Sexual Relationships 
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So my question to you is. If you were to date someone or to make it more generic. If you were just to meet someone. How many sexual partners is too many before you would start to judge them or maybe see them as some kind of sexual deviant.
I have sex a lot. I've had it with a lot of different woman and a few men. Personally I rarely judge. Now doesn't make me some angel. Nothing wrong if someone who has sex with over 100 people makes you feel awkward. If you haven't. Of course it would seem a lot to you.
If someone has never had sex would you judge them... Would you judge them if they in their 40s and have never had sex?
If someone's only 18 and has had sex with over 30 people would you judge them. If they over 40 and have had sex with over 200 people would you judge them then?
At which point would it bother you or rarely make you see them differently. Or if it would never ever bother you. Explain why either way.
What Girls & Guys Said
43 124We all judge every body.
Of course, people are going to get judged for not having sex enough or at all. Prudish, cold, sexually unwilling or undemonstrative, socially dysfunctional are the kind of, perhaps justified, stereotypes that come to mind. Some people have suffered abuse, and unconsciously don't want to go there, too. Their sexuality remains closed off to the world.
On the other extreme, it depends on the age, but generally, more than 10 seems a bit much to me. But if a person is 18 and had 10, then obviously, that's a lot, but obviously it's not much if a person is older, so it needs to be age gradated. On the other extreme, are people sexually reckless and heedless, unable to form lasting relationships, or is their sexuality solely one of objectification?
Ultimately, it's all subjective. And people should certainly enjoy their sexuality.
Would I judge them? Yes, I can't help it. I've tried not to, I know it's irrational, but honestly, I can't help it. Ultimately, to each their own. Fun is nice, but I probably prefer fun in the context of more lasting relationships. People think there are no consequences, and perhaps there aren't. Or perhaps there are. Maybe it's like eating cake. If you eat too much cake, you feel sick. Maybe there are karmic consequences for using people and binning people. I suppose it depends on how you treat people, as long as you're honest with one another. But I don't know. Like I say, the other extreme is not good either. People should certainly have sex, even casual sex, and enjoy it. Life is too short.
Of course, maybe part of it is male resentment. Some people don't find it easy to get sex, and let loose, or express their sexuality. Maybe that causes them to resent people who have it so easily.
"People should certainly have sex, even casual sex, and enjoy it. Life is too short" Absolutely. You realize that when you're older. I don't regret having sex with the girls I did. I regret turning down the ones I did. Too picky. That's how you get 29yo virgins. "Of course, maybe part of it is male resentment. Some people don't find it easy to get sex, and let loose, or express their sexuality. Maybe that causes them to resent people who have it so easily." I believe that. I've speculated for some time now that virginity/abstinence past 24-25 comes at a psychological cost. Suppressing eons of conscious and subconscious mating instincts.
@Wally48 Aye, I regret turning down girls and not seeing the mountains of opportunity. Ah, the folly of youth. One already had what one always wanted. 'tis what it is. Can't help it if you didn't know any better.
In general, I don't judge a person's character by their sexual past. I respect promiscuous individuals just the same as anyone else, and I am open to associating with then platonically. Quite frankly I don't care what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own bedrooms.
However, my views are vastly different when it comes to my own romantic relationships. I refuse to date women who have had any sexual experience of any kind. I date virgins exclusively. This is due in large part to my romantic and sacred perceptions of sex and its meaning in a relationship. Before you accuse me of hypocrisy, I have chosen to save my virginity for my life partner as well. I don't hold women to any standard that I don't hold to myself.
I think I'd probably subconsciously judge and think "omg what!" if they said over 100. But I don't know if it would stop me sleeping with them
I definitely won’t stop you either 😉
Why do you people have to make everything cringed lmao stop
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I can't say that I've ever asked someone how many. It just seems like none of my business.
Good point.
@AK140 same. Never crosses my mind.
Someone's sexual past doesn't really mean anything it only means something to the person they are with , that's why it's best to keep hush hush about your sexual past with your current partner just somethings you shouldn't talk about if you have respect for your current partner if you choose to have sex with with a bunch of multiple partners then best thing for you to do is go get tested for STD's for yourself and for respect of your current partner
The importance of the number is dependant on female or male call me whatever that's just the way it is I have known this for many years and a few years ago read some info on it
Females get the 1000 cock stare I do remember that
"Females get the 1000 cock stare I do remember that" Its absolutely true, you can look at a woman and know she has banged tons of dudes. Looking older than her age, no glow on face, short hair, loss of feminity, masculine face and voice, these are some telltale signs that she's a slut.
