She said she loves me during sex. I tried to bring it up after sex but she just shut it down. What was that about?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys.
I met this girl off tinder afew months ago. We only met up 5 months later because she started dating someone. Long story short, she and I started having sex. Its happened about 6 times. She broke up with her boyfriend but last night. It wasn't like our usual sex. It felt more intimate. She kissed me more. Stroked touched me more. It lasted longer. And before she came. She looked me in the eyes and told me she loved me. I tried to bring it up after sex but she just shut it down. What was that about?

[Dongtai]

Some people’s emotions spike during sex. That “love” feeling shoots up. I have a rule that if I say it during sex don’t take it seriously unless I’ve said it outside of the bedroom where intimacy played no role in the confession.

I will say that the feeling doesn’t just “pop” up. It gets amplified. It has to already be there in order for it to grow. I’m not going to tell a woman I love her if I don’t have any sort of affection for her. Like becomes love.

She feels “something” for you. It just might not be love or she may not be ready to embrace her own feelings.

[JPrez]

Sex is the one act where emotion rules both men and women. Typically we men are logic based and women are more emotionally based but usually not where sex is concerned. It can bring feelings to the surface that someone normally might hide. As many have mentioned, it could be legit or it could be that she was picturing her ex while being with you. Or it was so good, she just carried away. You guys are going to have to spend time together doing other things beside sex and then you can get a true gauge of what her feelings are. Don't push for now and wait.

[AllieOops]

What do you expect from someone you met on a hook up site? It was just sex for her. Lots of people talk pillow talk but that doesn't mean much. It is just something that was spur of the moment and sounded like a good thing to say at the time. After sex was over it was back to normal. Don't let it get you all bothered either way. If you want a quality and long lasting relationship it isn't going to happen from a hook up site. I'm still trying to figure out your reason for looking on Tinder.

Really?

[theronaldmcdonald]

Plenty of people say it during sex when they don’t genuinely mean it. Sex be weird like that sometimes. If you are asking because you want something more, talk to her.

[djmzes]

Simple

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

She probably just loved having sex with you or she was just feeling really vulnerable after breaking up and it was a slip.

[DizzyDesii]

SHe was in the moment, reboundin... sucks

[MrNameless]

It's hard to say. There's a lot of context I don't know about, like how often you guys talk and the quality of conversations outside of sex.

There are people that say it during sex and don't mean it, or maybe she has feelings but she doesn't know/can't confirm if she actually loves you. She likely still has some feelings for her boyfriend.

I'd honestly not overthink this one and not ask again. What exactly do you expect out of this relationship?

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't believe anything that anyone says when their pants are on the floor!

Seriously, she is probably a very guarded person who would not usually reveal "I love you" very quickly, but it "slipped out" in the heat of the moment.

[Unit1]

Sounds to me more like she loved the sex and not him.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, when pants are on the floor, "love" and "lust" often get used interchangeably.

[Unit1]

What about toilet times? The pants are on the floor and a businessman/businesswoman has suddenly a call. 😂😁

[OlderAndWiser]

I think you understood the context of my comment! 😃😃😃

[Unit1]

You know me. Germans always make sure ;)

[BlackViking357]

Based off of what I read, I don't think she meant it. She was basically caught in a moment. And the fact she broke up her ex, she was definitely feeling it, Mr. Krabs.

[SarahsSummer]

How did you “try to bring it up”? That could’ve put her in an awkward position to respond. You’re best approach would be to just share your feelings. Like you said above that you felt last night was different, more intimate.

[Lstratt1984]

She's a closet nympho... don't get attached

[spartan55]

Did you give her the return "I love you?"

[Truthatanycost]

When will any of you guys learn? I'm not sure what it will take. Firstly anything said during sex might as well be coming from a drunk individual. And secondly why are you going this in quarantine?

Wise up and stop letting your urges dictate your life.

[Blubby1234]

Never trust it if the first time the person says it is during sex

[LoU_Hades]

Talk is cheap. If she behaves like she loves you, she does. If she tells you daily "I love you" twenty times but you have the feel you're only in bedroom welcome, you aren't someone special for her.

[Finchie40]

You were her rebound so her I love you was just pillow talk you fucked her good. But she is still dealing with having her ex on her mind , be careful with that one, still fuck her but let her come to you don’t keep questioning her whether she loves you or not wait til she says it when you aren’t having sex , and when she does then question her and say are you sure cuz saying I love you is deep and I know I was your rebound , just play it cool and let her come to you

[Alice2398]

Well firstly not what i call social distancing and secondly this is why you shouldn't do casual hook ups

[Alex_andrine]

It's meaning something only if your penis is not in her vagina when she mention it.

[0112358]

Does “bring it up” mean “tell her how you feel creating a space where she could be honest” or “interrogated her asking what she meant”

[Apope16]

Never ask a woman about love. Let her bring it up to you first. Women lovevto feel free during sex. Even to express love. Give her that freedom to do that. But dont bring it up. Its likely a fantasy but a secret desire. Let her moan how much she loves you when she orgasms. It releases a bonding chemical called oxytocin. Soon she will realize she's in love. but never pressure her or bring it up.

[CAT80]

The Anons are correct, Yu should tell her you love her, if you do. Because she might be insecure.

[Stonernights]

She might love you, might not. But it's nice to say when you're having sex, even if she doesn't really love you it probably felt good to say it then.

[Laozi]

Maybe it's just heat of the moment or she doesn't want to express her feelings to you but at that moment she did and later was ashamed of herself so she didn't say anything.