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Sexual Health Should I be concerned that my boyfriend is secretly watching homemade porn that is not of me?
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I recently found out my boyfriend has been secretly watching homemade porn (of him and women from his past) on his old laptop? I was cleaning and found a laptop that wasn’t familiar so I looked through it and found it. I asked him about it and he admitted it. Should I be concerned?
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So. Maybe I should clarify, that the pictures were with a fling he had in the past (she knew about it because we did a threesome together lol) and the videos were of me, and YES I did know I was being recorded. You all are nuts in the comments! Lol! Oh, and for everyone calling me a snoop because I found an unknown laptop in MY APARTMENT can fuck off 😚😚😚
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What Girls & Guys Said
18 42I don't know should you be concerned, you know him best. But it doesn't mean that wanking on his old girlfriend means something to him. He just probably gets off seeing himself fucking someone. Why don't you make your own sex tape? So he can watch that?
Not really nothing wrong with a little window shopping
Maybe he's seeking inspiration to add to his sex, life with you
Wow thats a lot to take in
A lot goes on in the world lolol.
I mean that could be weird
Honestly as long as a partner keeps you satisfied, i see no problem with having side chicks. I mean, men usually have higher sex drive than women.
No not at all practice good ideas what to do with your partner next turn
Nothing is odd, actually he use to remember his past time through these vedios
Good luck to you, with your response, when some said you were snooping! Guilty, much?
If I found out, and knew you did that, Bye Bye! A relationship cannot survive if there is no trust, and you seem totally untrustworthy!!
What? You’re surprised?
His computer wasn't password protected? I guess he wanted you to find it.
Right
It was password protected.
You people just think you have it allllll figured out huh? Lol. 🤦♀️
I guess he is reminiscing but he is with you but likes variety I guess
Do you have mental fantasy?
You boyfriend has visual fantasies because he is a male and it's 10000000000% normal for him to have those. SO if you are concerned, it's because you are controlling and thinking like a female who compares herself to other women. Men do NOT compare you to other women.
Just like you can jerk off to the idea of some other male from a story or something else. (the most common female fantasy is being forced by a stranger to have sex)
Also... don't snoop. It's controlling behaviour.
No. The sex was probably way better so let him look
Just make some of your own homemade porn
I’ve brought this up before and he acts shy about it.
No I mean make some with someone else.
The only way I can look at this is to try to put myself in your shoes and empathize.
If I had a girlfriend and she was watching old videos of her getting fucked by ex boyfriends it would bother me.
Especially if they had something that I don't.
I would feel like shit about myself.
Especially if she isn't as interested in sex with me anymore.
I would feel insecure and undervalued.
I understand that, but could you answer my question? Should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I have a very active and healthy sex life, so I feel conflicted.
What do you want in a partner? That's the question you need to ask yourself. If what he's doing bothers you then you need to put your foot down or leave. I can't tell you whether he will cheat again or not? He's definitely going to do as much as he can get away with obviously. He fantasizes and enjoys the memories of those other experiences. Does that bother you or not? You can only control what you do. Don't try to predict his bullshit.