Should a mom still masturbate?

Question

My husband is good in bed and we have a great relationship but sometimes I still feel the urge to masturbate. I usually just tell myself to act like a grownup and control myself until hubby is back around. Is it normal to have kids and a job and a marriage and still feel desires to do that?

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

many people have needs that sometimes their partner. can't help to control/maintain or is not around to help control/maintain.

if you happen to find yourself with some alone time. and your partner is not willing or able to help. then masturbation once in a while on a small scale is fine. just be careful you don't do it more solo. over doing it with your partner when their available to help.

also try not to do with with a third person either. as that can become troublesome for a relationship typically.

side note - they make do it yourself kits for home use. that let you make a toy modeled after your male partners penis. so that you can pleasure yourself with that. instead of making him feel indifferent about you getting something else to use. also he can use it on you during sex together for double penetration effect. without needing to included a third person.

Being_a_good_Indian · Accepted Answer

Masturbating is a normal activity for any individual, irrespective of their gender, sexuality, or marital status. It is absolutely okay for married men and women to masturbate.

However, this does not mean that their partner is not satisfying them or they are sexually unhappy. Sometimes, masturbating is just something that people like to do even when their sex lives are great. There are couples who often masturbate together as well.

If you think that there is still something amiss, then talk to your husband about it very honestly. Here, communication is key.

Remember, that it is okay for married people to indulge in masturbation because sometimes it is just something that they want. It is not about you being bad or them being sexually unhappy.

I hope this helps. If you wish to discuss things further feel free to ask. Any queries? 😊

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

YES!!

Women often need more sex release than men.

Esp if you have a family, stress, and hubby is not home when you need him, or like me, after sex, i often still need MORE..

My hubby and me talked about my Needs and he bought me a really nice Hitatchi Back Ball massager that is AMAZING for Jilling. He uses it before and after sex if I need more..

and he is kewl with me using it on my own if I need more..

Better than me having a lover or friends with benefits...

laPrincesitaRoxi · Accepted Answer

Girl YES
Masturbating is normal and you no one in a relationship should feel like they can indulge in something so natural because of a relationship. This isn’t cheating or cheating your man of good sex lol you will be just fine but don’t use a vibrator because you could loose feeling down there using it too much and than it will definitely causing problems when you do want to have sex.

Justacatlady · Answer

Heck yeah it’s normal. Sometimes you just want a quick release without all the build up and worry about another person. It doesn’t take away from your partner. It’s just a personal bit of fun

NamerOfStars · Answer

Well, the desire to do that is  why  you had kids, so I'd say yes. Now, is this a desire to masturbate, specifically, or just to get off when hubby's unavailable? Sometimes you don't want to go through all the motions of sex and just want an orgasm; that's natural. And sometimes you don't get a chance to get together with work and such (I don't have kids, but I did used to be one, and I remember just what a disruption I could be). If it's not getting in the way of the sex you do have, and he's not bothered by it, you're probably okay.

Claireluvskaren · Answer

Why the heck not, my mom is in her mid 70s and still masturbates, and has SEX with my dad. Shocking I know, but masturbation is part of life. Be it pre or post parenthood.

Zannika02 · Answer

Think it's natural... I never get offended if my dude masturbates long as he comes to me still... I still enjoy masterbating in a relationship

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Would you be less available to your husband if you masturbated more frequently? If it interferes with the sexual relationship with your husband, it is a problem. If you can fuck yourself silly every day and still keep him satisfied, I don't see it as an issue. Some relationships have partners with mismatched libidos. Taking care of a higher driver with masturbation is a normal and healthy response.

Red_Arrow · Answer

Yes, if she feels the desire. It is wonderful that you have a full life yet still have sexual urges at times your partner is not available, or even if he is available, his sexual drive may not be as strong as yours. So find time and place and take care of yourself!

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

As long as you don't add malice, go for it.

TonyV · Answer

Yes that fine, I'm sure hubby loves to be included but there's nothing wrong with any masturbation

AndyOh · Answer

Sure, why not.  I believe it gets you back in touch with yourself (pardon the pun); seriously, you need to know how you feel. Plus getting off on your own is a great tension release.

SphynxUK · Answer

What has a job and kids got to do with your sex life? Sounds as if you are asking for permission to touch your own bloody body!

DrippingHoney · Answer

I know my mom still does 😂

slatyb · Answer

Of course.

wankiam · Answer

perfectly normal and you shouldn't feel bad about it at all

jkm1864 · Answer

You should save it for Your husband because the major thing all men bitch about is how a woman's sex drive goes to shit as She gets older. So show Him that You love Him and the minute He walks in the door drag Him to the bedroom and rip off His clothes and go to town on Him.

Amraam · Answer

masturbation is not a substitute for sex. if you want, if you crave you should do it. masturbating doesn't mean the sex is bad or insufficient

Shani546 · Answer

Lol I can't see why not, We definitely don't want to hear

Dargil · Answer

Yes. Develop a strategy and keep it completely confidential. So long as it does not interfere with your sexual relationship with your husband, your children or your work, it is, at the minimum, harmless and will likely be beneficial to your peace of mind.