sexual slur or offensive term of disparagement (slut shaming).
I'm actually not a slut either. I've had sex with 3 guys. And anyways, maybe you can't be a slut but you can sure as hell be a man whore.
@chrisv yeah, except this is not one of *those* double standards. This is a natural double standard that always existed, and always will, because its fully logical. Many points in its favor, the first one being the famous quote "A key which opens many locks is a master key, but a lock thats opened by any key is a shitty lock". This is enough by itself, but I will go on, basically for a man to sleep with a lot of women he needs to be good looking, charming, fun, maybe rich, intelligent etc etc. Its an achievement. For a woman to sleep with a lot of guys she needs to be only one thing - there. She needs to exist and BAM. And third, yes, women should go for guys with some mileage, because only such men can satisfy them sexually. Im not saying all men who slept around are good, but all inexperienced men are awful in bed. No exceptions. While an inexperienced girl can still be good in bed. Men and women are different, and no amount of feminism and other dumb shit can change this fact
The number is not that much important, considering you are ready to sleep with a guy you just met - you are a slut. And thats fine, Im not judging, Im just saying you won't be able to get an intelligent guy for the long term.
In your scenario, the man would be just as promiscuous as the woman, so why would promiscuity factor into it at all? That would just make him a hypocrite. It always blows my mind how ignorant most mysoginists are 😣
Lmfao he's rebuilding 2 computers, works in IT, and offered to help me replace my hard drive. I'd say he's got some intelligence. And exactly, it's a double standard. Men shouldn't be allowed to sleep around if women aren't.
I already explained why that double standard is normal, and will always exist, but if you choose to igrnore it and keep repeating dumb shit, well go on, not my problem. And no, Im not a "mysoginist" or a misogynist.
Your only argument is that men can’t be sluts! They sure as hell can be promiscuous, just like women can, so the logic of your entire first statement is false.
@Tiaroendu479 I said a "slut" is a gender related term, which is a fact. Yes, men can be promiscuous, but for men its almost never considered a bad thing, in fact men are considered awesome if they sleep with more women. I explained why.
I wouldn't give him a blowjob or have intercourse but I would let him give me oral if he really wanted to and he was respectful.
it can be risky, like you i had sex on the first date as well and it was 👍👍, few weeks down the road im having some serious regrets after finding out she has lost her job and has no means to pay her rent...