Hungery_shark you da man
More than 10 is too much for me
I personally don't want to know, unless I find out I'm not getting your best. Then I'll be pissed., and I'd tell you to go fuck yourself. Lol.
In short the more bodies you have, the better you better be. Lol
My only concern would be if your left with any STDs I need to know of.
Who cares at all about any of these sexual questions, like seriously, who cares about what our "society" thinks, society is just made up of brainwashed sheep and fools. I don't follow society nor do I care about it.
there are no such things as too many !
lol... someone... be hooking mad peeps up...
I've only slept with two people, but the first I don't really consider because I pulled out after two minutes after realizing that I regretted it. My last sexual partner was two years ago, I'd like to meet a girl who has had a similar past. Less than five for sure. If I had more sex maybe by opinion would change. But I view sex as an emotional thing and not a physical thing, so I'm not in the majority.
Definitely not a fan of promiscuity, that's what you want to do then fine, but no way I'm going to respect you for it.
Sex is a meaningful and symbolic thing to me so if you don't wait for marriage then, I'm sorry, you messed up. 2 or more is too much for me.
Proud of you bro, I'm with you on this.
Listen now 90.4... rj shanto.. he needs a woman, shy guy too little to find one of his type. Check out if he is blessed enough to date u.
Actually for any age I think 100 is a lot!
Other than people thinking you could have a possible std, I don't think sexual history matters.
As long as she has no STD
She wants to be with me,
She does not cheats on me, (if she meets someone new and she wants to shag him, just tell me before hand and get a hall pass from me)
and Ghosts from her past do not jump out on me, or on our relationship ,
i am good with the rest
even if she has shagged a 100 men before me..
Hall pass? Ffs cuck much?
@johnboymuscles i have a different perception, keeping agreement of HALL PASS will persuade her to be honest with me.. so i have a clear record.. this way.. if she asks for more HALL PASS i will know we are done.. at least i will not suffer cheating... and i will leave her.. also i do not think i own the girl. she is an individual.. and has her own life..
Well if you leave her its not a hall pass. Is it?
@johnboymuscles It is a hall pass, but i will decide and keep a ratio of the times sex we both have (initiated by her) and the number of hall pass she asks for.. this will help me realise, that when it is time to leave.. if she takes like 1 Hall pass every yr.. and shags me every week , then i am good.. besides,, i did not explain the details above, i intend on giving her 9 extra rings, except the wedding ring, those will be the HALL PASS Rings, after every HALL PASS she takes she gives me one, and i return her 1 ring back after HALL PASS i get... this way if one of us is taking more HALL PASS then another and RUNS out of the HALL PASS rings , they can return the Wedding ring. And end the marriage..
@johnboymuscles i thought the whole idea through, i was thinking of writing it as part of one chapter of the novel i was working on..
Strange are folk these days i must say. Quite some fantasy you got there
@johnboymuscles not fantasy, a simple break bridge to overcome and infinite conditional loop mechanism to get an end result to a program.. called marriage.. if you can get a fixed set of variables instead of infinite set of variables..
You autistic?
@johnboymuscles i never took a test or consulted, i know my brain is a bag of cats..
@johnboymuscles so i looked up what Autistic being is , and you are actually onto something, i maybe am Autistic, i have all the signs, and the symptoms they said are somethings that i suppress about myself..
I've lost count. Definetly more girls then guys since I'm bi. But I never judge. Why would I care what anyone does with their time and body?
I don't judge.
Why would there be a "too many" ?
One a day from age 13? (I think Asker should expand the range of starting dates some.) I think it's a question of whether you want, expect, or hope to settle down with the person; are they likely to be faithful to you? If someone's never stuck with a partner for more than a few weeks, there's a good chance they're not going to stick with you. If it's just someone you know or work with, it's no problem at all unless they harass someone.
People who say they don't judge by number are kidding themselves. Idc if you're a man or woman; if you've had more than 50 partners, you need to learn how to keep your pants on.