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Sexless.. upset about him jacking off rather then having sex while I have to be there waiting until his day's off to actually even have sex :(?

Okay so in my Situation it seems like I'm the one who's more Sexual then he is I always hear bout guy's complaining about thier girlfriend or wife not wanting to have sex or that they are to tired etc well in this case I'm the one getting mad that we don't have as much sex like we use at the beginning of our relationship but yet he jacks it off away while im at work, and im there sexually frustrated from all week waiting for his days off to even have sex, He works night's I work day's plus come home then homework with kids then start dinner and make his lunch for work etc, I don't even get a break till about 11 when he's getting ready for work when im getting ready for bed yet im still there all horny waiting till it's his day off to autally be with my guy which is like a week so im there sexually frustrated because he gets home till about 9 Am I'm out of work by like 2 sometimes then we have our lunch and oh he starts with his oh im tired gatta get to bed excuse by like 4:30 or 5 and still no sex :( then like most times when we do actually have sex it's like he don't even make out with me or even get me wet , he just wants to put a condom and lube and seems like he just wants to get it over with quick to just go to sleep, so half the time when we start sex im like hurting when he puts it in cuz im not even wet down there and so lately I've complained to him how it's not fair that I wait till the time he is off to be intimate with him all sexually frustrated while he jacks off while im work rather then having sex, its selfish he just doesn't get it and yet im the one there who's way more Sexual then he is and I'm there all sexless in my relationship crying having arguments over a guys who doesn't even see how hurting it is to me so am I wrong with being upset over this? I just feel like crap like why do I even feel like im just pushed aside and crying and he doesn't even get anything that i say because if anything ain't about him then he doesn't get my point of view
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  • I would say you are justified in your position on this and while I cannot speak for him, it sounds to me like he is being both lazy and selfish, I suggest this because while jacking off does take some energy, it is completely on his terms and he doesn't have to get anybody but himself off. Now this doesn't mean all hope is lost. I would recommend you talk to him and let him know that while you are not happy with the way things are presently, that you really did used to like having sex with him, and that you would like it to be this way again and that if he can dedicate a little more energy and care to this end that you and him will have sex on a more regular basis, which seems like it would be a "win" for both of you. I know that while my wife and I don't have sex the way we used to I still very much love her and am willing to wait until she is ready to have sex, to be sure I do take care of myself from time to time, but I never refuse her when she is wanting to have sex, and even if she doesn't climax she has said she still likes having sex with me. I would hope that you both can sit down and have a meaningful discussion about this. Keep in mind, you are wanting to come to an agreement rather than lay blame. I suggest this only in the spirit that sex is a very sensitive subject and when feeling vulnerable about sex, blame is really not the best path to go down. I hope this helps you and again that you are able to come to an understanding. (pun somewhat intended) ;-)

    • Ihopeshecanreadthisproperly

    • I have talked to him about it more then like 10 times, always ends up into a argument because he doesn't get my point of view, or will say how I don't understand how he's tired and has to get ready for bed, Before he even gets to bed we have like 2 hour's together before he even gets to bed but guess what he's already have jacked off while I was at work so he just wants to be watching t. v until he gets to bed, if he's taking "energy" to do this to him self why not sex? even if it doesn't last long

    • I'm sorry this isn't working out. I wish I had more advice to this end, however in order for any issue to work out it takes two people working towards a common goal. Sorry Luv.

  • I don't see y I work 18 hour nights I go in at 6 don't leave till 11 and when I get home I want to fuck if i have a gf hell even if i didn't want to have sex id still go down on her so she knows I still care show her that no matter how long I'm gone she's still on my mind all day we'll night really but yeah

Most Helpful Girls

  • What is the question? and please always type in paragraphs...

    Maybe you two need counselling to sort this out.

    • This is the first time I've posted on here, where you type your question gives you a limit of 2000 word's so I typed just enough to get everything out... the point of what I'm saying is to see if I'm being wrong for being upset because he obviously doesn't get it no matter how many time's I have to talk about it he then turns it on me somehow saying how I don't get that he's tired or his work schedule which is pretty dumb because he's had the same schedule since we got together and we still had sex all the time... I guess i just needed to vent :/

    • I see divorce coming for u.

  • He is just selfish or probably lost interest in you.

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  • My advice is buy a vibrator and use it... send him some videos... pic of u naked boobs etc. And see if that brings him around if not then have to make a choice...

  • How many times have you talked to him about this?

    • Lately it's been at last once a week, because sometimes that's how long It's been since we even had sex

    • Have you tried "spicing it up"? "Men are like bottle rockets, women are like steam locomotives" ~ Jeff Foxworthy

  • Some guys dont find a high sex drive women attractive. Obviously you should find A way to stop him jerking off. Perhaps do a quick bj to him from Time to Time, and then have full sex with mutual pleasure on the weekend

  • I made my husband watch porn when I would not fuck him. Guess what it was all BBW gangbangs and hotwifes. No he wants to watch me get into porn.

  • get a new guy, masturbate more

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